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Screen Test

2012-02-10T11:02:00.000-08:00

Last weekend Cora and I decided to 'experiment' with our new video camera and the accessories we have to go with it. This new camera (a Canon M-40) is really easy to use.

We set up in our living room area and even used our main TV to 'monitor' what the camera was seeing. The natural light worked really great and I even had to reduce the exposure just a tad. Cora sat on our couch and we planned to try some OTK shots. We shot a total of five 'takes'. Needless to say, at the end of the fifth take, I was sporting a rather red bottom. In addition, watching herself spanking me, Cora found that it looked better if she spanked harder. The 'end' result was that I was left with quite a glow from my stinging bottom. Oh well, small sacrifice for 'Hollywood North'!

Besides the new camera, I have been learning a new video editor (Apple's Final Cut Express). And after I had manipulated the video, Cora and I found that we really liked the results. Cora especially liked the fourth 'take'.

So even though we had no plans to publish it, here it is. And if you wish to see it in full HD, don't forget to click on the 'HD button' that appears below the video towards the right side. And if you want to see it in 'full screen', just drop over to 'SpankingTube' which is were the original has been uploaded.

New Toys and a Spanking

2012-02-04T18:17:00.000-08:00

I have mentioned Dana Kane's blog several times. She writes a really good blog, has done some amazing videos and has assisted us in some 'behind the scene' technical help.

One of Ms. Kane's videos featured a OTK rug beater that is offered by 'Cane-Iac'. When I showed this video to Cora she said, "Get one!" So I hopped onto the Cane-Iac site and located the OTK rug beater. Sadly, they were out of stock on this item. Apparently, Ms. Kane's video had quite an 'impact' on their supply. (Note: since then they have restocked and Cora now has one. More on that later).

So, I decided to 'surf' through the site and found some really cool items. One was a 5 minute hour glass. I guess technically you would call it a 1/12 Hour Glass. :-)

Funny thing, it was only a few days prior to this that we had visited an antique 'mall' near us. They had a 3 minute egg timer style hour glass but it was very small. I mentioned to Cora that I thought it would be cool to find an hour glass to go along with some of our 'play'.

That was a couple of weeks ago. Fast forward to this morning. Now, I know that many of the male readers probably do a bit of 'web-surfing'. There is a plethora of FLR things available and I have to admit that I love 'looking around', too. I don't keep any secrets from Cora and she encourages my time on the computer. After all, she has gotten many ideas as a result.

I always get up before Cora. I usually let the pups out, feed them, turn on the espresso machine and then turn on the computer. This morning, Cora came down earlier than normal and I could tell her mood was 'playful'.

"What are you doing!", she called out. "Um, er, nothing. Just getting the espresso machine going".

"Sure!", she exclaimed and headed to my laptop. She inspected what was on the computer screen and announced, "You are getting a spanking, later!".

What else could I respond except, "Yes, Ma'am". I then proceeded to make one of my special espresso concoctions: an Almond Joy - espresso combination. One of the coffee creamer companies has just produced an Almond Joy flavored coffee creamer. I microwave 2 ounces of this and add it to a double shot of espresso. On top of that I add whipped cream from a can. She absolutely loves this. This morning she requested a second.

So, with a good coffee-sugar buzz, Cora was not only in a good mood but her energy level was doing quite well.

We adjourned to the bedroom to prepare for the day. Cora likes to make our bed 'just so' and had completed her task. She then layed out two pillows near the foot of the bed. "Over", she instructed. I positioned myself along the foot of the bed presenting my bare bottom for whatever she had in mind. This was the very first time she had positioned me in this manner. I was wondering what she had in mind.

Cora then proceeded to attend to a few other things while I lay there waiting. "I will be right back", I announced and headed to the kitchen. I then retrieved our new 'hour' glass and returned to the bedroom. "Good idea!", Cora exclaimed. I then returned to my original position over the pillows. Cora then grabbed a couple of items from her bedroom 'Rack', turned over the hour glass and proceeded to administer the spanking that she had promised earlier.

Cora's 'Bedroom Rack'

So, for five minutes I was being spanked by most of the implements on her rack. In fact partway through, she went into her dresser and retrieved a second hairbrush and proceed to spank me two-handed. Wow! That was an amazing sensation and really got my attention. She concluded her session by pulling out her purpleheart 'purse paddle' and gave me several strokes from it. It has been quite some time since she has used her purse paddle and I had forgotten how intense that little paddle (8 inches long) could be. Finally, the sand ran out of the hour glass. However Cora kept going for at least another half minute or so.

When it was over, I was left with a very nice glow. That must have been 6 or 7 hours ago and I still have one of those really nice 'afterglows'. I think I will be reminded of my spanking for quite some time.

It was a really nice spanking from Cora and I am glad I got 'caught'. Oh, and that implement on the far left of Cora's bedroom 'Rack' is another implement that we purchased from Cane-Iac. Its a purpleheart 'Bottom Burner' and is very well named. Cora loves purpleheart and decided she wanted me to get one for her. Who am I not to comply? Anyway, the 'Bottom Burner' will probable be the source of another post, along with several other items we have obtained from them. They provide some really nice items and are very reasonably priced. I have added them to the list of resources on the blog.

Ma'am, Yes Ma'am is Back!!!

2012-01-29T11:59:00.000-08:00

It didn't take WdSpoone long to get back into the blogosphere. He has quickly set things up and 'back on the air' although on a different blog host. Rather than repeat what he has to say, I would refer you to his blog where he explains what happened.

Here is his new URL:

http://maamyesmaam.wordpress.com/

I have updated the link to it on our list of blogs, too.

There has been quite a number of posts about his blog and we are all wondering if Censorship is something that will haunt more of us. I think the best thing is to keep in touch through whatever means necessary. We have a very strong community and the Ma'am, Yes Ma'am issue illustrates just how tight our community is, and how we come together when these things happen.

Cora Celebrates the Return of Ma'am, Yes Ma'am!

What Happened to 'Ma'am, Yes Ma'am'

2012-01-27T18:55:00.000-08:00

The blogosphere has been alive with posts about the 'disappearance' of one of our favorite blogs, 'Ma'am, Yes Ma'am'. The author of this blog, WdSpoone is one of the cornerstones of Female Led Relationship blogs and has inspired almost all of us who have followed. We are No exception. I have chatted with WdSpoone on several times and he has been generous with suggestions and guidance. Very Generous.

Today, a message appeared on his Yahoo Group (Spanking female male) that indicated that he did not remove his blog but instead 'rather it has been "removed" apparently by Google without my knowledge or consent.'

I have tried to stay out of the political sphere but my reaction to this news is that it is OUTRAGEOUS. Of course there is no recourse to the gods at Google or Yahoo. I myself, had an account at 'flickr' cancelled with very little notice and for reasons that seemed very insignificant, at best. I made an assumption that someone made a complaint and that was that. I have no specific information but why would anyone object to Women being in control. (Well, that's rhetorical but I think you know the answer).

So stay tuned. Will there be a mass cancellation of Female Led Relationship blogs? Perhaps. But I hope someone has a suggestion of a sex-positive, Female Friendly host that we might consider moving our blogs to.

I know that many of my fellow bloggers read our blog and I would ask that you e-Mail us as a way to keep in touch. Maybe I am being afraid of Black Helicopters, or Dick Cheney, but I think it would be good to establish a base in the event that we are under some kind of attack.

I just can't imagine why WdSpoone's blog has been the target of some kind of evil conspiracy. But without a reason given, my own mind is running wild.

Ken and Cora
(SpankedbyWife(at)Yahoo(dot)Com

A Magickal Night with another FLR Couple

2012-01-18T18:34:00.000-08:00

While there is a considerable number of couples following of the FLR lifestyle as evidenced by the number of blogs, comments and e-Mails, unfortunately we don't get much of a chance to have face to face meetings with them.

Last April Cora and I did meet with another FLR couple. We had a wonderful time and it was at that time that I experienced the fulfillment of one of my biggest fantasies - a Double Lap Spanking!

Saturday night, we hosted them again. While they have established a FLR lifestyle, she has perhaps not been comfortable with aspects of disciplining him. Sound familiar?

Cora Showing Her Cropping Technique

Well, Cora just never ceases to amaze me. Saturday night Cora became 'Super Mentor' and proceeded to take charge of the evening, demonstrating FLR, Cora style. I think she has achieved a level of comfort with the discipline aspects of FLR that she may not have had before. I could see the energy sparks between Cora and her as Cora showed her 'the ropes'. I am sure that he felt those sparks as she was laying it on pretty hard. Later he shared with me that she has never disciplined him quite that hard but that he loved it.

Cora Demonstrating Her Rack

Recent posts have addressed the subject of wives providing the needs of their husbands in the form of firm, strict discipline which they may be reluctant to provide. Of course there are many benefits the wives get from a FLR too. But one benefit that perhaps gets lost is the joy of actually applying the paddle (or instrument of choice) to their husbands. I know that Cora often expresses an euphoric feeling when she spanks me, and I think that Cora was not the only one feeling the same thing last night. Perhaps for the first time.

A Capable Disciplinarian

It was fun watching things develop last night and we even gave them one of the Spencer Paddles I have made. Since Saturday's meeting we have been in contact with them and it sounds like we will be getting together soon. One of the suggestions from them as a night of 'Spanking and a Movie'. Cora and I both love the thought.

Men Are Really Very Simple Creatures - A Follow-Up

2012-01-11T13:19:00.000-08:00

Since our post three days ago, our hit counter has gone off the scale. Apparently there has been lots of interest in this subject. We feel that Ms. Clara's initial post and the comments that resulted were not only well put but important to the concept of a Female Led Relationship.

The idea of a Relationship led by the Female is basically what our blog is all about. We have been blogging almost two years and we have received quite a bit of input from many couples over the years both through e-Mail and through comments on our blog. Some have already been engaged in a FLR and are even at levels much deeper into that us, but we also receive input from many, usually the male parts of a relationship, where the Female is reluctant to 'engage'.

It is our hope that some of the exchanges in the previous post may spark some interest in those couples. In exchanges with many of you, one of the issues is whether 'normal' people engage in a FLR. A common thread for the couples who have responded to us has been a reflection upon our own relationship that we seem to be just common ordinary 'folks'; we could be your next door neighbor.

One of the tools that seemed to help was our 'Notice of Discipline' form. I am including a copy of that form. Based upon the feedback we have received many couples have had 'fun' with (well perhaps in some cases some 'serious fun). If you would like to have a copy, let me know by e-mail and I will send you a copy in Microsoft Word format. The blogger doesn't have the ability for me to post a file that you can download direct from the blog but this way I get an idea of how many are being requested and it often results in follow up messages on how the form worked.

In light of the large volume of hits (well over 5,000 since it was posted) we thought we would post a follow-up, hopefully to encourage more of you to comment. We would be especially interested in a situation where one of you shared the information in the post with your wife, and the result.

"Men Are Really Very Simple Creatures"

2012-01-08T20:23:00.000-08:00

So says Ms. Clara Hewitt on her blog in a post of January 8, 2012. Ms. Clara has only been blogging a few days but oh my does she know men. And what makes them (us) tick (and tock, too).

Ms. Clara is a 'Professional Disciplinarian'. I think she might better be described as a well informed psychologist. Her knowledge of both men and their wives is almost scary. And she has given me permission to quote her. Oh, and thats a picture of her from her blog (again, with permission) spanking one of her naughty boys. She does know how to get our attention, doesn't she?

Ms. Clara further says, "I think it's wonderful they're so easy to understand and keep happy. They need to be loved, fed and disciplined. That's really all there is to it."

Oh, I couldn't agree more. And part of that need to be loved actually encompasses the need to be disciplined. Ladies are you paying attention? The quote above is from a lady who is sought after by men who would love to be disciplined (spanked) by their wives. However, due to some kind of weird ideas, many wives don't understand. So why wouldn't your husbands seek out a woman who will spank them?

Ms. Clara continues, "Compare that to your average female, with her weirdly complex and conflicting needs! Genuinely, It makes me very sad that so many wives seem to fall down on the job, so their husbands feel they have to come to me to get the thrashings they desperately deserve. It's sad for the wives...."

Sad indeed. Ladies, are you reading this? Wouldn't you rather spank your own husband rather than have him secretly seek out the female discipline that he so desparetly needs????????

Then, Ms. Clara provides further insite, " ... training a man to perfection is easy and rewarding, and guarantees you loyalty for life."

Ladies, are you still paying attention? That's right, Loyalty for Life. Life!

And finally Ms. Clara provides more words of wisdom, "Women, it's your duty to show your husband how much you want to nurture, chastise and own him, whenever he needs it."

OK, I can't add to that. Its sooooooooooo true! Ladies, did you notice that word, "duty"?

Often I emphasize my opinion that one of the really good things is that the younger women have begun to figure this out. Another fairly new blog is Ms. Julie's 'Miss Julie Spanks'. She has discovered the many advantages to taking on so many of the things that Ms. Clara describes above. Her blog is one of my favorites and one of the reasons is that like Ms. Clara, she has figured it out. Here is what she added to Ms. Clara's post as a comment:

"I hate to criticize my own sex, but come on, ladies, really, how hard is it to dress a man in your bra and panties, and spank him silly? Such a small thing, it means so much to them, and I, for one, enjoy it immensely!"

"I try not to get on my soapbox too often but I couldn't resist. Ms. Clara along with Ms. Julie have provided some very, very insightful words of wisdom." Ms. Clara's post along with Ms. Julie's comment were inspiring, indeed (can't you tell?).

Guys, if you are like so many of us, needing your Lady to show her love through discipline of you, and want your lady to paddle your bottom, share this post with her. She won't be disappointed and even though you have have further trouble sitting in the future, you will be better men for it! At least thats my humble opinion.

Finally, I am often reminded how lucky I am. Cora already as these things figured out and knows what I need. In return I can't think of how I could love her more. Indeed, we are a very happy couple, at peace with each other and without some of those deep, dark secrets that I know so many of you have.

When I'm Sixty-Four

2012-01-06T12:17:00.000-08:00

Update (January 9, 2012)

There is a higher resolution version of the video just uploaded to

SpankingTube!

I first heard those words when the Beatles released their masterpiece LP (remember vinyl?) in 1967. At the time I was 19 years old. It seems like only yesterday.

A few days ago I turned 64, myself. Gosh, has time gone by that fast? Well, now I have had over 5 wonderful years with Cora. And they have been the best ones of my life. She is magnificent.

On the actual day of my birthday she did surprise me with a really nice spanking. That was described in the previous post. However at the end of that post, Cora told me that I was yet to receive my "birthday paddling".

Well that happened today. And its the subject of a new video thats attached here.

Cora and I have posted a short video previously and we had hopes of posting more videos. However it seems as though we never were able to get our energies together sufficiently to actually get something going.

Recently, we have been admiring the videos posted by Dana Kane. She is a delightful woman and her blog is listed in the blogs we follow on the right side of our blog. We would encourage you to check out her videos if you haven't already done so. In addition, I have mentioned James' videos on his blog, "Spankedmale", which is also listed. He posted a three-part video that was awesome.

Well, with the inspiration of Ms. Kane and James, I started doing some research into the purchase of a new video camera. And I found one that fulfilled my requirements (exceeded, actually) and was able to locate one at a local video store at a really, really good price. I won't go into the technical details but its a Canon M40.

So today, Cora dressed up and told me to get ready to make a movie. Oh and she also informed me that I was going to be paddled.

So here it is. The pix above are video-snaps from the movie. We had fun making it and we hope you have fun watching it.

Birthday Surprise!

2012-01-03T11:43:00.000-08:00

It was my birthday a couple of days ago. That morning I was doing my usual browsing the web and checking out some of the blogs (more on that exploration later).

Cora was upstairs and called out to me, "Come upstairs quick. I think there are bugs in the ceiling!" Naturally I arose to check it out expecting that I would be spending the morning crawling in the attic. Yuk! What a way to spend my birthday.

Instead, Cora greeted me in a very sexy panty girdle, tan stockings and white heels. She was holding a hairbrush and I knew that I had been 'had'.

Next, she hopped on the bed and spread her legs then instructed me, "Over my lap!" Naturally I complied.

For a while time seemed to stand still as she delivered one of the nicest spankings ever. She started with a hand spanking then proceeded to use the implements she had laid out ahead of time.

When she finally stopped I was under the influence of a really nice but intense 'glow'. Oh how Cora knows how to administer a spanking!

And what a Goddess Cora is. And what a birthday surprise she can deliver! "But wait, there's more", she said in her best TV advertisement voice. "You have yet to get your birthday paddling!"

Indeed, I have yet to get my birthday paddling but there may be another story when I do.

Oh, and by the way, I have added a new blog to the list of blogs we follow: Ms. Clara Hewitt. She just started it and says she has been a follower of Cora and I for quite some time. Her blog seems to be very much in the spirit of a Female Disciplinarian and if you like our blog, you are sure to like hers. Check it out and tell 'em Ken and Cora sent you.

Inspiration

2011-12-29T17:20:00.000-08:00

I have been exchanging e-Mails with James, who hosts the 'Spankedmale' blog, one of my favorites. We had been discussing some of the ways we had been introduced into the 'Wonderful World of Female Spankers'.

James spoke about an earlier experience he had and that there was a description of it in one of his first posts. Since its been a while since I had read some of these early posts, I decided to go back and take another look at them. And even though I have yet to read about the specific experience he was referring to, his sixth post really got my attention. Again. I did remember reading it previously. In it he describes a visit to a Lady quite early in his spanking 'career'. After the usual initial greetings, she had James stand beside her and proceeded with the ritual removal of the pants. He then went on to describe:

"She pushed her dress and slip back off her lap, and I was able to see the top of her stockings, and the tabs from her girdle that held them in place."

Anyone who has read our blog knows that I am absolutely captivated by a woman wearing a girdle, stockings and that Cora loves to wear them (Lucky me!). I guess its a product of the time I grew up in that lends itself to my attraction to a woman dressed this way.

At about the same time I was reading James' blog (well, re-reading, actually), Cora announced that she wanted to go out and about and that she would even wear one of her girdles. Well, this coincidence was almost too good to be true. Naturally I complied with Cora's wishes and out we went. Cora looked her usual elegant and well, ... just HOT!

I had shared James' e-Mail with Cora and when we returned home I asked if she would like to re-create James' scenario. "Sure", she replied. After all she was already dressed and all she had to do was lift her skirt, take me over her knee and spank me good and hard. Needless to say, she did, but not before I was able to snap a few quick pictures.

James, thanks for the inspiration, but oh how Cora can spank with that hairbrush!

Shopping with Dogs

2011-12-22T18:01:00.000-08:00

We recently heard of objections to shopping with your dog. Well, Cora and I are very proud of our dogs and in so many ways they are our best friends. And we love to go shopping with them. Here in West Seattle, they are not only welcome in many of the stores here but many of the store owners know them by name - all three of them.

So while this may be a little 'off topic', Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays (Yule is already past) from all five of us.

Cora, Ken, Gypsy, Devi, and Vixen
(Way to go, Rex!)

Pegging: A Follow Up

2011-12-20T15:57:00.000-08:00

We certainly didn't expect to get as many comments from our previous post on 'Pegging'. However, we did receive lots of comments (we love them) and rather than just post another comment, we decided to post a follow up.

First, thanks to Joey, SometimesSpanked and Dana who recognized the fact that pegging is an activity that we might be reluctant to share. Again, Red's poll helped and we do try to keep our posts in the spirit of a 'Female Led Relationship'. I guess that worked!

Second, it was a surprise to hear that not all the men who engage in this activity are 'submissive'. As Bogey from 'Our Bottoms Burn' asked: Can you be 'Apha' and enjoy pegging? Apparently, the answer is 'Yes'. However, as indicated by Harry, there is a definite 'power exchange'. This concept of a power exchange was also mentioned by Rob. We both believe that the power exchange in a Pegging Scenario is awesome. Thanks for the enlightening comments. We had no idea.

It is interesting to note that I, like James, find that our Ladies like to peg us only occasionally. I think James would agree with me that we'd really like them to 'Take' us more often.

And speaking of the Ladies. Two of the comments came from women. Mistress Aimee spoke of pegging as lovely and totally erotic and not a form of 'punishment'. We do agree and as Ms. Deirdre so eloquently said, its an erotic act of my submission to Cora and an erotic act of her dominance over me. Dana also mentioned this same concept.

And Ms. Julie: You never cease to amaze us. No, Cora doesn't require me to get down on my knees and take it in the mouth. However, Cora hadn't really thought of doing that either. At least not until you suggested it. And I might make a humble observation: The younger generation of women who engage in FLR's with their men, seem to be much more likely to try new and incredibly creative ideas that their deliciously devious minds seem to keep coming up with. This is a theme that seems to be common among many of the blogs written by the women. We think its great and can only think of how lucky their men are, to be part of this trend.

One last thing; thanks for all the wonderful comments about Cora's pix. Of course, she loves to hear all the complements. We were both wondering how the photos of her strap on would be received. We were certainly not disappointed. By the way, Cora loves the harness she chose. Its a 'Joque' model from SpareParts. Cora has found this particular harness to be very comfortable and she loves the adjustability. Also, I think what's mounted in her harness is the 'Mistress'. Indeed, its well named!

Pegging

2011-12-17T18:44:00.000-08:00

Human sexuality is an amazing thing and the subject of lots and lots of books, articles, movies and discussion between those of us affected by sexuality (that would be all of us). There is a rainbow of orientations and I feel that I am no exception: I am a submissive male. And proud that I know that about myself.
I guess I was lucky to grow up in an environment devoid of guilt about sexuality. So, I came to terms with my orientation early and have learned to enjoy (and exploit) it. So, it should be no surprise that I shared my submissive nature with Cora early in our relationship. My relationship with her is very rich and I believe we satisfy each other's needs in so many ways (not just the sexual needs, although we do a pretty good job there).

It was Deirdre of the 'Spanking My Husband' blog (sadly currently inactive) who came up with a piece of wisdom that really stuck with me and I like to refer to it often. Some of the things I do with Cora might be labeled by others as 'humiliation'. However, I really don't like that word or its inherent implication. Instead, I like to think that when I bend over and present my bottom to Cora for a spanking, its an 'erotic act of my submission to her'. I like that concept much better and it does better describe where my 'head' is at.

Many of you are familiar with our 'Notice of Discipline' and I have sent dozens of the original Microsoft Word file to many of you. And its great to get the feedback on how well they have been received and even put to use.

However, one thing I thought I would get questions about was the little item under 'Discipline Recommendation(s)': Pegging.

Fellow blogger, Red over at 'Consensual Spanking', posted about this subject on November 30, 2011. He got quite a bit of response and opened a poll. The results of this poll is what made me feel much more comfortable about our own posting about this subject. An admission that Cora has pegged me, too.

Red's poll (updated per December 17, 2011) currently shows 231 responses with 92 responders admitting that they had been pegged by their partners and 106 indicating that they had not been pegged but were interested. That's almost 86% of responders indicating that they either had been or were open to the idea of being pegged. Only 14 % indicated that they were not interested. Wow! I had no idea that Red's poll would be so overwhelmingly open to this subject.

In case you weren't aware, 'Pegging' is a term that was coined by a local columnist in the Seattle newspaper, 'The Stranger'. And, if you don't know, 'Pegging' refers to being 'taken' by your Lady while she is wearing a 'Strap-On'. There is an excellent description on 'Wikipedia'. Just enter 'Pegging' into your search engine and you should easily find it.

So, I finally decided to 'come out of the closet' and admit that Pegging is a practice that Cora uses on me. I have been reluctant to admit that we engage in it, but with the numbers from Red's poll, I decided to post about it. Some connect this practice with homosexuality, but I can assure you, I am as heterosexual as they come. (Not that I have anything against our homosexual brothers and sisters; in fact both Cora and I have several homosexual friends and embrace their sexuality, as well as our own).

While we don't really use Pegging as a form of 'punishment', it certainly fulfills Ms. Deirdre's definition: I am feeling very submissive to Cora when she is 'taking me' but its a very erotic experience and feeling. Erotic, indeed.

There is so much more that could be discussed about this and Cora and I would be willing to share some of our experiences, preferences for 'tools' and even some 'educational' material, but we thought we'd see the initial response.

What do you think?????????

Update:

The above was written at the beginning of December (with the exception of the updates to Red's poll data). However, as most of you know, we like to include pictures that help illustrate the subject of the post. In this case, we had nothing in our 'archives' that would be appropriate. So we planned on taking some pictures that would show Cora in her Strap-on harness with the dildo 'mounted' accordingly.

Well, sometimes the best laid plans get delayed and this was no exception. So finally earlier this evening after returning from a little shopping, Cora instructed me to 'stay downstairs'. She had something planned.

So I occupied myself with some computer geek stuff and waited. Soon I heard Cora come down the stairs and slip into the living room of our house. As the lights on the stairs were dark I did not see her. Soon, however, I heard her beckon me, "Come in here."

Much to my surprise, Cora had dressed up in one of her all-in-one girdles, stockings and boots. In addition, she had donned her strap-on harness, a red dildo and trimmed everything in garland and a battery powered set of Holiday lights. She topped it all off with a Santa hat. I laughed out loud.

"Lets take some pictures", she said, smiling. So out came the camera and you can see some of the results. I must say that Cora's creativity NEVER ceases to amaze me. I have no idea where she comes up with these zany concoctions but I am so thankful that she does. Getting her in front of a camera is always an adventure. Oh, how I love her!

Cora and Her Electric, Holiday Dildo

So Happy Holidays to you all. And for the gentlemen who read this Cora has this advice:

"Be Good or Else!"

The Classic Over The Knee Position

2011-12-05T17:37:00.000-08:00

In the past few days I have been sort of 'obsessing' about spanking positions. I don't remember much about spankings during my early years and my parents didn't really use spanking as a form of correction during the years of my youth. So my main exposure to spanking was in the school system. My most memorable times were from my fourth, fifth and sixth grade teachers, which spanned the years 1957 though 1960. Paddling was the standard and as a student was considered the 'ultament' punishment. Naturally I was fascinated by the prospect of being paddled in front of my classmates, especially from the female authority figures represented by my fourth, fifth and sixth grade teachers.

Actually, I was a 'model' student, got good grades, did my schoolwork as requested and for the most part stayed out of trouble. So much so that I never had the opportunity to experience the sting of the paddle being administered by one of my female teachers. Looking back, its something that fills many hours of fantasies of re-doing several scenarios from my time in class.

The words, "Bend over and grab your ankles" was the instruction my teachers would use when they found it necessary to apply discipline to a naughty classmate, almost exclusively males. I would watch with wide eyes as the teacher would make her paddle sing with a staccato 'pop'. It was usually over in 5 or 6 swats but left quite an impression on me.

So it is probably no surprise that this position was something that filled many of my early fantasies. I would visualize for years being instructed to bend over and grab my ankles prior to a powerful woman applying her paddle to my exposed backside.

However, I think that it has been since I have been with Cora that one of my favored positions is now the classic 'Over The Knee' position. I am not sure why things have changed. Perhaps its the maternal-ness of it. Perhaps I missed out in my young years by not having spanked over my own mother's knee. Perhaps its partly a result of reading stories where this position is utilized along with the plethora of OTK pictures on the net. Don't get me wrong, Cora still has me 'bend over' for a strong application of her many paddles and I still find this position 'enjoyable', probably partly to my remininces of my grade school years.

I think that part of my attraction to the OTK position is the overall ritual of it. First, there is the 'sentencing' portion where I have been informed that I am to be spanked for some kind of mis-behavior. Once the time and place of the spanking has been determined, she first will place a straigh backed chair in position. She then sits down and calls me to her right side (Cora is right handed). She then prepares the spanking surface by un-doing my pants and having them drop to my ankles. This is followed by any underwear that I may be wearing.

Once the initial preparations have been made follows one of the best parts of the ritual; the lifting of her skirts (assuming she is wearing skirts). The lap that is then exposed, whether its clad in stockings, or bare, is a memorable sight even if it is all so brief.

Next is the firm nudge that send that unspoken message, "bend over, you are about to be spanked". Once in place there is a moment of total submission. My bottom is bared and in position to be spanked and there is some very intimate contact. Depending on the situation, she may clamp certain 'parts' between her legs (this may vary depending on your gender, of course).

Then the spanking begins. I truly believe the perfect implement for an OTK spanking is the hairbrush. A full sized paddle is just too awkward to administer a 'proper' spanking and a smaller paddle may be too light. A hairbrush weighs in with sufficient weight that its impact will definitely be noticed. In addition, Cora has gotten really good with just her hand. When I am spanked in this position, she often switches between her hand and her hairbrush.

Thus ends the ritual when she decides that I have been spanked sufficiently. What is it about this ritual? To me overall, its the 'erotic act of my submission to Cora's dominance'. Being in this position of vulnerability has so many elements of 'erotic submission' that my head is overflowing with submissive energy. Even if its a 'punishment' spanking, all the elements are there. It brings me back to my grade school years, except this time, I am actually spanked.

Just prior to writing this post, I asked Cora to spank me in exactly the manner listed above. She did and I was able to confirm my feelings about all the elements of the ritual. The resultant tingling is also a delightful result.

It Takes Work

2011-12-01T18:29:00.000-08:00

I spend quite a bit of time on the net. Usually it involves reading the blogs from others who engage in Female Led Relationships, but I also subscribe to lots and lots of Yahoo Groups.

One of those groups is 'Spanked_by_their_Wives' and is one of the more active groups and thanks to the moderator, is frequented by 'real' people. Today one of the Wives posted something that really hit home with us. Her post started with the acknowledgement that she was married to a 'great guy', but a recognition that a 'typical male needs to be put back in line once in a while'. Well said.

Her post further described how their busy life was interfering with their FLR and she even took responsibility for 'letting it go too long' and had been 'remiss not to correct a few issues'. She then described how she 're-acquainted' her husband with her hair brush. From her comments it appears that he got the message and described how he did his 'chores' immediately after getting home from work.

Oh how this hit home. (Pun Intended)

Our own relationship has been drifting in the same direction. The stuff of life has been getting in the way of our FLR, something that both Cora and I consider a very important part of our relationship.

Cora and I first met over 5 years ago and are only 6 months from celebrating 5 wonderful years of living together. Wonderful years, indeed. As I have described in past posts, when I introduced Cora to spanking and stuff, she began by taking the 'submissive' side. So we 'played' with things with her taking her share of spankings. Of course, my main wiring is oriented toward me taking the submissive role and I really preferred it when Cora delivered spankings to me. Ultimately, Cora's dominant side emerged and much to my delight, we engaged in a FLR where she is in charge and I am subject to discipline when she deems it necessary.

I certainly acknowledge that all relationships have their ups and downs and while Cora has not been as assertive about her role as I would like, we have a really, really great life together. So, when I read the post on Spanked_by_their_Wives, I thought I'd take advantage and share it with Cora. And we have been discussing this all day.

Now, specifically, today Cora resolved a situation with her health insurance that had been bothering her for several days. It had been really bothering her and she was dreading having to face it. Coincidentally, she had designated today for me to help her go through all her documentation and try to get it resolved. We did!

So once we had this 'life issue' behind us, we started discussing our FLR in the context of the post of the other woman. I tried to point out to Cora that she has been 'holding back' and perhaps 'remiss' in not correcting a 'few issues'.

For example, during our photo session last Tuesday (resulting in the pix of Cora in her tight riding pants), I was having trouble with the flash in the strobe lights. While I was trying to resolve this issue, Cora showed up all dressed up and ready to go. She was in a great mood ready to do her part as Super-Model. However, I was in a Grr Argh mood, with the problems I was having. In essence I was being rude and off-putting. Cora stepped out until I figured out how to work-around my problem. Truly, this was behavior that should have earned me an on-the-spot spanking, or at least a 'Notice of Discipline' slip. Instead, Cora just shrugged it off. In discussions today, she indicated that she felt 'guilty' and did not pursue any actions towards me.

I pointed out that this should have been about my behavior and not about her taking on the 'guilt' of it. We further discussed previous scenarios and I kept pointing out that she was taking on the responsibility for my behavior. I think the light bulb went on when I pointed out her way of handling things.

I really love all the aspects of our FLR, whether they encompass the 'fun spankings' Cora gives me or the times she needs to really 'lay down the law' and hold me accountable for my bad behavior. Sure those times are no fun but I can tell that when she does hold me accountable, my focus returns and my behavior changes (at least for a while). Its something that I not only ask for but need. Need it bad. Just like most of the guys in these FLR relationships (or at least according to the feedback I get from them).

I am hoping that Cora and I will take a view of our relationship from a higher altitude and re-new the dynamics that work so well for us. In fact, I think I will re-negotiate our 'contract'. Its about 3 years old and lots has happened during those years, such as our Notice of Discipline and Request for Discipline forms. A new contract would probably make a good post here, on our blog, and if we get there we'll share it.

So, our thanks to the woman who posted her situation on 'Spanked_by_their_Wives'. It opened up a very productive dialog. In fact Cora instructed me to 'bend over' our bed, bared my bottom and proceeded to spank me with her hand, small paddle and one of her other 'Bedroom Rack' implements. My bottom is still tingling. I love it and love Cora even more!

The Rest of the Story

2011-11-29T12:03:00.000-08:00

... Or How to Have Fun With the Sales Staff at the Tack Shop

In a previous post a week ago, we described our preparations for going 'out and about' and the spanking fun we had while getting dressed. We ventured out and crossed Lake Washington on one of our very rare sunny Northwest days in November. The view of the lake, Mt. Rainier and the Cascades was awesome, perhaps only overshadowed by glimpses of Cora wearing a tight pair of jeans.

We made our first stop, then headed for our second destination. However, the route took us by a store I have been wanting to take Cora to for some time: a Tack shop. I asked her if she wanted to stop and she replied, "Sure".

Now to bring you up to date, Cora was quite the HorseWoman while growing up. She lived in the Northwest Illinois countryside and there were several stables in the area, some of which raised thoroughbred horses. Cora became acquainted with these stables and quickly gained the trust of the owners. Often Cora would exercise some of the horses by taking them for rides in the countryside. As you can imagine, Cora specialized in some of the more 'troublesome' members of the stables and found that she could 'tame' them rather effectively, a trait she still possesses in dealing with our pups (oh, and I guess you could include me, also!). She definitely has earned the title, "HorseWhisperer". She often reminisces about that time in her life with a great deal of fondness. She truly loved her horses.

Cora and 'Bristol Cream' (a Lippizzon) about 1971

Cora still has some of her riding equipment, such as boots, a cute hat, spurs and so on. (She is wearing some of these items in the picture shown above.) However, one thing she lacked was a good pair of riding pants. Now, I have seen many fetish sites that feature women wearing tight riding pants, boots and usually shown holding the traditional riding crop. Its something that is not one of my main fetishes but I do appreciate a shapely woman wearing tight riding pants.

So, into the store we went. Interestingly most of the sales staff and patrons were female (should that be 'matrons'?). And while they weren't wearing riding pants, they were wearing very tight jeans. It was definitely 'eye candy' paradise for me. And Cora fit right in, wearing a very tight pair of jeans, too. Oh, and don't forget she was wearing a girdle underneath and if you looked close, you could see evidence of those wonderful 'garter bumps'.

Cora checked out the racks of clothing and soon eliminated all but one or two pair of riding pants. She gathered up her prizes and asked one of the sales staff where she could try them on. "Over there", the sales lady pointed. It took a while for her to squeeze into the first pair of riding pants but she finally appeared to have them checked out.

"Wow", was my response. Did she look good, or what. The smile on the face of the sales lady indicated that she, too thought Cora looked great. And oh how the garter bumps showed off!

Feeling somewhat cheeky (after all I was in the presence of a very sexy vision and probably was shifting to the control of my second head), I made a comment in front of the sales lady, "Wow, the garter bumps really show, don't they?". The sales lady quickly replied, "Oh, don't get naughty!" Cora's response was one of those 'looks' that women are so good at. I do think Cora missed an opportunity to issue one of her 'Notices of Discipline' slips but her purse was several feet away in the dressing room. I can only imagine what the sales lady would have thought if Cora had whipped one out and filled it out in front of her.

OK, I was having some fun with the situation and my comment may have been a little inappropriate, but I just couldn't resist. Sometimes Cora and I have fun dropping little hints about our lifestyle - nothing blatant, and we do get some knowing smiles from some of the sales people (mostly women), so I am guessing that we are not totally alone with our little 'secrets'.

Anyway, Cora tried on another pair which she finally selected. When the sales lady asked, "Will that be all?", I replied, "No", and pulled Cora to another area in the shop.

While I was waiting for Cora to try on her riding pants, I explored the shop and yes, you guessed it - located the riding crops. We headed over to the rack that included dressage whips and riding crops. Cora took a look and her first inclination was "I don't need another one". However, I pointed to one towards the back and in the bottom of the rack. It was one of those riding crops with the end shaped like a small palm.

Cora's face lit up. "Oh, I must have one of those!", she exclaimed. "Do they have them in black?"

"Right here", I replied and pulled one out of the rack. So we headed back to the counter to pay for our new-found treasures. The sales lady exclaimed, "Oh, one of our 'spankers'", upon seeing our riding crop selection. Cora and I could only look at each other. I am guessing that we had been exposed. I really doubt if anyone uses one of the riding crops with the little palm on the end for their horse. However, based upon the number of them in the rack, I am guessing they sell quite a few. And they just can't not know.

I had hoped to get pictures of Cora in her riding pants later that day but we were quite exhausted when we finally finished all of our stops and had returned home. However, she did agree to a photo session yesterday and some of the results appear on this post. Don't you think that Cora can be a very effective trainer of horses (of all kinds)?

Random Punishment Selector

2011-11-26T17:03:00.000-08:00

James, who hosts the 'SpankedMale' blog shared a connection to the 'Random Punishment Selector'. Its a really interesting on-line calculator that you can customize for your situation including the name of the spanker, name of the spankee, reason for punishment, severity of the punishment, number of implements to use, actual implements to be used with the ability to customize the parameters to match the implements you actually own, the position and state of dress. In addition, there are options to set the severity factor of the various implements and even some additional punishment (such as corner time, mouth soaping, grounding, etc.).

Its really creative and once the parameters are all set, the resulting 'Punishment Certificate' with the results can be printed and handed to the guilty party. The URL is: http://animeotk.com/punishment.php.

Well, it seems as if James shared this little 'tool' with his wife and she has taken a real liking to it. The picture above is James' wife and is the opening picture on their blog. As you can see she is a very attractive woman with a lap that seems to be calling to all us naughty boys. I am guessing I may get in trouble with Cora for this comment, but its a lap that I would love to 'sample'. James has shared two incidences of his wife using the tool, the first resulting in 25 strokes of the cane. The second time, it appears that James' wife got some 'inspiration' while reading another blog over James' shoulder. James' wife entered another set of parameters and generated a second 'Punishment Certificate' that included three sets of punishment. James posted how she delivered the first set with the other sets to follow.

James second set was delivered after he was caught reading one of my comments on his blog instead of helping his wife with some holiday decorating. I guess I am partly to blame for this one, but James got 32 with his wife's bath brush. I wonder if James' wife would have me share his punishment. He has yet to receive some cane strokes but I am sure James will share that part of the session, too.

You can read James' portrayal on his blog and I would recommend it as James' blog is well written and fun to read. He and his wife seem to be very 'real' and so generously share their lifestyle with the Universe.

So, Cora has expressed some interest in the Random Punishment Selector, too.

And yes, her lap is very attractive, too. I have first hand (or is that first 'hairbrush') experience.

I think the pictures prove my point. And as some of you have expressed an interest in 'trying out' her lap, I would just advise, "Be very careful what you ask for". However, Cora loves these kinds of comments.

But I wonder if she will use the Random Punishment Selector like James' wife does. Its one of those things that I both fear and hope she will take on. Funny how that works.

Also, I can visulize Cora using a combination of her 'Notice of Discipline' with the 'Random Punishment Selector'. The latter provides for varies degrees of punishment such as 'light', 'moderate' or 'very hard', with the difference being the number of swats. It would be a natural for Cora to associate the check boxes on the Notice of Discipline form for 'Mild', 'Moderate' and 'Severe' with the appropriate level on the Random Punishment Selector. I can just see her delivering a Notice of Discipline attached to the 'Punishment Certificate' at the same time. Yikes!

So, I may be in even deeper that James with all these ideas. I can't explain why I am sharing them where Cora will easily see them. But then I guess I am just a little jealous of all the attention James is getting from his wife.

P.S. We are still working on the pix to illustrate our shopping trip at the Tack Shop.

Finding Her Power

2011-11-21T10:28:00.000-08:00

There has been quite a bit of 'outside stuff' happening here, lately. Its kinda personal so I won't go into the details. I'll just say its been zapping our energy, especially Cora's.

Saturday, I asked Cora to get dressed as I wanted to visit a few stores across the lake in Bellevue. So it was a surprise when she put on a girdle. And a ivory colored one at that! She usually prefers her black girdles but I love the way a lighter color looks on her. Quite frankly, a lighter color really shows off her curves much better. It was obvious that Cora was feeling especially powerful, this morning. Naturally, I began following her around like a puppy while she engaged her dressing routine.

When it came for me to get dressed, Cora beckoned to me, "Now where are those panties?" What!!! Cora was going to 'make' me wear her panties? Its been a while, so it was a very pleasant surprise. At this point in time Cora was still in her girdle, stockings but had slipped on her heels. Needless to say, she looked very powerful and I was very 'aroused'.

Cora held up the panties for me to step into. So, I placed one leg at a time into the appropriate openings. However, rather than pulling them up, she had me hobble over to the bed, with the panties still at my knees.

"Bend Over!", she instructed. Naturally, I complied. I was wondering where Cora was getting all this energy, but I was not complaining. Cora pulled her small paddle off the 'bedroom rack'. She returned and commenced to paddle my bare bottom, panties at my knees.

It was obvious that Cora was 'into it' as there wasn't really a warm up. The smacks of her small paddle were echoing through the room as my bottom was feeling a rather intense sting. She finally stopped and instructed me to finish dressing.

Later as we were putting our pups in their kennels prior to our departure, I was admiring Cora. She had slipped on a tight pair of jeans. Now, there is something about the way a woman looks when wearing a girdle. And Cora in her jeans that day, was no exception. She just looked hot.

I couldn't resist. The combination of Cora 'feeling her power' along with the curvy image of her got the better of me. I bent over our kitchen table and Cora figured out what I was asking. Soon I was feeling the results of about four of her selections from her 'main rack'. However, I was still feeling like I need just a little more (greedy sub that I am!).

I grabbed the Spencer from the rack and asked Cora for 'a little more'. Of course, she happily complied. Soon I heard that characteristic whistle that only the Spencer paddle makes when its swung with enough vigor. "Splat" The paddle landed and I felt the result of the impact. To quote the song, "It hurts so good!"

It was after only one or two swats that Cora re-positioned herself a little more to her left. This resulted in a better view of her. Prior to her moving, I couldn't see much of her, but now I had a wonderful view of the seat of her jeans. I guess I don't have to say much about the way she fills out her jeans but the view just added to the 'pleasure' of the spanking.

Finally after about 25 swats or so of the Spencer, she let me up. Wow, I felt it all day long.

So, we ventured out and about on the 'East Side'. We visited train shops, electronic shops and I even suggested to Cora, "Do you want to check out tight riding pants at that Tack Shop?"

"Sure", she replied.

But then, that's another story.

Spankin', er Pushin' Too Hard

2011-11-06T10:49:00.000-08:00

I generally don't write about anything not related to our Female Led Relationship and that may explain why we haven't posted as much lately as we used to. I have been involved in assisting in teaching a class, Cora has been decorating and undecorating for the Holidays and our pups have turned 7, 8 and 9 years old. (Gosh, it seems like yesterday that Devi and Gypsy were just puppies!)

So it was with a bit of glee that yesterday I heard Cora instruct me "to get upstairs and prepare for a spanking". Needless to say, I stopped what I was doing and went upstairs and peeled down. Soon I heard her footsteps up the stairs and down the hall to our bedroom.

Now, if you have followed us for a while, you know that music plays a very important part of our lifestyle. It was on our second date that while showing Cora my studio, she asked me to "Turn it up!" That certainly caught my attention. So, we have this really cool piece of electronic equipment called a 'Squeezebox'. It allows me to assemble a play list using i-Tunes on our Mac and stream the tunes to the Squeezebox over our wireless network. The Squeezebox is connected to our main receiver using a digital connection and the resultant music sounds great.

In addition, we have a very low power FM transmitter connected to the receiver and can broadcast the play list to any room in our house that has an FM receiver. And of course, that includes our bedroom.

So while waiting for Cora, various songs from our 'classic rock' play list are filling the room. Finally Cora entered and began gathering her hairbrush, ferule, small paddle and SMTR paddle from her bedroom rack, arranging them on the bed for her use. When she grabs all four items from her rack, I know that she intends to use them all and I realize that I am in for a 'serious' spanking.

Once she had prepared her 'tools' she beckoned me over her lap. Willingly, over I went and took a deep breath. She began with a hand spanking. Now, Cora has gotten quite good at administering a spanking with just her hand. She can approach the intensity of a hairbrush with the main difference the rather sensual feel of skin on skin, instead of wood on skin. Overall, its a very nice feeling.

I can't remember which song was playing when Cora first started her spanking of me, but soon the Seed's "Pushin' Too Hard" began to play. Cora loves to spank along with the rhythm of the song and soon my bottom was being spanked along with the drum beat. I think she had progressed to her hairbrush by then.

Keep in mind that Cora was spanking me 'Just Because She Wanted To', so we were both in a 'fun' mood. So, I (being the cheeky one that I am) began to sing along with lyrics "You're Spanking Too Hard". And there is a chorus in the song that goes, "Too Hard, Too Hard" and of course I took advantage of singing along with that part too.

Soon we were both laughing and giggling as Cora continued the spanking. However, once the song was over, there wasn't much reason to continue. By then she had turned my bottom a nice shade of red and instilled that nice, warm, tingly feeling that I 'enjoyed' the rest of the day.

Blogs and Bloggers

2011-10-25T13:04:00.000-07:00

I have noticed quite a few new blogs appear that address Female Led Relationships. I have spent a little less time 'on line' in the past few months so have gotten a 'little behind' in my reading. However, I have found that many others whose blogs I follow, have included many new blogs. Some are authored by women. To all these new bloggers I extend a hearty 'Welcome'. I hope to add a few to our 'list of blogs we follow'.

Sadly, there have been a few blogs that have disappeared. I understand that there may be legitimate reasons but hope that some of them may re-appear when their Muse returns. I miss many of them.

Speaking of blogs, I'd like to recommend that you check out James' blog, 'spankedmale'. James' latests posts includes three videos of him getting spanked by his wife and a friend. I know how excited I was the night I got spanked by two wonderful Ladies and how many men have this as a fantasy. Anyway, James has provided videos of the event and placed them on his blog to share with you.

Also, during the summer I experienced problems posting comments on some of the other blogs. Finally, I found that if I changed the settings on my browser regarding 'Cookies' this problem cleared up. In my case (Internet Explorer), I went to 'Internet Options' under 'Tools' and clicked on the 'Privacy' tab and lowered the settings. I plan to raise the settings after posting my comments to protect things as much as possible. If you have the same problem, hopefully this suggestion will help.

Speaking of comments, I wish to thank all who have left comments. Joeyred51 made a reference to Cora's paddle with our local University's color (Purple). I guess they got an effective paddling last week. Oh well, Seattle is not really that much of a sports town. Good thing there are so many other things to do here. Mysster also made a reference to Seattle. Yep, we love it here. James (yes, the same one mentioned above) and SometimesSpanked made reference to Cora's attire. She loves to dress up and often she wears tight girdles underneath her skirts or jeans. I have mentioned it before, but I love to follow her up the stairs. And to receive a complement of 'stunning' from such a stunning woman as Dana Kane was an honor. If you haven't already done so, check out her blog. She has generously shared many of her videos.

And then there were the comments from bobmski and Hermione asking for pix of me in my butler's uniform apron. I guess this comes under the heading of 'be careful what you ask for'. Both Cora and I laughed out loud after reading these comments. So, we will be working on a photo session which will hopefully fulfill these requests.

Oh, and speaking of uniforms, this is the Halloween (Samhein) season. This provides a unique opportunity for the Ladies of a FLR. There are many costume shops showcasing all kinds of 'costumes'. However, you have considered forms of 'feminization', you might look at some of the 'French Maid' costumes. Some are available in 'larger' sizes which will probably fit your men. Something you could have your guy wear while doing his 'chores'. Just ask Cora.

This post has been a bit rambling. So here is a picture from our outing last week of Cora holding her PurpleHeart paddle. Perhaps she will be inspired to use it when we do our butler uniform photo shoot.

And one for the fans of Cora's stockings. Here is a pic of her adjusting one of them. After all, as was said by a woman who used to sell girdles on line, a big part of wearing girdles and stockings is adjusting them. I heartily agree and as the lyrics from ZZ Top, 'I'm a fool for her stockings, I believe'.

Lunch at Salty's

2011-10-17T18:22:00.000-07:00

October in Seattle often features darkening, cloudy skies often with rain and wind. However, every so often, the clouds part and the Goddess provides one of those spectacular days that seem so few for this time of year. Today was one of those days.

So, I told Cora that I would put the battery charger on the Corvette (it doesn't get much use, so the batteries usually need a kick before I can get it started) and take her out to lunch. Her choice was 'Salty's'. One of our favorite restaurants is 'Salty's'. Its close to us and features great food and one of Seattle's most spectacular views.

Cora dressed up for the occasion and wore a nicely tight skirt along with heels. These are the heels that match the car. I think the pictures will show what I mean.

Once we arrived, we took a short break and took in the view. Yes, that's a blue sky and the famous Space Needle in the background. Yikes, its been almost 50 years since the 1962 World's Fair!

That's Cora climbing the stairs to the restaurant. Oh, how I love to follow her up the stairs!

The view from inside the restaurant is just as good as it is from the outside.

So, what does all this have to do with our Female Led Relationship? Well, not much. But when we got home, I asked Cora to grab here Purpleheart Paddle and head for our deck for a picture or two.

After all, don't you think a Woman should be color coordinated?

A little later I couldn't resist. I have an apron that looks a little like a butler's uniform but its open in the back. I put it on (and nothing else) and proceeded to make Cora's evening cocktail. She remarked that she enjoyed her bare bottomed bartender. Once the drink had been served I grabbed one of her hairbrushes and followed her to the couch. I had her sit in the middle, handed her the hairbrush and placed myself over her lap. Keep in mind that my bottom was already bared.

She proceeded to start with a very nice hand spanking followed by a firm spanking from her hairbrush. Its been a while since Cora has delivered a firm spanking and even longer since she has left blisters. Well, I am sitting rather uncomfortably while writing this as she did leave me with a blistered and hot bottom.

I think these are my favorite kinds of spankings. And I love her very much.

The Need for Spanking - The Results

2011-10-06T10:57:00.000-07:00

First, I want to thank those who left comments on our previous post. With a lack of posting for over a month we were afraid that no one would be watching our blog. Instead, there were 5 who commented within a day. Thanks James, Dana, JoeyRed, Tom and one anonymous commenter.

Well, usually things don't work out like we expect. And yesterday morning was no exception. When Cora came downstairs yesterday morning, she sort of laughed at the strategically located chair with the hairbrush conspicuously placed on the chair back. Then she announced, "I want my coffee!".

Now, we do live in Seattle and fit right in with the population of coffee drinkers. And we take our coffee rather seriously. And when I mention coffee, I should clarify: its really espresso.

I discovered espresso in the mid 1970's and purchased my first espresso maker in 1977. Over the years I have worn out several machines and have learned lots of the tricks to make a pretty good espresso along with the variations such as Lattes etc.

So I abandoned my hopes of Cora taking me over lap and applying the hairbrush and instead became 'Mr. Barista' and began to make her morning espresso concoction. She likes an unusual combination of equal parts espresso and coffee creamer topped off by whipped cream (the kind that comes from a can). As I served her, she mentioned that she would take care of me later.

Later in the morning, Cora returned to the kitchen and dragged me over to the table, grabbed her leather paddle, bent me over and delivered about a dozed rather firm swats. I thought that was it for the day. NOT!

That afternoon, Cora layed out her 'Bedroom Rack' and beckoned me into the bedroom. Soon she had me if her favorite position with me bent over her left leg and then placed her right leg over my legs. Its that position where I wasn't going anywhere.

Cora likes to use a variety of implements when she delivers a spanking. And this was no different. She started with her hand, then shifted to her hairbrush, small paddle, the SMTR paddle, and Ferule. Now, since it has been a while since I had been spanked, my bottom was more sensitive than it usually is when she is spanking me on a regular basis. So, needless to say she had me lit on fire. Indeed, after she was done I felt like a well spanked lad.

I thought that that was the end of it. NOT! When we retired for the night, Cora asked me to show her my bottom as she indicated she wanted to 'inspect the results'. Of course, I complied and crawled up onto my knees and turned around so that she could see the results of her previous handiwork. However, instead of feeling just the cool air of the evening, she landed about a dozen spanks with her hand. I turned around and viewed a very evil grin on Cora. I do love her and love her playfulness.

The Need for Spanking

2011-10-05T10:51:00.000-07:00

Its been a while. Perhaps you have noticed that we haven't posted much lately. Well, that's mostly a result of not much happening in our Female Led Relationship. I guess you could say that for us, life has gotten too 'normal'.

Most of the men in FLR's have made it known that there is a deep-seated 'need' to be spanked by their Ladies. I am no exception. And when that need goes unfulfilled, the need sometimes builds. Sure, sometimes Cora will give me a impromptu slap on my bottom and she has even taken a paddle off her rack for a few well placed swats.

However, I feel very overdue for a much more 'formal' bare-bottom blistering from Cora's Hairbrush. There is something very intimate about being taken across her knee for a session with her hairbrush. I can't really describe it other than to say that right now I definitely feel the need.

So I am going to set up something. I have placed one of our straight backed chairs in front of our dining area table and have placed one of her hairbrushes conspicuously on it. (The picture below was literally taken minutes ago).

My plan is when she comes down from the bedroom this morning, she will 'catch' me doing something naughty. My hope is that she will get the idea and sit herself down and haul me over her lap for a good dose of the hairbrush. And I know it will be good for her too!

I'll let you know what happens.

How Do You Like Them Tomatoes?

2011-08-31T11:24:00.000-07:00

OK, its off topic but then its been a while since we have posted something. Guess we have gotten carried away with all the summertime activities and our 'Spanking Activities' have taken sort of a back seat (pun intended).

One of our rather major projects involved clearing four flower beds and planting new things. The pic above shows the 'fruits' of that labor, some beautiful tomatoes. And they taste as good as they look!

I won't bore you with all the details of what else we have been doing. However, there is a backlog of 'Discipline' slips piling up on our refrigerator and Cora will have quite a job getting through the backlog. And if she were to check, she would find a few pairs of her panties missing, too!

So when we get back into the 'swing' of things, we will post some of the details. Until then, here is one from our archives.

Hmmm, do you think Cora will try to match the color of my bottom with our tomatoes?

Ken and Cora

Rules

2011-08-06T12:35:00.000-07:00

Today as I was reading e-Mail from the Yahoo Groups I subscribe to, a question was raised regarding what rules are in use by couples who have adopted a Female Led Relation lifestyle. I replied that in our relationship, we apply the Two Rule system:

Rule Number One:
Cora is always right.

Rule Number Two:
When in doubt, refer to Rule Number One.

We do have a Contract but its probably a bit outdated and we haven't referred to it in months (perhaps over a year). So mostly we go by the Two Rule system.

Mostly we don't get into a situation where I have done things to really upset Cora (but we do have resolution when that does happen!), so mostly we just try to have 'fun' with our relationship. Yes, I love it when Cora spanks me under these circumstances, but I hate it when she spanks me when I have done something to upset her. Its probably more painful to me that I have done something to upset her that the actual spanking. Although she can deliver a blistering spanking under those circumstances, if she really wants to.

So, here is what happens when I break Rule Number One. Whether its for 'fun' or something 'real':

Cora's New Girdle, and a Spanking

2011-07-22T17:40:00.000-07:00

Its been a while since our last post. No excuses but not much has been happening in our lives that relate to our FLR. We have been occupied by yard work, planting a new garden and organizing our movie and CD collection. Pretty boring.

However, today we had several appointments and spent several hours 'out and about'. Before leaving, Cora decided to try a new girdle. Actually its what is known as an 'All-In-One' as it includes a bra. However, this All-In-One is different than the ones she usually wears as it doesn't have long legs. Thus the garters that hold up her stockings aren't covered up by the cuff of her Panty Girdle.

She wore this All-In-One under a pair of tight jeans. And the Garter Bumps showed off nicely. Very nicely. There is just something sexy about a woman showing off Garter Bumps and its something that you don't see much any more.

Cora likes to dress up when we go out and very often wears girdles, stockings and heels. It makes her feel sexy and powerful. I could not resist and when we returned home, grabbed the camera and shot a few pix of her on our sunlit deck. The lighting nicely showed off her Garter Bumps.

After we came inside, I couldn't resist. She took off her jeans and blouse and the sight of her in her All-In-One was too much. I asked her to take me over her knee and spank me. Of course 'you-know-what' went 'you-know-where'. It was very sensual. For both of us. Needless to say, Cora also felt in the 'mood' too and began spanking me with her hand.

If you follow this blog, you know that music plays a major part of our lifestyle. Well, the Door's 'LA Woman' was playing. Cora immediately got into sync with the music. If you are familiar with this song, there is a part where the temp slows (Mr. Mojo Rising, ....). The tempo gradually picks up and I found myself feeling Cora's hairbrush's stings building along with the tempo of the song. When the tempo returned to the faster pace, Cora was paddling me quite hard along with it. Ouch! (But it felt soooo good!)

Needless to say, the lovemaking that followed was awesome. I love this Woman so much and I especially love it when she gathers up her power and expresses it in her sexuality.

Northwest Paddling Festival

2011-06-26T09:52:00.000-07:00

Cora and I live in the Northwest part of the USA, specifically in the Seattle area. Well, the news yesterday indicated that there was a uniquely Northwest celebration occurring this weekend:

The Northwest Paddling Festival!

We had a nice laugh about it yesterday morning. Then yesterday evening, completely out of the blue (OK, its more gray here in Seattle), Cora steered me to the table in our kitchen area. "Bend Over!", she instructed. Of course, I complied.

She then proceeded to go to her 'rack' and applied about half her rack (there are now 14 instruments hanging from it) to my waiting backside. About half way through, she reached into the waistband of the pants I was wearing and bared my bottom for the rest of the selections from her rack. One of these was the big paddle (ouch!).

For her final selection, she grabbed our new Spencer Paddle. With this one, she really let go. (I think this was partly a result of watching a video of some Ladies applying a particularly hard paddling to some naughty boys). Whew! That paddle is the one with all the holes and it makes a swooshing sound as it travels its trajectory toward its target (me, in this case).

So, I am certainly glad that Cora decided to join the Celebration of Paddling in the Northwest.

The Leda Ladies - Volume One

2011-06-16T10:27:00.000-07:00

It arrived Yesterday. We ordered our copy from Amazon. I guess Spanking has gone 'mainstream'.

The full sized book is very impressive with over 60 pages of the famous Leda Ladies. Many are shown in 'action shots' and a bit of the history in included in the narration. For those of us who love our ladies when they dress up in girdles, there are plenty of the Leda Ladies wearing them. And there are also photos of some of the (lucky) men being bent over some of the creative 'Spanking Benches' including the famous "Dreaded Box'. (I must spend some time in the shop and complete ours). For those of you who are fans of Leda (and I know there are many of you out there), this is a must-have. I know we will be looking forward to future volumes.

When the doorbell rang from UPS delivering the package which contained our copy of 'The Leda Ladies', we had been preparing to go 'out and about'. Cora never leaves the house unless she has fixed her hair and is dressed appropriately. And today was no exception. But this time she decided to wear one of her short, black, very tight skirts. Naturally, under it she was wearing one of her All-In-One panty girdles along with black stockings and a pair of some of her favorite 3-1/2 inch heels from 'Classic Pumps'. In my opinion, she was dressed to the nines (maybe nines-plus).

I must admit that I am one lucky guy. Not only have I found a Lady to lead our relationship and spank me when needed, but she is also a very attractive Lady. She has recently gained back some of the weight she lost since the infamous 'Emergency Room' incident last September. So she is again filling out her jeans and skirts quite nicely.

I am so thankful that Cora is not obsessed with looking 'skinny'. Instead, she knows the power of a Womanly Derriere. I know I am helpless when she wears some of those wonderful tight skirts.

While out and about, Cora received lots of attentive stares from the guys. And while in line at one of the stores we visited waiting to make our purchase, another woman walked up to Cora and complemented her on her attire.

Upon return to home after unpacking our 'stuff' I perused our new book. I was really enjoying the photos and suggested that Cora take a look. And take a look she did. A very inspiring look.

After kenneling our pups for their evening meal, Cora sat herself in the middle of our couch. She had already retrieved one of our recently acquired Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes off her rack. She directed me to drop my pants but to leave the underwear on, as she wanted to be the one to remove them.

Cora then proceeded to hike up her skirt and over her lap I went. She then tucked her fingers into the waistband of my undershorts and pulled them down. I waited for her next move with my bare bottom submitted for whatever she had planned.

Cora then proceeded to deliver a hand-spanking. Now, this was not a 'Discipline' spanking, so I just relaxed and enjoyed it. We were both in comfortable positions and Cora was starting out lightly, providing a rather nice warm-up. I must say it was very erotic having my bare bottom presented to her along with the sensations from her stockings and girdled lap. Very erotic!

Cora proceeded to increase the intensity of her hand spanks. Then she reached for her hairbrush. And took off where the hand spanking left off. The intensity of her hairbrush was certainly getting my attention. I had to concentrate on remembering to breathe.

I have no idea of the time but I was certainly in the 'zone'. Cora continued to spank me with that Nu-West/Leda hairbrush. She has found that she likes the ones we recently obtained over the older one. And indeed, she was enjoying it. Needless to say, my bottom was on fire. But I was really enjoying it, too.

Finally she indicated that she was done. However, I wasn't. So I asked her for more. She had no trouble complying with my request. Cora has an ability to 'read' me and has always been able to know when I am starting to really feel the affects of her strokes. In the past she has usually stopped at this point. However recently, I have encouraged her to go beyond this point and push my limits. (Actually its probably more pushing her limits). Anyway, this final floury from her hairbrush left me with a very red and sore bottom. Just the way its supposed to be.

Later, in our post-spanking de-briefing (!), we discussed what had happened. Not only was I left with a warm feeling (in so many ways!), but Cora had thoroughly enjoyed it, too. She indicated that she felt a tremendous stress release and a feeling of refreshment. And maybe even a little aroused.

This morning, as I am composing this post, I am still feeling the effects of last night's spanking. And I am loving the memory of it all: Her tight skirt, the exposing of her stocking clad lap, the hand spanking (I so love how intimate one of those can be), and finally the burning of my behind from her hairbrush.

Thanks to Leon for a wonderfully inspiring book.

P.S. to those who blog: I have been having trouble signing in and leaving comments. There is some kind of problem with the blogging software and this problem is noted in their list of problems. I am really sorry I have been unable to leave comments on your blogs as I know how important those comments can be.

Stressed Out Cora

2011-06-08T18:26:00.000-07:00

Cora had a stressful weekend. Things were fine but she got stressed out, nevertheless.

Stressed Cora

I anticipated that she would be stressed and thought I'd present her with one of our 'Requests for Discipline' slips. I filled one out and left it on her pillow on Sunday morning. I was sure that a little spanking 'play' would help.

Well, it turned out the rest of the day Sunday just produced more stress. When things finally came to a conclusion at about 4PM, we adjourned to our deck and enjoyed our 'cocktail hour'. The conversation was wonderful and Cora was able to 'download' lots of stuff that had built up. Being able to communicate is one of the most beautiful parts of our relationship.

I have been working on finishing up a couple of 'Spencer' paddles over the past week. These were copies of the Nu-West/Leda paddles that I had purchased over 15 years ago. One of the 'original' sits proudly on 'Cora's Rack' and its one of our favorites. I decided to try a different finish on these two: Shellac. Its an interesting finish and I applied about 5 coats, sanding between each coat. Once the last coat was dry and sanded, I decided to apply some paste wax to finish it.

It was during our conversation on the deck that I was applying the wax. I spent considerable effort with the polish rag and the result was a nice velvet finish. I handed it to Cora who admired the smooth finish. "Would you like to take it for a test drive?", I asked. "Sure", she replied.

New Spencer (Top)
Original Spencer (Bottom)
Note: No Dog Toys were harmed in the production of this blog!

So, into the kitchen we went. She had me bend over our table and began paddling me. At this point she had let me keep my jeans on "Don't hold back", I told her. She started increasing the intensity. Looking over my shoulder, I could see her wind up and apply what looked like a pretty hard swat. Oh, and I felt it too!

"I want to compare your paddle with the original", Cora soon stated. She pulled the original off her Rack and started paddling me with it. It felt about the same. After all, the new one was designed to be a copy of the original. The new one does weigh about 1/2 ounce more (7 oz versus about 7-1/2 oz for the new one). However, Cora found that the new one had a better 'balance'. She continued to compare them back and fourth. I was getting a very thorough paddling.

Soon, Cora decided she wanted to continue paddling me but on the bare bottom. Quickly, my pants were puddled around my feet on the floor and Cora continued her comparison.

By this time I was 'warmed up' with the protection of my pants but now I was fully exposed. She continued with an intense paddling. It was burning like everything but I have to admit that I was enjoying it, too. It was a combination of seeing her smile, not holding back and entering the 'zone'. Wow!

Cora - Post Stress Relief

Finally she stopped and exclaimed, "Oh, that felt so good. I feel like I have unloaded lots of stress." And I am so happy that she receives such pleasure in paddling me.

Last Night ...

2011-05-31T10:37:00.000-07:00

... She Spanked me!

I was attending to our video player setting up a video to watch. (We have been on a Hitchcock kick). I heard Cora behind me and she seemed to want my immediate attention. OK. I turned around and she was gently pulling me towards the couch. She sat down in the middle (her usual position is on the far right) and pulled me over her lap. I could tell what she had in mind and as I was being draped over her lap, made sure my bottom was bared for her.

As you may have noticed, we haven't been posting much as there really hasn't been much going on in our relationship in regards to our FLR. Much of our energy has been directed in taking care of Vixen. Thankfully she is almost completely recovered and we were so thankful that everything associated with the growth was benign. And thanks for all the comments from our last post. Its obvious that we are in good company when it comes to our love of our four legged friends.

So last night I guess I must have been in a 'mood'. Not exactly in a depression but definitely energy drained and a lack of my usual passion. Cora picked up on this and decided that a session over her lap was just what I needed. Wow, was she ever correct.

If you have followed our blog, you know that Cora and I love our music. Recently I discovered a device that allows me to use our wireless network to send music from the hard drive on one of our computers to our sound system. I have been loading music from our CD (and vinyl) collection and organizing them into groups. Last night, I had a group of 'classic rock' loaded and playing randomly. (Its a really neat set-up). At the time I landed over Cora's lap, bare bottomed and ready to be spanked, the song 'Venus' from Shocking Blue began to play.

Cora began hand spanking me. Her cadence immediately fell into the rhythm of 'Venus' which has a very solid beat. And I was getting a full four-to-the-bar hand spanking from Cora. About half way through, she switched to one of her new Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes. At first she hesitated a bit but soon she was back into her rhythm. When Cora spanks along with music, she tends to accentuate her strokes more than she does without music (although I think she held back a bit with the hairbrush - Honey, you need to not hold back and just let go!). I was definitely getting a thorough spanking.

After I had resigned myself to getting a spanking from Cora, I just surrendered to her. The position I was in over her lap with plenty of room on both sides of her was incredibly comfortable. I just laid there and let the spanking sweep over me. Yes, it was painful (I can still feel the tingle this morning as I am writing this) but it was something that I really needed. In fact it was very enjoyable. I know that many of the men who get spanked by their Ladies, don't actually like the actual spanking part but for me it was great. I found myself drifting into space, knowing that I was being spanked by a Lady who loves me and can tell what I need.

'Venus' is three minutes and six seconds long. It was interesting that it began at exactly the time Cora began her spanking. And she stopped just when the song did. I think the chorus goes something like:
     I'm Your Venus ...
     I'm Your Fire ...
     At Your Desire

Well, Cora is definitely my Venus. And it was indeed my desire that she be my fire. That fire manifested itself in the redness of my bottom when she was done with me. Oh how I Love Her!!!

Vixen

2011-05-18T09:11:00.000-07:00

Cora and I share many passions but probably nothing like the passion we have for our pets. When we first got together Cora had three cats and I had two dogs. And while she was very concerned, Cora wielded her special kind of Magick and soon everyone was getting along quite well.

My two dogs, English Springer Spaniels are from a great line of 'Show Dogs' and I had planned for the younger of the two (Gypsy) to participate in the Show Dog process. At the time I acquired her as a puppy, an arrangement was set up with the breeder to be co-owners. The plan was for the breeder (and co-owner) to take possession of Gypsy and handle the actual showing.

So, when she was about two years old, the breeder requested that we send Gypsy to her for 'Show Dog Boot Camp'. In addition, in order to keep her kennel population balanced, the breeder asked if we would take one of her dogs while she had Gypsy.

Now, I have been familiar with this line of dogs and they are noted for being layed back, mellow and as sweet as can be. So I indicated that I would be glad to take one her dogs in exchange for Gypsy, on a temporary basis. The exchange was made at a dog show that was being held near us and Vixen came home with us that afternoon.

Cora, was not too sure about this arrangement. She was concerned that our other Springer (Devi) might not get along, yet alone the cats. I was confident that there would be no problem. Devi had been around plenty of other dogs (including puppy kindergarten) and I knew that Vixen had also been around plenty of dogs, as she had won enough shows to have achieved her 'Championship'. And I had seen Cora in action around the animals. She has that certain Magick and truly owns the title, 'Animal Whisperer'.

So when we arrived back home, we introduced Vixen to Devi on neutral ground on the sidewalk next to one of our neighbors. Soon, they were best pals. And Cora soon found herself bonded with Vixen. Tightly bonded! Like I said, I knew this particular breed and especially the dogs bred by this Kennel and Vixen was no exception.

Shortly after we added Vixen to our family, Cora was diagnosed with a deteriorating hip and was soon scheduled for a replacement. Her procedure went well and Cora was soon home, recovering. During the recovery, Vixen revealed her own healing powers. Both Cora and I are convinced that Cora's quick healing was partly due to the presence of Vixen. And the bonding just got tighter.

A few months later, the breeder decided to 'retire' Vixen and asked us if we would like to keep her. Cora and I were delighted at this development and immediately said, "Of course!". So when Gypsy was retired from her time in the Show Dog circuit, we found ourselves with three wonderful English Springer Spaniels, three very special friends and very important parts of our lives.

We make sure that our pets get good medical care and they get annual check-ups. During our most recent check-up, a couple of weeks ago, the vet found a 'lump' on Vixen's underside. This was something that concerned us. Serious Concern. The vet took a sample from the lump and sent it out for analysis. Meanwhile we returned home and tried not to panic.

When the call came back, we were relieved to hear that the results did not show signs of cancer. However, the recommendation was to remove the lump. Of course we agreed and set up an appointment to have it removed. The date was set for Tuesday, May 17 (yesterday).

So we took Vixen to the vet at 7:30 yesterday morning and left her in the care of our vet. Naturally it was a day full of anxiety. About noon we received a call from the vet who indicated that the procedure went well and that we should not be concerned about the spread of anything. (We will get final results of the analysis of the lump in a couple of days). He also indicated we could take her home anytime after 5:00PM.

It was a happy reunion later that afternoon and we took a very groggy dog back home. Of course Gypsy and Devi were happy to see her and it was great to see the family whole again. Today, Vixen is taking it easy and on the road to recovery. Gladly, she seems to be getting back into her routine and loves to curl up with Cora on the couch.

Naturally, this post is off topic from the things we usually talk about, but its something that we are very passionate about. Real Life provides plenty of 'distractions' and we have certainly been distracted for the past couple of weeks. Our 'Special Friends' are with us for such a short time anyway, so a threat to losing them is a large concern. Thankfully, this time we expect that we will be blessed with their company for many years to come.

Hey, Hey, Its the First of May ....

2011-05-01T10:47:00.000-07:00

... and Outdoor Spanking Begins Today!

Well, OK I paraphrased it a bit. But for me its really the Pagan holiday of 'Beltane'. Some of the traditions are still celebrated, such as the May pole and leaving baskets on front porches.

So here in the Pacific Northwest part of the USA its finally getting to look like spring. The view of the Cascade Mountains and Mt. Rainier is spectacular. We expect temperatures in the mid 60's (that's almost 20C for those of you in the more civilized parts of the planet). Cora and I may celebrate the day by taking our pups for a walk along our local waterfront.

The downside of this time of year is that things start to grow. Really grow. So while we may be enjoying the beach, there will be lots and lots of yard work for me to attend to when I get back.

So may your Maypoles remain erect and may your May Baskets be full of all kinds of goodies.

Happy Beltane!

One Step Back, Two Steps Forward - Revisited

2011-04-29T09:22:00.000-07:00

I got spanked last night. Paddled actually. "So what else is new", you're thinking. Well, its been a while since I have been on the end of a real 'disciplinary' spanking. But it happened last night.

Cora and I are sort of addicted to the news channels. (No, not that one). Well last night, one of our favorites was pre-empted for a special on the Royal Wedding. (BTW, congratulations to our UK readers!) This is also the time we usually adjourn to our kitchen where Cora prepares one of her Culinary Wonders of the World. So, Cora tuned in another program on our little under-the-counter TV to watch while we prepared our evening meal.

The program was one of those 'interview' programs and usually is quite good. However, last night one of the guests is someone who I consider to be mostly full of hot air. Lots of hot air. And while (it turns out) Cora is also not especially fond of this guest, she was more focused on preparing the perfect salmon.

To make a long story short, I decided to leave the kitchen and do something else. Bad Idea! I guess my body language was more 'storming out of the kitchen' in nature. Of course, Cora noticed. And reacted.

"Get Back In Here", she said. After a bit of a discussion (well it was really a scolding), I was taken by the arm and bent over the kitchen table. Cora then grabbed one of her paddles and began demonstrating her ability to 'lay it on'. She then paused and grabbed the waistband of the pants I was wearing and soon was bent over the table, bare bottomed. "You are lucky you are not getting what Serving B got from B a while back" she stated. Cora then proceeded to apply some very intense strokes with one of her paddles. I am not even sure which one it was.

What Cora applied in intensity, she made up for in brevity. Thankfully, her paddling was rather short. But it still left quite a sting in my backside. And I have to admit, I deserved it. Reflecting back, I know I had it coming and am thankful that Cora handled it in the way she did. I am also very proud of her. It was rather perfect. After the spanking, all was forgiven and we went back to 'normal'. Although I must admit, I felt very contrite. Cora even remarked, "Oh that felt so good to me" immediately after paddling me.

Later that night, Cora came to bed and instructed me to 'pleasure' her. It wasn't a request. Now, I think most of the men in FLR's will agree that there is nothing better than when your Lady initiates sexual activity. And last night was no exception for me. We finished the night like teenagers at a drive in. Then both fell into very deep and satisfying sleep.

Looking back, I can tell that both of us were under lots of stress. A couple of days ago we purchased a new car (well, not exactly new, but new to us). And we probably get wrapped up in all the events of the day. Bottom line is that the safety valve popped. The good news is that the guidelines of our FLR worked and worked quite well.

In reading many of the blogs written by the men engaged in FLR's, along with some of the Yahoo groups I follow, I know that many of us feel a build up of the need to be spanked. At times it may seem to reach extreme levels. Last night was one of those times and not just for me. Both Cora and I felt a great release of stress and I am convinced that Cora's later arousal was partly due to her enjoyment of applying the paddle to her naughty boy.

Oh, how I love Her!

So, both of us recognize that we need to better communicate when we need to engage in some spanking activities when the stress levels warrant it. (I wonder if Cora knows I have stashed three pair of her panties?)

The Big Paddle

2011-04-21T19:06:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, Cora wanted me to take her shopping. One of the places she wanted to visit was one of those 'crafty' stores. You, know full of artificial flowers, beading supplies, all kinds of paper and paper things, photograph frames, etc.

Well, I have recently been working on some birch plywood 'Spencer' paddles and thought about using shellac on one instead of the clear acrylic that I have been using. I think the term, "getting a shellacing" came from shellac being used on paddles in the past.

So while staying out of Cora's way, I did some looking around. No luck on the shellac. Finally, one of the store employees asked if I needed help finding something. I guess she must have noticed my 'lost puppy' look and took pity. I asked about shellac and told her that I had thoroughly looked in the painter's supply area. She suggested that I look in another area of the store where there were some wood supplies. I told her that I knew where that was and thanked her.

Soon, Cora found me. I mentioned my quest for shellac and she told me she would be happy to follow me to where the wood supplies were located.

Now, I had already perused this area and noticed that there were other wood objects located there. Like bird houses, and other things along with different sizes of raw wood. Well, we looked for shellac with no success.

However, Cora immediately noticed something that caught her attention. On one of the hooks were three HUGE paddles. That's right paddles. Of course she had to pick one up. "Hmm, this has a nice balance", she said. Now, keep in mind that this paddle is 24 inches long, 5-1/2 inches wide and 5/8 inch thick. Its made out of pine and weighs a pound and a quarter.

Balance, indeed!

Well, next I heard her say, "Bend over. I want to try it out". It was not a request.

Bend over I did. Right in the middle of the aisle. Cora then applied a swat to my awaiting bottom. "Thwack". I could tell this was a serious paddle and hoped that no one heard Cora's well applied swat. "I think I will buy this", she then announced. After all it was priced at $6.99! We made sure it was the best of the three paddles that were on the hook. Imagine, three of these behemoths for sale in the store. Now, the perponderance of the customers in the store were women and I can only imagine that many of these female customers must also be purchasing them. This certainly supports my claim that FLR is on the rise and more and more male bottoms are getting paddled by their Ladies.

As we walked around the aisle, we encountered the same woman who had suggested I look for shellac where the wood items were located. "Did you find what you were looking for?", she asked. Cora immediately spoke up and said, "Well no, but I did find this". Cora then reached into our basked and pulled out the large paddle then said, "I think I can make good use of it!". Cora then complemented her on the stores inventory indicating that, "you have lots of useful items in this store". The employee blushed noticeably but had a knowing grin, too.

On the trip home, Cora couldn't keep her hands off her new 'tool'. I thought she was going to make me pull over right then to let her try it out. When we did get home, of course she did take it for a 'test drive'. She let me keep my pants up as a bit of protection as she wanted to apply some hard swats.

And hard swats they were. No doubt this paddle gets your attention. Its much more 'thuddy' than our other paddles. Cora then decided she wanted to compare her new Pine Paddle with the old standby, Spencer Paddle. She proceeded to apply the Spencer Paddle with the same enthusiam as she did with the Pine Paddle. The 'whoosh' of the Spencer is quite unique and you can only hear it when its applied quite hard. And hear it I did. About a dozen times. I could tell Cora was having some 'fun'.

I remember when I built the 'Rack' for Cora, initially thinking that room for ten implements would be plenty. Now, with the addition of the two Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes (there isn't room for them in our bedroom rack where there are already three other hairbrushes awaiting their turn) and the Pine Paddle, Cora's 'Rack' is getting a bit crowded. And as you can tell, the Pine Paddle certainly overwhelms everything else.

As for Cora, I think I must have created a 'monster'. But a very good monster. I know that I am one heck of a lucky man to have a Lady like Her in my life. One that totally fulfills my wants and needs to be part of a Female Led Relationship. It just keeps getting better and better! And while I may be having difficulty sitting, at least I will have a smile on my face!

500,000!

2011-04-11T09:29:00.000-07:00

Every once in a while we get to celebrate one of those blogging milestones. Early this morning, probably just before 3:00AM Pacific time, we received our 500,000th page load! For us its a very exciting moment and we wish to express our thanks to all of you who read and comment on this blog.

We celebrated our year anniversary of the start of this blog last month but were unable to get the counter figured out until April 24. So that means that we have received over 1/2 million 'hits' in less than a year. Something that we never expected in a half million years.

Our sincerest thanks to all of you.

Ken and Cora

A Meeting With A Special Couple

2011-04-07T18:25:00.000-07:00

Well, its been quite a week. Its taken some time to 'come down' from some of the events. So now its time for a post about it.

Over the months this blog has been in operation, we have met with many people and couples who we consider close friends and kindred spirits in the FLR world. However, most are long, long distances away and its not likely that we will have the honor of meeting in person.

However, recently we met up with another couple who are close by. After several exchanges of e-Mail, we decided to meet for dinner a while ago and found that we really 'clicked' with this couple, which we will refer to as 'Rose' and her husband. So, last Saturday evening we invited them to our home.

That evening was full of Magick of all kinds. We started with sharing a glass of wine and Cora had prepared one of her famous Hors D'oeuvres spread. A little later we adjourned to our theater room and enjoyed part of the latest Blu-Ray of the concert from the band Heart (just happens to be from Seattle!).

Of course the evening was filled with discussion of FLR related items too. Its hard to ignore 'Cora's Rack' with all the wonderful tools on display. And that night, Cora placed our newly acquired pair of Nu-West/Leda Hairbrushes on her 'Rack' in addition to all Her other Tools.

So it was no surprise that Rose and Cora conspired to administer a 'double lap' Hairbrush spanking to both me and Rose's husband. Two chairs were strategically set up and soon my bottom was bared and over I went. Both Ladies were wearing 'real' nylon stockings. You know, the ones held up by garters. And both were wearing high heels. Going over those four nylon clad thighs was ... well, you know! And once I was over the two laps, I had a view of four high heels that was spectacular.

Soon, I felt the impact of both Hairbrushes on my unprotected bottom. Wow, it was intense. The spanks from two Hairbrushes rained down and lit up my bottom. Both of these Ladies were applying strokes of about equal intensity and I soon lost track of who was on the right and who was on the left side.

Soon, Rose's husband took my place. I was amazed as I watch him take his turn over these two laps and I got to see his bottom change from pale white to bright red. It was amazing to watch these two Ladies apply their discipline to him as this is a point of view I am not usually able to watch. Wow.

Later, Cora demonstrated to Rose her techniques with the Spencer Paddle. I was bent over the back of a chair and Cora started her demonstration. Needless to say, getting a paddling with a Spencer Paddle is quite an experience. Plus, I am sure that Cora probably wanted to 'show off' her technique and was applying strokes somewhat harder that she sometimes does when we are by ourselves. In no time I found myself in that wonderful place we call 'the zone'. Soon Rose had her turn with the paddle and not only did I get my fantasy of getting a 'double lap' spanking but was paddled by two beautiful Ladies.

I wish I had some pictures from the events of Saturday night but I think picture taking would have been a distraction. So, I have used some of our 'stock' pictures of my wonderful Lady, Cora. And I love her so much for feeling comfortable enough to participate with another couple.

Inside the Mind of Cora

2011-03-27T21:55:00.000-07:00

Besides having fun spanking me, Cora does have other interests. One of those interests is collecting dolls. She has a nice collection and I have made a display case that nicely shows them off with glass shelves, glass doors and lights installed that showcases them quite nicely (even if I say so, myself).

Yesterday, while we were out and about, Cora asked if we could visit the local antique mall. And besides finding collectible hairbrushes, we often find dolls for Cora to add to her collection. Often we find ones in 'mint' condition and at reasonable prices.

Well, yesterday was no exception. Cora spotted a Snow White doll from the Madame Alexander collection. She was thinking to herself how a set of the Seven Dwarfs would enhance it. Then, upon checking another shelf, there they were! In this case the Seven Dwarfs were paired with another Snow White from the Barbie collection. Oh and Ken (no relation) was portrayed in the role of 'Prince Charming'. (Like I said, no relation).

When we got home, Cora immediately set up a display of the Seven Dwarfs with the Madame Alexander Snow White. What to do with the Barbie and Ken pair. Well, Cora (on her own ... really!) set them up as shown in the picture shown above.

I love the way her mind works. But now I wish that the 'Prince Charming' Ken wasn't the only 'Ken' being spanked!

Nu-West/Leda: Hairbrushes and an Announcement

2011-03-21T08:55:00.000-07:00

Can a Disciplinarian Woman have Too Many Hairbrushes??

In our post of March 15 we spoke of the limited availability of the classic Nu-West/Leda hairbrush and also that we were going to order two of them. Well, they arrived in Saturday's mail. And wow, these are serious hairbrushes, indeed! Cora decided to take one for a 'test drive' and they deliver quite an impact.

These two Hairbrushes are slightly different from our original one. They are slightly longer and over 1/2 oz. heavier. And that extra weight and length really account for one heck of a stinging smack. Ouch! I wonder what a serious spanking will be like from one. And even though I still have that fantasy of a double lap spanking, it will certainly be a sizzling experience.

The pictures show Cora proudly showing you her new found 'tools'. I think she let out a bit of a 'yelp' in the process of testing it on her own palm. She really likes the balance and overall feel. Of course the feel from my point of view is considerably different! Oh, and upon my last check, it appears these Hairbrushes are still available.

Nu-West/Leda News

I sent Ed Lee a note upon receiving the Hairbrushes thanking him for making them available. In one of his replies he provided a couple pieces of information. Next month he will be releasing a Rework of an Original Female/Male Spanking Comic first produced by Nu-West/Leda in the 1980's:

'A Visit to Aunt Rita’s'.
If you remember some of the 'Spanking Comics' from the 1980's you will remember some nicely done stories that were not only well done but rather hot, too. My collection includes one or two of these publications from this era and will be looking forward to adding the new ones. They will feature fantasy artwork by a new artist. And Ed indicates in addition to being available direct from Nu-West/Leda, they can also be obtained from Barnes and Nobel or Amazon. I guess we have really become mainstream! And it sounds like the coffee table book on Leda Ladies will become available soon, too.

And finally, he also provided a pic of one of my favorite Leda Ladies, Vanna. Here she is ready to take a naughty boy over her lap, having pulled up her skirt to reveal those oh, so sexy, nylon clad legs.

Cora's Personality

2011-03-19T10:25:00.000-07:00

I recently received an e-Mail from our good friends at the 'Our Bottoms Burn' blog. Bogey (the male half of the couple) remarked that many of the pix of Cora depict her scolding and couldn't we post some pix of her smiling. If you read their blog you know that they aren't exactly in a FLR but the certainly enjoy the spanking scene.

Its interesting that I had thought of the same thing before receiving his e-Mail. Now in our defense, there is something rather titillating about being scolded during a spanking and Cora has a knack displaying her scolding persona during a photo shoot. I know that many of you who follow this blog know what I mean. Its amazing to watch her acting abilities in action.

However, 99.9% of the time, Cora is a happy and satisfied Lady and portrays a disarming smile. So here are a few photos of Cora's smiling side, the one I usually see. But she can still get my attention with that Hairbrush she is holding!

But all things considered, I know I am a very lucky man to have this lovely Lady in my life. Lucky, indeed! And my thanks to Bogey for pointing out something that I will pay attention to in the future.

Defending our FLR

2011-03-17T17:36:00.000-07:00

One of the blogs I follow is, "Husband in Check" in which Dana describes his own Female Led Relationship with his Lady. Dana is one of the fellow bloggers I correspond with on occasion. A couple of days ago, he published a particularly interesting post. He described a scenario where his Lady and the wife of another couple had set up a proposed shopping trip to an Antique Mall. It turned out that the wife was 'required' to 'ask permission' before she could go. Of course, Dana's wife didn't need to ask permission but the husband questioned Dana as to whether his Wife needed to request permission, too.

Rather than completely repeat Dana's well written post, I would suggest you check out his blog. There is a direct link under the 'Blogs I Follow' area. But the bottom line is that Dana did not back down when confronted by the husband regarding Dana's Lady being 'in charge' and not having to ask permission for anything. Later, in an exchange of comments, Dana stated that this turned out to be a 'WOW' moment and his Lady "told me that she couldn't love me anymore than she did at that moment". Dana further explained that it took him a second or two to respond but that he would have been very disappointed in himself if he had not done so. I applaud Dana in his being true to himself!

So, Dana, Well Done! And its nice to know that there are so many other couples like us (and quite a few men who would like to be in our position). And while some couples keep their relationship style a deep secret, its good to see some of us become comfortable enough to 'come out of the closet'.

Female Led Relationships may be unusual but we are certainly not abnormal. And the kind comments from our previous post demonstrate how we all benefit by sharing with each other.

I hope Dana's Wife rewarded his actions with a 'good boy' spanking. I so love it when Cora does rewards me. And I am proud to say I got one just yesterday and there is still a bit of a tingle remaining.

The FLR Community

2011-03-15T10:29:00.000-07:00

One of the unexpected benefits of opening this blog over a year ago was connecting with so many others who practice a Female Led Relationship and all that goes with it. I have been blessed with comments from so many of you and have even struck up friendships as a result.

One of those friendships has been with Serving B and his Magnificent Lady, B. I am sure most of you are familiar with their blog. We have communicated back and forth and we have even had a phone call or two. Well, like so many of you, they have had fun with some of our 'Discipline Forms', both the Notice and Request.

Well, it seems that the clever Mistress B utilized the form to inform Serving B of her intentions to record one of their sessions 'For My Boys Out There'. She went on to say that she wanted us to see that 'I mean Business When We Have a Session'. B and Serving B graciously shared a copy of the form which is shown above. The result was those wonderful videos that they posted on their blog. If you haven't already seen them I would suggest you check out their blog. The videos are wonderful! You have to scroll back to their post of February 17 and the series continues through February 22. And of note is that these videos were taken under candle light! Their videos were an inspiration and our first one was included in our previous post.

And recently we had contact with another FLR couple. However, in this case they live very close to us. So last Sunday we met for dinner. The conversation was wonderful and it was obvious that we experienced an immediate connection. So we invited them over after dinner. Of course, we had fun sharing 'Cora's Rack'. We also shared a 'sneak preview' of a video we had just made a couple of days ago. I am sure we will be spending time with this couple and who knows, I may get my wish of a 'Double Lap' spanking. After all the two (hopefully matching) NuWest/Leda hairbrushes are probably only a few days from arriving.

I have attached a few 'Video Snapshots' of the video we took a couple of days ago. I am not sure if we will post the actual video, (we both think that we can produce something better) but thought we'd share some of the pix from the shoot. I think you will agree that Cora's 'Starlet Personna' really comes through.

So here she is scolding me.

A hand spanking.

And here she is with her 'famous' hairbrush.

The Ubiquitous Hairbrush - Revisited (and our first Video!)

2011-03-06T13:59:00.000-08:00

Our previous post about hairbrush resulted in lots of comments. Its obvious that this particular 'tool' is VERY popular. For both the Ladies who spank and the men who receive the spankings.

So it should be no surprise that when Cora and I recently visited a local 'Antique Mall', we kept our eye out for traditional hairbrushes; you know, the ones that can be used by our Ladies for purposes other than brushing their hair.

Well, we found the really cool hairbrush. It looks like its made out of some kind of plastic. We have no idea how old it is but probably from the 1950's. Its smaller in size and weight from our favorite Nu-West/Leda hairbrush, however a 'test drive' showed it to be quite effective in disciplining a naughty bottom.

Naturally, we purchased it. During the check out I remarked to the saleslady, "Every Woman should have a hairbrush, don't you think?". I don't know if she got the connection, but she did reply with approval.

So now Cora has added another hairbrush to her growing collection. And here is our first video of Cora showing off her newly found treasure:

And our Thanks to B and Serving B, who inspired us to do our own video after seeing theirs.

Nu-West/Leda Hairbrushes

Funny thing. I visited the Nu-West/Leda site on Friday. There was an amazing announcement: They have found several boxes of their hairbrushes. Apparently they were hidden away somewhere in their warehouse and only recently found.

So, here is your chance. Our opinion is that they are absolutely the best hairbrush we have ever seen (or in my case, felt). They are small enough to be perfect for those over-the-knee discipline sessions but heavy enough to blister a naughty boy's bottom. If you visit the Nu-West/Leda site you should have no problem finding how to get one. Tell 'em Ken and Cora sent you.

And while Cora is having fun with her new hairbrush, her Nu-West/Leda hairbrush will be her Number 1. After all, its the hairbrush Cora is holding in our opening picture.

Cora Got 'Serious' Last Night

2011-02-26T14:25:00.000-08:00

I got paddled last night. It was a 'serious' paddling and even thought it was relatively short, Cora layed on the paddle with more intensity than ever before. I am still feeling the sting.

We have a cat (or is it that the cat has us). Its a pretty, black breed known as a 'Bombay'. Well, sometimes I 'play' with her. Unfortunately, she is really Cora's Cat and doesn't really take to me very much. So, my intentions of 'playing' with the cat don't get received well and Cora accused me of 'teasing' the cat.

In fact, Cora got rather incensed at what was going on. She had warned me in the past about my attentions with her cat. And the following happened so fast that it caught me totally by surprise.

First, I found myself spun around and bent over our kitchen table. Then Cora reached for her 'Spencer' paddle. After baring my bottom, she layed on some really hard swats. Perhaps harder than she has ever delivered. Oh, and no warm up. Just swat after swat.

I cried out in pain. Sometimes Cora will 'let up' a bit when this happens. Not this time. She just kept delivering intense swat after intense swat. I was concerned that she might break the paddle, but it retained its reputation as 'indestructable'. Indeed the result was that I was a well spanked man.

Finally, she let me up. And it was over and forgiven. I love that part the best. And while my bottom was on fire, I knew I had it coming. But the aftercare is awesome. I soooooo love this Lady!

On a Side Note:

Thursday marked the one-year anniversary of this blog. I really had no idea what it would be like a year after starting it, but here we are. And its been lots and lots of fun. We have made many, many friends through the blogosphere and found that there is quite a few 'kindred spirits' out there who also enjoy a Female Led Relationship.

So we wish to say Thanks to all of you who have taken the time to read our blog, and especially to those who have been generous enough to leave comments.

Happy Valentine's Day

2011-02-14T09:37:00.000-08:00

May all of you beautiful Ladies

with those

Heart-Shaped Derrieres

That we so Love

Get plenty of your own

bright-red heart-shapes

The Ubiquitous Hairbrush

2011-02-12T15:52:00.000-08:00

In my opinion there is nothing that symbolizes Female Authority better that a wooden hairbrush. In the time honored tradition, most households included a hairbrush on M'Ladies' dresser. Thus it was only natural for her to reach for it when she found it necessary to maintain discipline in her household.

I was lucky enough to have purchased one of these items when Nu-West/Leda was selling them (about 20 years ago, or so). It seems to be one of the best hairbrushes I have seen and certainly leaves quite an impact when Cora uses it on me. There was a time that I really hated being spanked with it, then one day Cora had me over her lap and the combination of her strokes and the sound it was making seemed to hit home (pun intended). Not only was I feeling well spanked (very well spanked!), but also aroused (very aroused). Since then I can't seem to get enough of her hairbrush. Fortunately, she likes to use it, too (more on that later).

At one time it seemed that the traditional flat-backed, wooden hairbrush were becoming extinct. However, I have found that they may be on a comeback. I have found quite a few examples recently in our local pharmacy. Now, these aren't the plastic brushes or those wooden brushes with some kind of plastic inlay to hold the brushes (and loose much of their weight), but real wood with all the weight that results in solid impact on a naughty bottom. And I have made a point of obtaining several examples (for scientific purposes, of course!). I also found them to be very affordable (often less than $10.00).

A while back I saw a particularly large example and I guess its really a 'bath brush'. Its something that Cora had not used very much. I think she likes to stick with tools with which she is familiar. Sort of a comfort level.

Well, a couple of days ago, I decided to take some pix of our hairbrush collection and set them up on the bed. Included in the line-up was the large brush. Cora decided that she wasn't going to let the opportunity pass her by and after I had all the pictures I needed, she issued the instruction, "Over my Lap!"

Of course, I complied. After there is nothing better than a spontaneous spanking from Cora. There was no particular reason to get spanked other that 'she wanted to'. Again one of my favorite scenarios as it comes under the heading of a 'fun spanking'. Fun for both of us!

I expected that she would pick up the Nu-West/Leda hairbrush. Instead, much to my surprise, she reached for the longer 'bath brush' and started to spank me. I could tell that this was different as it was quite intense. Cora told me she really liked this brush and would probably start using it more often. She related, "its more spank with less effort on my part". Needless to say, when she was done my bottom was very red and stinging. I certainly felt an afterglow for the rest of the day.

So now Cora's 'Bedroom Rack includes a new member. And I expect it won't get lonely. In fact we actually have a pair of these 'weapons of ass destruction'. I guess you never know when another Lady may show up and need one, too.

As I am finishing up this post, I shared with Cora just how aroused I was revisiting that spanking. "Well, then maybe I should give you a refresher". She then grabbed my arm and led me to the table where she bent me over and bared my bottom. She then utilized about half her 'Rack' and again left me with a red, stingy bottom. And as I finish this post, I certainly am enjoying the afterglow.

Oh, how I love being under her spell!

Spanking and Pain

2011-02-01T12:55:00.000-08:00

I went to the dentist yesterday. It was necessary to replace a crown and the appointment was for the preparation. Sitting in the chair, I found it more pleasant if I let my mind wander to thoughts of my Lady and her spanking me.

Now, don't get me wrong, I do appreciate the strides of modern dentistry. And I finally figured out that its much less painful if the dentist if female. Being hovered over by two delightful women (the dental assistant is also female), isn't all that bad. Then there is the aspect of being 'under their power'. Its not exactly a 'sexual' thing but I think you know what I mean. Oh, and by the way, my dentist is a really nice woman and is one of the more gentler dentists I have had experience with.

However, much of what happens during one of these processes hurts. I especially hate the 'needle' when being given anaesthetic. And after a while, holding ones mouth open can get painful, too. And when the anaesthetic wears off.... Well, its nice that there are pain meds. (BTW, I am composing this prior to taking some as I remember the disaster that occurred with one of my September posts that was made while under the influence of the pain meds).

So why is it that the pain is different when I am spanked? I can't answer that, other than there is sexual energy flowing like crazy. And I know that many of the men who either blog or keep in touch through e-Mail, have different aspects about being spanked by their ladies. Many speak of the 'excitement' both before and after a spanking, but hate the actual spanking, itself. On the other hand, I rather enjoy the process of submitting to my Lady, presenting my bottom for chastisement and letting her wail away at me. I find that if I concentrate on my breathing, things can actually be pleasant (unless, of course, I am being spanked as a result of displeasing Cora). Especially when I reach that 'plateau' when the endorphins kick in.

(Hmmm, now just where did I put those 'Request For Discipline' forms?)

Request For Discipline - A Follow Up

2011-01-28T19:09:00.000-08:00

I promised a post about the outcome of my submission of a 'Request for Discipline' form. My request had indicated a request to be disciplined last Tuesday (January 25). However, things just didn't jell and the appointment did not happen at the appointed date and time, in spite of me setting up a chair in our living room with Cora's hairbrush placed on it, along with the Request For Discipline slip.

So, it took me by surprise when after one of our afternoon naps, while getting dressed, Cora announced, "Its gone on long enough. Its time for your maintenance spanking", and literally dragged me to the bed and threw me down. "Oh, oh", I thought, "I'm going to get spanked". Funny as I wasn't sure I was really in the 'mood' for one.

Cora proceeded to unload her 'Bedroom Rack' and laid out her hairbrush, SMTR paddle, her Ferule and her small paddle (perfect for OTK spanking). As is her usual practice, she laid them out on the edge of our bed.

She then sat on the bed and had me position myself over her left thigh, then locked her right leg over mine. Since watching the Disciplinary Wives Club video a while back she found that this position is most comfortable when administering a OTK spanking.

She began with a brisk hand spanking. This was followed by her hairbrush. "Ouch" I exclaimed as she delivered some rather strong strokes. I am not sure the progression from there but at one point she was using her Ferule. This is a rather 'intense' instrument that was obtained from the Disciplinary Wives Club. Its made of thick rubber and has a plastic handle. Its slightly flexible and Cora was getting a rhythm with it. On my bottom. Somehow, she found a way to get it to 'snap' at just the point of impact. It normally delivers a 'thuddy' feel but her new technique seemed to result in a rather 'stingy' impact. I could tell she was having way too much fun. At my expense!

She continued the use of the Ferule and then developed a pattern where she would aim in a circular pattern. There wasn't much of my bottom that wasn't being spanked by her Ferule.

Finally, she finished up with her small paddle. By this time, I was nicely warmed up and the chemistry was starting to work in my body. She started to deliver some rather hard swats with her small paddle and it began to stop hurting. In fact it started to feel really great. I love it when Cora can get me to this place as it becomes a rather pleasurable experience. For both of us. And this was a 'for fun' spanking and its part of what we both enjoy.

Finally she tired out and stopped. She layed back on the bed and I decided to
'reward' her and pleasured her orally. Oh my Goddess, how I love doing that to her.

After we gathered ourselves from those magickal places we had just visited, I was informed that there may be a follow-up later this evening. She said that she didn't want her other 'Rack' to get lonely and I have a feeling I may taste the kiss of some of her favorite paddles later. However, she had me check my bottom in a mirror and I can say that its really red. Really red! Now, we had talked about taking pictures of this session but as it turned out we weren't really 'dressed' for it. So you will have to settle for pictures from a past session but Cora says the shade of red of my bottom is about the same as pictured.

And as I sit here composing this post, I have a definite 'glow' as a reminder of being spanked by her. Oh how I love her. Very, very much.

An Off Topic Aside:

Another one of our interests is Cora as a Girdle model. In fact a post on September 22, 2010 featured her modeling some of her girdles. We have participated in several Yahoo Groups that feature the glory days of when women wore them on a regular basis. Fortunately for me, Cora still enjoys wearing them and find them a source of her power. And, I think its safe to say that she has quite a following among the followers of the girdle groups.

Well, today, I had intended to reply to a message from one of the participants on one of the groups, who had indicated an interest in girdles and spanking. I inadvertently sent my response to the entire group instead of the individual. Included in that response was a link to this blog.

All of a sudden, several of the groups started to feature women in girdles either being shown as spankers or spankees.

So, I wish to welcome those of you who have found this blog as a result of our interest in girdles. I think the idea of being spanked by a woman wearing a girdle is about as erotic as it gets. Apparently, we am not alone. In fact, it appears that there are lots of you in our 'group'. Please leave a comment to let us know that you are here!

And finally: I received a comment from an anonymous person who signed as 'Virginian'. If you are the one who developed that wonderful girdle site, 'Zona' I would appreciate a private e-Mail. You can find it in my profile. But your site was one of the absolute best on the subject. And I owe you much as you were part of the inspiration that got me to taking photos of my beautiful Cora and also part of what got me to start this blog. My sincere thanks. And we have much more in common than just girdles, spanking and Springer Spaniels.

Follow-Up to the Follow-Up

Well, as promised, Cora bent me over our kitchen table and reverted to her 'Main Rack'. I definitely tasted most of the paddles and straps from her 'Rack'.

She started with one of her lighter leather paddles and proceeded to use all of the leather on her rack. 'Ouch'. She then started to go for the wood. First she choose her Purpleheart paddle and proceeded to introduce me to its 'kiss'. Now the Purpleheart paddle is rather heavy and can deliver quite an impact, and Cora made sure I felt its impact.

Oh, and did I mention that first she instructed me to put some music on. I know that when music is 'requested' that I am 'in for it'. Cora absolutely loves to spank me to a rhythm developed by music. In this case, I put on a mixed disc of Northwest Rock and Roll and I was getting paddled to the beat of the Ventures, Dave Lewis and the Wailers.

Cora decided to take a break. Funny thing is that she was so 'into it' that when she set down her cocktail glass, she broke it! I guess that she had not realised that the glass was not part of the paddling of my backside. We both had quite a laugh over this incident, but I knew that it was 'my fault', of course. Who else could take responsibility?

Anyway, Cora then instructed me to bend over the table once one and finished me up with more of the wood paddles. So here I sit a well paddled (and very happy) man.

And once more: Cora I LOVE YOU!!!!!

Ken

Request For Discipline

2011-01-24T17:46:00.000-08:00

One of the earlier posts on this blog concerned a 'Notice of Discipline' form that I had created. I had almost given up on composing it but Cora really liked the idea and 'inspired' me to finish it. It was first presented to the group last April and I have received dozens of requests for a copy of the file. (Note: the blogger software doesn't let me post Microsoft Word files). I have received lots and lots of feedback and it appears that there are more men getting spankings by their wives as a result. It has been a great success story!

Several readers have requested I compose a modified form that would allow them to present it to their Ladies as a 'Request for Discipline'. Well, I finally did it. I have attached a JPG of this form so that you can take a look at it. Again, I would be happy to share this form with you, should you find that it might fulfill your particular situation. Of course, it could be further modified as needed, although the form is rather sensitive to changes.

In order to try it out, I filled out a form I printed out and presented it to Cora. It has been a while since she has delivered a 'serious' spanking, and I put it in the form of a 'formal' request. I will post what happens!

Cora, The Principal

2011-01-18T13:29:00.000-08:00

Yesterday, our good friends, Bogey and Bacall at 'Our Bottoms Burn' published a very interesting post, "Taking a Hit For Charity". It featured a role playing scenario in a school setting where various women portrayed different roles and could be engaged to spank you. The idea was that this would be a way to raise funds for charity. As my own beginnings involved my fantasies about being spanked by my female teachers, I found this post to be most titillating. Their blog is listed to the right and I would suggest a visit.

Well, we were honored when we were asked if they could use Cora to portray the Principal. Their post also includes many other familiar woman who spank. Of course, my mind went into fantasy mode when viewing all these images.

So, its no accident that I thought more of Cora in the role of Principal. Here is what might happen if you were sent to her office to be disciplined:

She would start by giving you a stern lecture.

Next she would take you over her knee for a session with her hairbrush. Of course, she would first hike up her skirt to minimize the wrinkling.

If your behavior warranted it,
perhaps you might get paddled.

Do you think she is enjoying paddling you?

Or, she might have you follow her

to her private chambers.

"I caught you following too close!"

"Do I need to double your Paddling?"

"You!"

"Come Here!"

"... and bend over this stool."

Then after some time in the corner,

she would beckon you...

... over her lap.

And this is the view you have just before

she delivers the final part of your spanking.

Prostate Health

2011-01-13T17:45:00.000-08:00

This post will be a bit off topic but I do hope that it connects to some of the readers of this blog.

Disclaimer: I am not a Medical Professional and the following are mostly opinions expressed by me. Any medically related issues should be discussed with a physician.

I am a Cancer Survivor. In late 2002 I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. At first it was quite a shock. I was especially fearful of losing my sexuality, something very important to me. I am sure that the regular readers of this blog know that.

Once I made it through the 'denial' stage, I started to gather up resources. I decided that since the diagnosis had been made early, I would take the time to research my options. The Urologist who provided me with the diagnosis recommended surgical removal. However, I did not like the odds of losing my sexual abilities and decided to look further. I investigated external radiation treatment and radioactive seed implantation.

The physician that I consulted with who represented the radioactive seed implantation option, really impressed me. He spoke of preserving the 'quality of life' aspects along with 'curing' the cancer. He didn't promise that I would have full sexual function but his attitude towards men's sexual functions eventually led me to choosing this procedure. I really chose the physician more so than the procedure. I underwent the procedure in March, 2003.

One of the things he spoke of was of 'sexual exercise'. He said that the 'use it or loose it' saying is no myth (its one of the reasons that we don't practice 'chastity' in our FLR). In fact he spoke of the fact that many men experience an erection in the early morning hours which is the bodies' natural exercise regimen. Happily, it still happens to me!

I hadn't seen the physician who performed the seed implant procedure for a couple of years but have kept annual physical examinations as a priority. My General Practitioner is a very attractive female and I have found her to be very good at what she does. With her help I have brought a high blood pressure issue under control and now have great cholesterol numbers. This was done mostly with 'natural' medications.

Each year, usually in December, I schedule a 'full' physical. Of course this includes getting a PSA reading and the 'dreaded' prostate examination. Now, I have to admit that the prostate examination from her is a much more pleasurable experience than it used to be and its been fun to joke with her about it. Well, this time, she felt something and suggested I follow up with the specialist who performed my seed implantation.

About a week ago, I saw the specialist. His examination resulted in noting that what my physician felt was nothing more that the seeds, themselves. But we did have quite a discussion as a follow up to the procedure which occurred almost eight years ago. He asked me about my sexual functions and my response was that things were fine and working quite well. He then went on to speak of the results from other patients and that my outcome was typical of others who had undergone the same procedure. And he re-emphasized the importance of keeping active.

During my discussion with him, I mentioned that part of my sexual success is due to my wonderful life partner, Cora. I also mentioned that we have a blog that has been rather successful and gets read by quite a few. I even shared the fact that it deals with Female Led Relationships. He then suggested that I tell my story on our blog and offered his permission to name him. This Good Doctor is Peter D. Grimm, DO and he can be found quickly with an Internet search. He indicated that he would be happy to discuss these issues with anyone. In fact he is co-author of a book on Prostate Cancer, 'The Prostate Cancer Treatment Book' and is available from Amazon.

I would also offer myself to anyone facing Prostate issues. Its good to talk with someone who has 'been there'. My e-Mail address can be found in the profile which can be found on the blog.

Birthday Spanking???

2011-01-03T10:05:00.000-08:00

By now we hope everyone has survived the holidays and are having a great beginning to 2011. In addition to celebration the new year on January 1, I also celebrate my birthday.

One would think that we would utilize the traditional 'birthday spanking'. In fact its been a while since Cora has used the tools off her rack, so I was actually looking forward to the event.

However, we were hosting Cora's grandkids over New Year's eve and it was after 3PM on New Year's day when they departed for their home. Now, Cora really puts alot of her energy into her grandkids and often is left drained when their visit is over. New Year's day was no exception and the promised birthday spanking was 'postponed'.

Last night I was chatting with one of the men who I have gotten to know through my interest in spanking. Turns out we have some other interests in common, too. Well, one of the first things he asked was 'Standing or sitting'. In a previous chat with him, I shared my expectations for a birthday spanking from Cora and he was curious as to how it went. Naturally my response was 'sitting'.

Later last night, as Cora and I were enjoying each other's company, I shared some of the topics of my chat. Including the comment about 'sitting'. She indicated that my birthday spanking would still happen.

It was at that time that a comment slipped out of my mouth: "But its not the same when its not on my birthday!" Oops! I guess my cheeky comment had unleashed something in her.

I then found myself being grabbed and led into the kitchen area. I was then bent over the table and could sense that Cora was grabbing one of her tools from her rack. The impact of her first stroke told me that this was going to be a serious punishment spanking. I held on for further strokes and reminded myself to breathe.

Cora continued to punish me with two or three of her paddles and straps. And this was indeed a punishment spanking. She then, rather unceremoniously removed the pants I was wearing leaving me bare bottomed and feeling very exposed. She then continued picking out several of her tools and applied them to my bottom, quite hard.

Cora and I use 'safe words', specifically the red-yellow-green system. We feel that this is a good thing and provides for the handling of emergencies. You never know when a muscle might cramp up when being bent over, or something of that nature. Now, I can't remember ever invoking a safe word, not even 'yellow'. However, I have sensed that Cora will ease up a bit if I begin to vocalize my reaction to her spankings. But not this time. Even though I was ouching and ooo-ing, she kept up the intensity. The last implement she chose was the Nu-West Spencer paddle. Its the one Cora is using in this picture from a previous spanking. It has the largest surface area of any of our paddles and with the holes drilled into it, can really land a hard impact on a naughty bottom. Cora really layed it on me with her Spencer Paddle; perhaps the hardest strokes she has ever delivered.

After the spanking, and after I had time to catch my breath, we talked about what happened. She shared with me that she really felt good about spanking me for my comment and it had resulted in the release of much stress (and probably a little bit of anger). I told her that I knew I had deserved the paddling, that I had spoken out of turn and probably needed to be held accountable for it. And I also pointed out how satisfying it was to be 'properly spanked'. I also mentioned that I had not used any of our safe words.

I think that one of the Ladies who had contributed to the forum at the Disciplinary Wives Club had quoted Aunt Kay as saying 'a spanking is supposed to hurt'. I couldn't agree more. I still don't fully understand the dynamics of my own fascination for being spanked, but I do know that I have a desire and need to be spanked. And this time, Cora did provide a 'proper punishment spanking'.

Cora and I have been in a relationship for over five years, now. And it seems like it just gets better and better. And we seem to fall more and more in love with each other. Especially when we are able to so openly discuss our feelings with each other. The discussion left both of us aglow (OK, there was another part of me that was glowing, too).

Oh, and Cora has informed me that I still have a birthday spanking coming!

New Year's Greetings

2010-12-31T11:05:00.000-08:00

As 2010 draws to a close we have been reflecting on all the friends we have made here. We have been amazed at the level of interest in our FLR. And it certainly is great to know that we are not alone. It has been an amazing journey and we hope to continue on in 2011.

May all of you have a Happy New Year and a fabulous 2011.

Cora, Ken and the 'Girls'

Yule, the Moon and Lunar Eclipse

2010-12-21T11:09:00.000-08:00

Happy Yule!

Its the main celebration of my holiday season and this year we were provided with quite the gift: Not only a full moon on the same day but a Lunal Eclipse to boot!

The total eclipse occurred at 12:17AM this morning, here in the Pacific Time zone. This area is know for its cloudy skies and rainy weather this time of year. However, there was a slight (very slight) break in the weather and I was able to snap a couple of photos from our deck. The first is the clearest but is still fuzzy.

The second is one of the last I was able to take before the moon disappeared into the clouds. I thought it would be fun to share with my Yule greeting.

And just because the focus of this blog is Female Led Relationships and the spanking of the male half by the 'better half', here is a picture of moons of a different nature (and color):

Spanking as Stress Relief

2010-12-20T10:16:00.000-08:00

If you have noticed that we haven't posted much lately, its because we have had some of those 'distractions'. Last week resulted in the conclusion of several of these events. This included appointments with physicians, Cora studying for an examination and my own participation in a jury trial. Even though I have been 'retired' for over a year, I was still dragged into court to explain some of my actions in defense of my former employer. The result was victory for my employer and the outcome was a proper judgement. 'Nuff said.

However, these events left both Cora and I emotionally exhausted. We both had invested lots of our time resources into our efforts. Whew!

All this was concluded a week ago Friday. Then on the following Sunday while I was dressing for the day, Cora summoned me to her and took me over her knee and proceeded to unload her bedroom 'Rack' on my bare bottom.

She used all her implements and soon my bottom was nice and red. Of course, I was burning up but the sensation was most welcome. And spontaneous spankings are probably the best.

Afterwards we discussed what happened. Cora's reaction was of much relief and release. She said she felt like a burden had been lifted from her. She also came to the realization, perhaps for the first time, that administering a spanking is great stress relief for her. And it goes without saying that it is a fabulous release for my own stress. There is something about that 'afterglow' feeling.

Bill's Story

2010-12-17T12:52:00.000-08:00

We still get requests for our 'Notice of Discipline' form. (If anyone wants a copy all they have to do is e-Mail us with a request).

Sometimes I receive a reply from a requestor with information on how the form worked for them. It seems like it has resulted in several of the men getting the spankings they want from their Ladies. We are delighted to be part of the process.

Recently, Bill sent a request for one of the forms. He modified it slightly to fit his needs. He then filled out one of the forms checking the appropriate boxes. Bill's e-Mail read as follows:

"I presented this to my wife after dinner and she was surprised to read this. At first she showed that she maybe did not like the idea but then she warmed up to it. In fact she asked that I print out about a dozen of the sheets.

Well, about 9:45 last night I went down to the basement and got out the implements and set up the spanking stool. I then stripped and stood in the corner until around 10:00. She came down right on time and scolded me that I was a bad boy and would need a good whipping, which is what she likes to call our sessions. She then led me by the ear over to the spanking stool and had me lay across it. She did not use the paddle, but made up for it with her two straps.

She really used her leather strap on me good! Probably around 50 swats. After a short pause she switched to the vinyl strap for another 40 swats. She said that was enough and she completed the form and signed it. To my surprise in the comment section she noted that another whipping would be given in the morning. So this morning it was back to the basement again for a repeat only this time she used the paddle also! My bottom was red as can be last night with strap marks and welts. This morning the marks were still very visible, so she merely added to them!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you again for the wonderful form. We will use it. I hope other men get this treatment from their wives. As I said yesterday, I have a love/hate relationship with the spankings, but in the long run, I really love them."

Bill's e-Mail was sent last July. However, just a few days ago, Bill sent me a story. He has indicated that part of it is true and describes how his wife was introduced to the idea of a Female Led Relationship.

Bill has generously allowed me to share it with you. Here it is:

"When I was about 10-12 years old I learned that the thought of a spanking or reading about a spanking or even hearing someone getting spanked gave me a lot of pleasure! I even learned to spank myself when I was home alone. I would strip naked, get a leather belt and stand in front of a mirror as I strapped my bare bottom. I would get it very red and would leave strap marks. It would have been easy to stop at some point, but I always promised my self that I would get 50 swats with the belt and then maybe 50 more swats. No stopping in between. I really enjoyed this experience.

There was a family living next door to ours who really believed in spanking. Our houses were very close together and in the summer time before air conditioning I would hear the daughter getting the leather strap. I would love to hear that also as it aroused me so much. I wished that I could take her place at least once. I asked her about her spanking one day after I heard her getting spanked. She admitted that she got spanked often. She offered to show me the tops of her thighs up to the edge of her panties. I saw the strap marks and welts. I would have loved to see her bare bottom, but I was too bashful to ask about that!

So I grew up with the fascination of spanking, never having gotten a real spanking from my parents. When I got married my wife and I would play around a bit before sex. I would ask her to spank my bare bottom and she reluctantly agreed once in a while, but not very often. I asked her many times to use a leather belt or a paddle but she was really opposed to that. So I continued to fantasize about my spankings.

Recently I again asked her to give me a real spanking. This time I got a different reaction. She asked if I really wanted a good spanking and I said I certainly did. She said I should go to a professional dominatrix and have her discipline me. I asked if she were serious and she said she was and in fact she would help me to find one close to our area.

A couple of days later she was on the internet and called me over to show me a website. It was about a local woman who specialized in spanking grown men and women. She asked if I would like to visit her and I asked if she would arrange it. She agreed and phoned her right then and there. I was really getting excited about this situation. I heard my wife tell the lady that I need a good bare bottom strapping and paddling. The lady said she could do that for sure, so my wife set up an appointment for the following Saturday.

On Saturday, I drove to the studio which was in a warehouse area. I was told to go to the door marked “Behavior Modification Services” and ring the bell. (Isn’t that a great name for her services?) An attractive lady in her early 30s answered the door and asked what I wanted. I was a little embarrassed to say that I was there to get a spanking. She introduced herself as Ginger. She then told me to come in and to sit at a desk that was there. She explained that I must read and sign an agreement before it would start.

The agreement stated:

1) I had come there voluntarily to get a good spanking.

2) The spanking would be with me completely in the nude.

3) I would be restrained during the spanking.

4) I would be spanked with a leather strap and a wooden paddle.

5) The spanking would not be over until the disciplinarian thought I had been thoroughly spanked. There would be no safe word.

I read the paper and as I signed it, I was really getting aroused. At last I would get a real spanking! I was told to strip naked and to put my clothes in a locker. As I got undressed in front of this attractive young lady I had just met and thinking about the spanking I became even more aroused. If she noticed it she did not comment.

She then told me we were to go down to the lower level to the discipline room. At the bottom of the stairs was another door which had a bell on it also. She rang the bell and another attractive young lady answered it. Ginger told this lady that Bill was here for his spanking and she told me to come in and directed me into the room which was about 25 or so feet long. On one side was a brick wall and on the other was several office like partitions. I could see down the brick wall that there were two men and a woman facing the wall and they were nude also, so they apparently were waiting for their spanking.

I was told to face the wall, fold my arms behind my back, and place my nose and my toes against the wall and not to make a sound. I did that but something else was touching the wall: my erection! I was getting closer and closer to what I have always wanted. Behind me I could hear a chorus of straps and paddles on bare bottoms followed by sobbing and crying. Others were already getting their spankings!

After about ten minutes the lady in the cubicle behind me called out “Bill get in her right now! You are next!” I entered the cubicle and there restrained on a spanking bench was a young lady whose bottom had been well spanked. I saw strap marks, welts and paddle marks. She was sobbing as the lady released her from the restraints. She was oblivious to me even being there as she was escorted back to the brick wall to stand there for a while.

The lady then told me her name was Donna, and that I was there to get a real spanking just as she had told my wife on the phone. She noticed my erection and told me that I was not there for sexual pleasure but I was to be disciplined. She hand me a paper cup and a napkin and told me to get rid of “that” immediately! It did not take me long to get rid of it. She smacked my bare bottom a couple of times to reinforce her order.

Donna then instructed me to lie across the spanking bench where she fastened the restraining straps very tightly. All the while she was telling me how much I needed a good whipping and that she was going to give it to me. She said my wife wanted her to show no mercy to me. And then the restraining was finished and it was time to start!

I could see Donna select a razor strap from a hook on the wall. I heard her swish it around a couple of times and then I felt it: it felt like a hundred bees had stung by bare ass! Donna took her time to aim each swat, right cheek, left cheek, right thigh, left thigh, across my sit spot and then she started the cycle over again. Each swat was more severe than the prior one. It did not take me long to start sobbing and to ask her to please stop. She said she would stop when I was thoroughly spanked and not before.

I don’t know how many swats she gave me but it must have been around 70-80 or so. I finally got my real spanking, but it was much more than I had ever expected. I could still hear others getting it in the other cubicles and I could only imagine what their bottoms must look like compared to mine. Donna finally put the razor strap down but then she selected a wooden paddle from the wall rack. She right away gave me about 20 or so swats with that paddle, right on top of the welts from the strap. I was crying for real at this point.

Finally it was over. Donna released the restraining straps and told me to get up. I was very wobbly in the knees when I stood up. She told me to go out and stand against the wall until I was told I could go upstairs and get dressed. I stood there about 10 minutes or so and continued to hear others getting it!

Ginger came back over to me and told me it was over and that I could go up stairs and get dressed, unless I wanted some more! I said no thank you and went up stairs, got dressed and went home. My wife greeted me when I entered the front door and asked me if I had gotten the spanking that I always wanted. She asked me to drop my trousers and underpants and show her my bruised, scarlet red bottom.

She was amazed how thorough Donna had been and asked if I wanted to go back to Donna another time in the future. I said that I had enough for a very long time. She then surprised me by saying that from now on SHE would spank me when I needed it and she showed me a razor strap she had purchased at a local store earlier in the week. Apparently she had spoken with Donna after I got my spanking and Donna told her to give me another bare bottom spanking right away to refresh my memory. She did!!!! And many more times since then!"

Happy Thanksgiving (or is that Spanksgiving)

2010-11-24T19:08:00.000-08:00

OK, its Thanksgiving here in Seattle this week and I totally understand that this is a holiday that is not celebrated on other parts of our precious planet. However, I wish to take this opportunity to express something for which I am very thankful. And since a picture is worth 1,000 words, here is a savings of 2,000 of those words (and the appropriate bandwidth).

Cora, I love You!
Ken

What is this Fascination with Panties - Follow-Up

2010-11-19T20:05:00.000-08:00

The FLR Blogosphere has recently taken on the subject of men's fascination with panties. As stated in our previous post, Throck in his blog 'Spankable Husband' posted some of the best explanations of why men find this particular attraction. At least his logic made sense to me.

In addition in her blog 'A Spanking Marriage', Susan gives an excellent view from a woman's point of view. In her most recent post (November 18), she described her own curiosity (and arousal) at men wearing panties. Her husband, Barry apparently has had interests in panties for quite some time. She also indicated that she is intrigued with panties and girdles too (You Go, Girl!), and plans to explore these things with her husband.

In addition to the posts, there have been a number of comments. Rachael has placed her husband in panties, exclusively. Bogey and Bacall enjoy wearing matching panties and applying paddles to each other. Others have confessed that they wear panties and many have commented on their love of the pictures of Cora wearing her panty girdles. (That has been one of my most pleasurable activities of this blog).

Since we have started blogging last February, one of our goals has been to portray ourselves as 'real' people. We have used pictures of ourselves to illustrate our points. And while I do the writing of the blog, Cora always contributes much of the content. In addition to being my favorite model, she also reads everything, all the comments and many of the other blogs and their comments.

Well, since the 'Great Panty Topic of 2010' has generated lots and lots of contributions by many of you, Cora seems to have found that she, like Susan, is intrigued by the 'Panty Thing'. In the past she has only infrequently 'forced' me to wear her panties. I think this may be changing. Today, while preparing to go 'out and about', I was duly instructed that I would be wearing her panties. It was her idea.

So after toweling myself off, she presented me with the panties she intended me to wear, today. She held them for me to step into. Then she instructed me to bend over on the bed, and grabbed the 'She-Makes-The-Rules' paddle from her bedroom rack. She couldn't resist the sight and proceeded to apply the paddle to my pantied bottom. It wasn't a punishment spanking, so all things considered, I really enjoyed it. As I sit here composing this post, I am still wearing her panties, at her instruction. She has also found that stroking my bottom while wearing her panties can be a very erotic experience.

Cora confessed to me this morning that she is finding that when I submit to her instruction to wear her panties, that she is experiencing a further rush of power. Something new to her, at least regarding the panty thing. As she has been reading the blogs, Cora is really enjoying when she is reading and is beginning to connect with more and more of the things others are describing. And even trying out some of the things that are being discussed. This may include shaving me 'down there'. It appears that Susan's description has gotten Cora's attention.

I can't explain it but I celebrate her new-found power. As Ms. Deirdre stated in her blog, when Cora makes me wear her panties, its an erotic expression of her power which is answered by me as an erotic act of my submission to her. I don't know how, but I keep finding myself more and more in love with her.

What is this Fascination with Panties?

2010-11-17T19:00:00.000-08:00

I have been intending to write something about the subject of women's panties for quite some time. However, I have been a little reluctant as it involves something that is somewhat embarrassing to me. I know, why should I be embarrassed about my fascination with women's panties when I have posted pictures of my well spanked bare bottom'? Well, I can't answer that. So here goes:

There is just something fascinating to me about women's panties. I can't remember exactly when I first remembered when it started but I can recall paging through the various Sears, Penney's and Montgomery Ward catalogs. And based upon what I have read from many other men, I am not alone. And its no secret about my fascination with girdles and pantie girdles. Especially when Cora wears hers!

One of my earliest memories about getting 'up close and personal' with panties was when I was growing up. On some occasions I would mow a lawn for one of my mother's friends. The lawn mower was kept in her basement and the laundry was there too. Well, one time I remember seeing a pair of panties sitting in the laundry pile. The temptation was just too great and soon I was inhaling the sweet aroma of the panties. And it was a very sweet scent. I was hooked (and I still am).

I belong to lots of Yahoo Groups. Many of them are based upon Female Led Relationships but others are not. Recently in one of the other groups, there was a thread that described the experiences of many of the guys also finding a fascination with panties and many described 'up close and personal' experiences. Its obviously something that a number of men (perhaps many men) have in common with me.

A popular movie was released with the title, "Scent of a Woman". I believe there is a reason for this. Its probably buried deep in the earliest part of our evolution, somewhere in our 'crocodial brains' but I do believe that men are wired to be attracted to a woman's scent. Probably something to do with the propagation of the species, or something. Ladies take note: We are addicted to your scent!

In his blog, 'Spankable Husband', Throck describes his own relationship with women's panties. He describes himself not as a 'crossdresser' but play a part with his fascination with spanking. In addition in her new (and excellent) blog, 'A Spanking Marriage', Ms. Susan describes her husbands fascination for panties, too. And she obtained a pair of 'control panties' (oh, how I love the double meaning) for him to wear when she spanks him.

I think Throck may have tumbled onto something in his explanation of his own fascination with women's panties. He spoke of the power women have over men as it concerns the genital area of a woman. Obviously its that area that comes into contact with a woman's panties as she wears them.
For those of us 'liberated' submissive men, its no secret that we celebrate that power. It seems only natural, then to be obsessed with our Ladies panties. If this subject has gotten your attention, I would suggest you check out Throck's post of November 10. You would also find Ms. Susan's post of November 14, not only informative but an incredible example of erotic writing.

Some of the comments to Throck's post indicated that some of the guys have been made 'off limits' to their Ladies personal panties. Thankfully for me, that is not the case. I think that sometimes its a minor irritation to Cora, but I often 'steal' her panties. Its actually a game with us and one way I 'earn' a spanking. (Her current rate is 25 swats per pair).

Its no secret where I keep my 'stash', so if Cora wants to retrieve a pair, she knows where to look. And when she gets in the mood, she will 'catch' me 'red handed' and issue a Notice of Discipline (and that's why 'Panty Stealing' is one of the boxes on the form). In the meantime, I have the opportunity to enjoy the sweet scent of my lady.

Many of the men in FLR's have shared their preferences regarding wearing panties. Some just like to wear them, some are 'forced' to wear them as a result of a decree from their Ladies and some (like me) like it when their Ladies make them wear them. One thing that is beginning to become apparent is that many FLR women make their naughty boys put on a pair prior to spanking them (if you look close, you can see that I have panties lowered to my knees in the picture of my well spanked bottom).

In my case, Cora will sometimes make me wear her panties. Fortunately, Cora's panties fit me just fine. She has very womanly hips and the panties that fit her also fit my slightly too large stomach. And she prefers to wear panties that are almost 'full cut'. So I can wear them quite comfortably and I must admit, its very erotic on the rare occasions she makes me wear them. There is something about that smooth fabric that arouses me. Oh, and the fact that she has worn them previously.

Over a year ago, I had a legal issue with my eX that led to an impasse. It resulted in the need to resolve the issue in front of a judge in a courtroom. Both the judge and my eX's attorney were women. For reasons I won't go into, I represented myself. The resolution of the issue required two court appearances, but in the end, I prevailed. I took my participation in this process very seriously, including dressing the part. I even purchased a blue pin-stripe suit (think Denny Crane). However, I wonder what the other women who were participates would have thought if they knew that we were all wearing panties! Cora made me wear a pair of her panties (yes, previously worn by her), under the Denny Crane outfit. I must say that it was empowering. VERY empowering. Throck is right; women's panties are a source of power. A very large source of power.

Post Script:
Finding pictures of Cora wearing just panties was a challenge, indeed. I love to photograph her wearing girdles and such but it is rare to get a picture of her in just panties.

But, even if I say so myself, the opening picture of her pantied Derriere is stunning. She is the epitome of why I find a woman's panties and a woman's Derriere to be so attractive.

Questioning Her Authority

2010-11-11T17:48:00.000-08:00

Its been a while since I have exhibited bad behavior but today, I did. Cora was arranging some items in our living area. I chimed in with some suggestions. At least I though I was just making suggestions.

I guess I came across as more than just making 'suggestions'. So, guess what? Yep, she issued a Notice of Discipline. I am to be spanked this evening for my little transgression. Looking back I deserved it and am looking forward to clearing the slate.

But what I am most proud of, is the fact that Cora didn't let this one get by her. Instead she asserted her Authority and exercised her Power. That's what this FLR is all about. And I love her so much for it and I know I loves me enough to hold me accountable.

Post Script (7:25PM, November 11, 2010)
Cora followed through on her spanking. I was just instructed to bend over the table and she proceeded to exhaust her rack of all the leather implements.

She spanked hard and long and I feel totally relieved of my guilt regarding the questioning of her authority. I love her so much.

An Explosion of FLR Blogs

2010-11-08T16:24:00.000-08:00

... At least it seems that way.

It has been my opinion that there are more and more couples adopting the Female Led Relationship lifestyle. The reason I believe this is a result of the feedback I get from this blog, the activity on other blogs and Yahoo Groups that I follow. In addition this blog just celebrated its 300,000th hit just today. The level of activity exceeds our wildest expectations, but there must be something about FLR's that interests some of you. Many of you have requested our 'Notice of Discipline' form and the feedback I have received from those who have followed up afterwards has included the fact that more men are getting spanked by their wives. The form is probably not the reason that some of the guys have gotten their wives to spank them, but it has acted as a catalyst that resulted in the kind of communication that resulted in some major lifestyle changes. Ron's story is just one example.

When I started posting some things again following our short term absence, I received an e-Mail from James. He asked some questions about the blogging process. It turns out he had first started his blog ('SpankedMale') in 2007 and hadn't posted further until just this month. Welcome back, James and we look forward to hearing your stories.

Upon further checking, I found that there were several other new blogs including 'Husband in Check' and 'My Wife, My Babysitter' both written by men describing their own FLR with their wives. Then I discovered Susan's 'A Spanking Marriage'. This blog is particularly interesting as its written from a woman's point of view, something still rather rare. Again, welcome and we hope that you continue to share.

All these blogs have links on the right hand column of this blog and I would suggest you all check them out. I think they all have promise from what I have read. They join many of the other excellent blogs that have been around for a while which I thoroughly enjoy following, too. They are also included on the 'Blogs I Follow' list. (Note: I try to limit the 'Blogs I Follow' to those of a FLR nature written by 'real' people which don't show too much of a 'commercial' side).

And I am sure that there are even more FLR blogs out there that I just haven't hooked up with. But the bottom line is that there does seem to be a groundswell of people like us, braving the blogging waters and sharing themselves with us. I truly believe one of the positive aspects of this phenomenon is that as those who lurk read them, they will come to the realization that they are not alone and there are plenty of people like themselves.

So, come out and join us!

In addition, for those with partners who have been reluctant to join in, there are more and more examples of those of us lucky enough to be with partners who are not reluctant. Perhaps one of our blogs will comfort one of these reluctant partners to join in and find out the wonderful benefits available. One of the common themes that seems very consistent with bloggers in Female Led Relationships is the fact that they are all loving relationships. Lots of Love.

And isn't that the most important part of our presence on this planet?

A Day of Play

2010-11-06T15:09:00.000-07:00

In our last post we made mention of a 'Day of Play'. The idea was to submit a list to each other and let them pick a few items from the list. This list was to include things that both of us would find fun to do, but also include things that might not be as fun, but needed to be done.

Well, yesterday morning, I composed such a list and submitted it to Cora. She thought the idea was great and proceeded to check off the items I had listed that she wanted to do. I included three categories including, 'Sexually Related Items', 'Just Fun Stuff, Not Necessarily Sexual' and 'Not Much Fun But Things That Need To Be Done'. I included some blanks so that Cora could fill in something I had not listed.

When she had completed her side of the form, she returned it to me. From the first group she had selected three items: 'Put Ken in Panties', 'Have Ken hand-wash my panties' (note: she added 'Wearing Dog Nose' - This is the item she is shown wearing in the July 2, 2010 post), and finally 'Paddling: Each implement from Rack, based on roll of dice'.

From the second group, she added one of her own items concerning assisting her with her display shelves. She wanted to add a shelf to display a new item. She also selected an item from the 'Not Much Fun' group.

As the day progressed, most of the activities proceeded as agreed upon. First, she selected a pair of panties for me and had me put them on. Now, this is a subject that has been briefly (pun intended) addressed but I had hoped to expand on it at a later time (which so far has yet to happen). Suffice it to say that I believe that most men have a fascination with their Ladies underwear, and panties in particular. (Think of the movie, 'Scent of a Woman'). I find it an erotic act of her dominance when she makes me wear her panties. I am not one to just wear panties, although I know of some men who do. But I find it very erotic when she make me wear them. She repeated this instruction this morning, too. So far her panties have yet to be washed but is something on the agenda for today and the only thing on the list that was not completed.

Soon, I was summoned to assist Cora in the re-configuration of her display shelves. She has a collection of classic dolls, and a few other items. As was described in our June 12, 2010 post, we enjoy attending the Ballet. We have reservations for the 'Nutcracker' Ballet this December. I am sure there will be a post describing that night.

However, on a visit to a local hardware store who is known for their display of ceramic Holiday Village items, we found an animated display of a theater depicting the 'Nutcracker'. Of course, Cora wanted to display this item and we soon began re-arranging her displays to accommodate the new item. In addition, it was necessary to provide a power connection. The picture shows her new shelf with some of her Ballet Dolls. The item has the performers twirling, rotating and is accompanied with two of the Nutcracker tunes playing along. With all the lights and actions, we find ourselves sitting and watching it for hours.

After making repairs to some of the low voltage lights in our front yard (the 'Not Much Fun Things' item), we settled down for a wonderful lunch. Afterwards, we found that the whole day had resulted in us both being very aroused and the love-making was passionate.

Following an afternoon nap, I served Cora one of her favorite cocktails and poured myself a glass of wine, while Cora dressed in one of her tight, black panty girdles, stockings and high heeled boots. Shortly after making her entrance, she instructed me to bend over the kitchen table. She dispensed with rolling the dice and just decided that she would apply her own number of swats with her paddles. She started with her favorite 'warm up' leather paddle and proceeded to light the furnace in my bottom. She followed up with her straps and the swat count was definitely increasing. I don't think there would have been enough points on the dice to suit her.

Finally, she started to select the wood paddles from her rack. She used all of them including the 'school' paddle, 'Spencer' paddle and her three 'Exotic Wood' paddles. Needless to say, by the time she had gotten to the Exotic's I was really feeling the wood. This is probably the first time she delivered some solid swats from the Zebrawood and Cocobolo paddles.

Ouch! Rather than try to describe it, I think the picture tells the story.

All things considered, we both agreed this process worked quite well. After several weeks of being in the doldrums, we felt like we were having fun again. We will definitely use this process again. It, like the Notice of Discipline Form, provides yet another way to communicate our wants and desires to each other. Sometimes its difficult to express things that may be a bit embarrassing to request, but I found putting it on a list with several other less embarrassing things was much easier.

All Work and No Play ....

2010-11-05T10:00:00.000-07:00

I think I have been really dull lately. The burst of fair weather has resulted in spending most of the recent days in the yard. Doing all kinds of projects. Fences, fence posts, gates, pruning, trimming, etc. It seems like this has been going on all summer.

And with Cora getting her medications adjusted, well, there hasn't been much 'play' going on. Hence the amount of time between posts.

Yesterday I spent most of the day getting some last minute items finished up as the prediction is for the sunny weather to disappear. At the end of the day, I was rather exhausted. Cora, however was starting to get her energy back.

So while preparing one of her amazing dinners (shrimp wrapped in bacon, with a lemon alfredo sauce over angel hair pasta - something that would rival a 5-star restaurant), she instructed me to bend over the table. She then proceeded to pull most of her leather implements from her Rack (yes, its re-loaded). I got a number of swats from her various leather straps and the leather paddle. I am not sure why she kept to the leather and didn't add some of the wood. The picture shows here with one of her straps from a previous session but this time she had bared my bottom.

Anyway, I think it did move my mind-set from dull and work oriented and added some much needed playfulness to my demeanor. I could feel the sting of each stoke move like an electrical current from the point of impact up my spine. As often is the case, Cora knew just what I needed.

I am thinking of declaring a 'Day of Play'. I have thought of both of us making a list of things we want to do (both sexual and non-sexual), exchanging lists and each picking several things from the other's list. Could be the subject of another post.

Let It Rain

2010-10-25T11:35:00.000-07:00

If you live in the Northwest part of the USA, rain is very much a part of your environment, especially this time of year. Those of us who were born here take it for granted and actually (almost) enjoy the rain. This is our favorite time of the year and is part of the reason we choose to live here.

Well, I do enjoy the rain.

Unless it makes itself an unwelcome guest inside our house.

A little over two weeks ago, we experienced a bit of a rain storm. Not a big storm, but there was quite a bit of rain packed into that weekend. I first felt it while working on my laptop. Drip, drip. Followed by drip, drip....drip. You get the picture.

I called for assistance (Cora) and I first began to set out pots and pans. I also removed the window curtains as the inner ceiling at this point follows the slope of the roof and the water was running downhill towards the window and soaking the curtains.

When Cora arrived and assessed the situation, she came up with a better plan. She broke out her plasticware (Tupperware, etc.) and replaced the pots. Seems like the square shapes covered the area better than the round pans. (Why is it that expertise in Tupperware seems to be a part of the female genetic code?)

Anyway, things did come under control and our initial damage control was working. OK, it was her damage control. Fortunately, the rain was not constant and really subsided after the weekend was over.

However, this was serious and on Monday I made a call to a roofing contractor. He came and assessed the situation and gave us the good news: Our roof was worn out and needed replacing. Great! This news was followed by more good news: The Price! Yikes.

Well, there was really no choice in the matter and we made our decision on which contractor to do the job. It was decided that we could be scheduled for a week from that day (Monday). The weather Goddess smiled on us and the weather held. In fact the three days they did the roof replacement were sunny and spectacular. It went quite well and they even provided a few 'extras' for me.

I took advantage of the construction project (and the weather) to finish some of my own projects that I wanted to get done before the winter. These included replacing two fence posts, replacing fencing sections and building a new gate. There were some other things too and I found that keeping busy kept my mind off the impact on our bank account of the cost of the new roof.

Needless to say, both Cora and myself were very distracted by all this. It just took the 'fun' and 'playfulness' out of both of us. We found that keeping busy with other things was good therapy but the aspects of our FLR took a back seat. As did the spankings. All things considered, it was a productive time but not much fun. I certainly fell behind on the blog, reading other blogs and the e-Mail piled up.

And this was the first time that we unloaded Cora's 'Rack'. We are quite open about our relationship and normally leave everything on display, but felt we didn't want the contractor and his crew to be 'freaked out' by our lifestyle. After all they don't fit into the category of friends, family or acquaintances, but instead are just doing their job.

But then yesterday, a little spark returned. I know I have been running around the house in a depressed 'funk' even though I have tried to keep up my spirits. I am sure I have not been much fun to be with. Then out of the blue, on her own initiative, Cora rang her bell (one way she summons me) and instructed me to perform one of those wonderful acts of 'worship'. I eagerly complied. A little later, she said, "I know what you need". Indeed, she knew exactly what I needed. She then proceeded to take me over her knee and gave me spanking. It was wonderful. Best of all, it was her idea.

I love her so much.

Beyond the Screen Door

2010-10-08T11:59:00.000-07:00

As Cora has been developing her own Female Led Relationship style, she keeps learning new things. Just yesterday she learned yet another benefit.

Its been about 4-1/2 years since she moved in with me. However, there is something that has been bothering her ever since she moved in: a screen door that has a rip in the screen. This is one of those sliding screen doors that parallels a sliding glass door to our deck.

I am sure she has mentioned it before but its one of those things that I heard but didn't really listen. And its one of those things that I just didn't see when I look at it.

Well, yesterday, Cora decided to try something different. She grabbed me, bent me over the kitchen table, bared my bottom and proceeded to spank me. "Do you know why you are being spanked?", she asked. "No, Ma'am", I replied. "Well, this is a reminder that I want that screen fixed", was her response. She continued to spank me, probably delivering about 30 rather intense swats.

I must say this caught me totally by surprise. I had overlooked that item for several years and had no idea it was that important to her. Wanting to gain some 'points' with her, I decided that I could make a temporary fix. I removed the screen door from the deck and replaced it with a seldom used screen door from another part of the house.

This happened immediately after being spanked and the 'glow' was certainly a reminder of what I was doing.

At first, Cora had been busy with something else and was not aware that I was making repairs. Then she noticed. "If I had known that I could get you to replace that screen by just spanking you, I would have done that a long time ago", she remarked. "I guess I know how to get things done around here, now", she further observed.

So now she knows how to 'motivate' me and get things done. And in addition, a way to emphasize what she wants done. All things considered, its a win-win. She gets things done that are important to her and I know when she is serious about her requests. After all, pleasing her is my top priority.

Louie, Louie - Me Gotta Go Now

2010-09-29T18:20:00.000-07:00

I just got spanked. OK, I just got spanked again. It was for an inappropriate comment last night. Seems like it happens too often.

Cora really likes to have music playing while she is spanking as she loves to use the rhythm in the song to time her swats. (I have a pretty good idea what the cover on a snare drum feels like.)

This time, the spanking took place in our kitchen (next to her 'Rack'). She asked me to turn on the FM radio. 'Louie, Louie' (Kingsmen's version) was starting to play on the classic rock station we often listen to. Now, if you know the song, the rhythm goes something like dum-dum-dum, dum-dum and so on. So I was getting five swats for every two bars. She started out with one of her leather paddles but quickly found it to be too flexible to keep up with the drummer. So she eventually found that the Spencer paddle worked quite well.

Well, its lucky that songs from that era are a little shorter. In this case, the song is 2 minutes and 44 seconds. However, as Cora found her 'groove' there were plenty of swats applied and I am still feeling the 'glow' from her paddle.

By the way, the Kingsmen's version of this song was recorded in a small recording studio in April, 1963. The boys only had enough funds to pay for an hour of studio time and had recorded another song first. There was only a few minutes of their time left and they cut 'Louie, Louie' in one take. Little did they know what was to come. The rather crude recording made the charts more than once, was banned in Boston, banned by the Governor of the state of Indiana and led to a controversy over the alleged 'obscenity' of the lyrics. This led to an investigation by the FBI and even J. Edgar became involved.

Its a very interesting story and I was fortunate to have seen this band play 'in person' several times and even purchased the original vinyl album (which is proudly still in my collection). I also sang and played this song with some of the bands I was with. And as far as the lyrics, well, growing up in Western Washington, we all heard the previous version by the Fabulous Wailers where the lyrics were perfectly intelligible (as were the Kingsmens', in my opinion) and certainly not obscene.

Another Milestone

2010-09-29T08:24:00.000-07:00

Just a few minutes ago, the counter that tracks the page loads or 'hits' just turned over 250,000! This blog started in February and the counter on April 14 and it took less than 6 months to register a quarter of a million hits. And 67 of you are 'followers'.

Just wanted to say thanks to all of you who take the time to read our little stories.
Ken and Cora

Beginnings - Revisited

2010-09-28T15:59:00.000-07:00

I correspond with several others who are also involved in Female Led Relationships. One of them recently asked two questions and I'd thought I would share my responses with the group. The questions were:

1). What was your first spanking like, by the way?
2). How did Cora get into this?

The first question sparked memories that have been laying dormant for many years. However I know how much I enjoy hearing from others about their own 'first experiments' with spanking that I thought I would share my answer:

My first spanking. Well, other that playing with a few cousins at age 10, give or take a couple of years, probably my first 'real' spanking occurred in about 1965 or so. I would have been about 17. A cousin (another one) who was a year older than me was dating a girl who was my age. I would sometimes visit her and we did spend some time just the two of us. She was learning to drive and since I drove a stick shift, she asked me to assist her.

She was having a bit of trouble applying enough throttle so I reached down and pushed her leg onto the accelerator. I have to admit that she was wearing a skirt and in those days girls wore real stockings, not pantyhose. Well, I certainly ended up with a handful of stocking, garters and her skirt hiked up revealing the tight panty girdle she was wearing.

I later admitted to her that my action was not totally 'accidental' and that I deserved to be spanked. She agreed and we set a later date for it to happen. Looking back I think she was as curious about spanking as I was.

I even made a make-shift paddle for her to use. It was a very crude paddle that I made from a piece of wood that I found in our home (I was living with my parents, at the time). I cut it with a hand held jig saw and it was neither smooth nor square (LOL). I am guessing it was about 16 inches long, 3 inches wide and about 3/4 thick. Its nothing of the quality of the paddles I make today. After our 'encounter' I left it with her and, per the tradition at the time, carved my initials into it.

Keeping in mind this was 1965, both of us remained fully clothed. I simply bent over and grasped my ankles and she applied several swats with the paddle, in much the tradition of the way paddlings were administered in schools at the time. It ended when we heard her parents driving up. She hid the paddle and we were able to act as if nothing had happened.

Overall, the spanking from her was rather disappointing. Probably a function of the inexperience of the two of us. But it provided plenty of fantasies for the future. I am sure that I asked the girls I later dated to spank me but was unsuccessful until I started dating my first wife. I don't remember very many details of the spankings in that relationship, but spankings were definitely a part of that relationship.

I will address the second question in a later post.

A visit from Queen Bee

2010-09-27T19:19:00.000-07:00

If you look on the right side of this blog and look below the references to the other wonderful blogs, you will come to a category, 'FLR Related Resources'. Included in this list is the 'She Makes The Rules' forum. Cora and I both members, have met and consider ourselves friends with both the ladies that have created this great resource. Last night, we received a phone call from Queen Bee, who had just dropped one of her friends at the Sea-Tac airport. Having some time on her hands, she called us.

Now, the She Makes The Rules (SMTR) forum has been around for just over 2 years and is a fantastic place for women new to the Female Led Relationship (FLR) lifestyle to explore, yet also to have a totally safe and comfortable place. Queen Bee and the other moderators go way out of their way to make sure that those who identify themselves as 'women' really are female. I would suggest than any women reading this blog or any men who have reluctant or hesitant partners to check out their forum. It is truly one of the best.

Queen Bee made arrangements to drop by and we had a fantastic evening. We shared stories, caught up with each other and had a fantastic meal courtesy of that famous chef, Lady Cora! In addition, Queen Bee was treated to two of my Galaxy famous White Chocolate Latte's.

After the initial greetings, Queen Bee noticed 'Cora's Rack'. She immediately focused in on the 'PurpleHeart' paddle. It didn't take much encouragement for me to volunteer to be stunt bottom for Queen Bee to check it out. Fortunately, there was one of the PurpleHeart paddles available and when Queen Bee left, she took one of my PurpleHeart paddles home with her. Definitely an honor for me.

All in all it was an incredible evening that just happened. Queen Bee, thank you for thinking of us when you were in town.

Unbreeching

2010-09-25T16:06:00.000-07:00

Much has been written about how the bottom of a naughty husband should be bared prior to being spanked by his wife. A while back, we found a copy of "Tales Of The Unbreeched". This book was published by AKS (Alice Kerr Sutherland, I believe) and was authored by Ms. Jacqueline Ophir. The subtitle of this book reads, "A dissertation on the Delectable Art of Preparing a Culprit for Chastisement, with Particular Reference to the Adjustment of the Lower Clothing and Related Matters." The subject matter is primarily Female Disciplinarians and male 'culprits'. And the term 'unbreeching' has to do with the removal of breeches or pants, prior to administering punishment.

I believe this book is out of print, however we were able to locate and purchase a used copy. This book provides some very detailed insight on just how a Lady should prepare their 'Culprit' for a spanking. It includes the techniques of Unbreeching from the Front, Rear, Across the Knees, Under the Arm, etc. It even offers answers to the question as to 'Why Unbreech'. A sidebar is even included asking, "Thinking of Panty Punishing Your Husband?"

When we photographed our May 25 Photo Story, Cora included her own 'un-breeching' of me. I think the pictures speak for themselves and indicate the expertise with which she bared my bottom.

As you can see, she employed both the 'Front Unbreeching' position and the 'Unbreeching Across the Knees' position.

Cora, the Lingerie Model

2010-09-22T12:00:00.000-07:00

Most of the readers of this blog know that I have a fascination with women wearing girdles. Fortunately for me, Cora actually loves wearing her girdles and feels very empowered when wearing them. Many of the pictures of Cora displayed on our blog show her wearing a girdle, such as the opening picture. If she is wearing other types of clothing, its likely that she has a girdle on, underneath.

Yesterday, I shot photographs of her modeling a girdle for one of the Yahoo Groups that specialize in women wearing girdles. Cora has a following and gets plenty of feedback. Of course, I am her biggest fan and get all the advantages of her modeling skills (in addition to her skills at spanking naughty men).

One of the pictures I took yesterday show Cora modeling her open bottom girdle, pointing at the photographer with one of those 'looks' she gets when spanking is on her mind. Its not hard to imagine her saying, "You need a spanking, and I am just the one to give it to you! Now get over my lap, NOW!"

And here is a picture for those of us naughty men who can't help ourselves but look at a well rounded feminine Derriere. And while we appreciate the curves of our Ladies bottoms, just think of how they admire ours. Especially when they have just lit them on fire with the appropriate shade of red.

Just a Reminder

2010-09-21T04:44:00.000-07:00

Cora and I both love to cook. Usually she does most of the planning and cooking. She is very good at it and enjoys working in 'Her' territory (kitchen). Sometimes I will assist or even take charge of some of the things I like to cook. For example, the mornings are my time for creating some of the coffee compositions that Cora enjoys and the espresso machine is my 'territory'.

Last night, Cora cooked up a chicken breast. As it is getting a little cooler here, she decided to cook it indoors instead of having me grill it on the barbeque. I would be in charge of mashing the potatoes.

Sometimes, Cora and I have a difference of opinion about the timing of things. I like everything to be finished cooking simultaneously and she likes to complete one dish, then go on to the next, letting the previous ones set. So last night, I kept asking her when the potatoes should be started. Her response was, "When I tell you to start them". This was followed with, "Do you need a reminder of who is in charge?"

I quickly found myself bent over the kitchen table (much as the previous evening). Cora 'warmed' me up with her leather paddle, then instructed me to drop my pants. This was followed by her leather strap, then several paddles.

All the while she was applying the leather or wood to my backside, she kept giving me little corrections as to position, making sure my bottom was presented for her discipline in the proper way. In addition, she was scolding me for questioning her cooking process.

All in all, Cora was very much in charge. This was a more serious spanking for questioning her authority. She was administering discipline for my behavior and I was very much aware of how she was asserting herself as the head of this household. Just what I asked for!

Reflecting back, its been fascinating to watch her become more and more comfortable with her role as the Female in Charge. And while we really share fairly equally in our day to day lives, she is beginning to not let me get away with unacceptable behavior and she no longer hesitates to hold me accountable when I try.

Later in the evening while enjoying a wonderful dinner, the glow in my bottom was only exceeded by the glow in my heart.

Impromptu Paddling

2010-09-19T20:13:00.000-07:00

Its been just a week since Cora had her 'episode' and ended up in the emergency room. We want to thank all of you who posted comments and sent e-Mails wishing her well. All these things work. She has recovered quite well.

Quite well, indeed. This morning, I was bent over loading something into the dishwasher. All of a sudden I heard, "I like that view. I want to give you a spanking!" Well, of course, this got my attention. First, its been a while since I have been spanked and with all that happened in the past week, it was something I actually welcomed. And it was especially gratifying to hear that Cora felt good enough to spank me.

And spank me, she did. Well, actually she paddled me. Cora directed me to our kitchen table and issued those famous instructions, "Bend over, you bad boy!"

Cora's Rack is located strategically close to the kitchen table and when I am in 'spanking position', Cora has close access to her arsenal of 'weapons of ass destruction'. In turn, she pulled about 4 or 5 of her tools and applied them to my waiting bottom in turn. Its been about 4 hours since she applied her heat to my seat and it still has a rather intense burn.

I think the pictures speak for themselves. Indeed, the expressions show how much fun Cora is having and you wouldn't know it that she was just a week ago in the emergency room! You will note her use of the PurpleHeart paddle in the attached photos. You may also note that she either decided to administer her paddle on my fully clothed bottom, or perhaps was in such a hurry to spank me that she forgot. Either way, I can assure you that her paddlings are very effective either clothed or bare.

By the way, its absolutely great to get back to the basics of spanking.

Wonder Woman

2010-09-15T20:04:00.000-07:00

The past few days have been full of more excitement that we really expected. Last weekend, Cora, the pups and I ventured out with our small travel trailer to a campground about 40 miles east of Seattle, in the foothills of the Cascade Mountain Range. We were attending a seminar relating to another one of my 'hobbies'. This was actually the 'maiden voyage' of our little RV, travel trailer.

The seminar was very informative and I learned much. There was also good get-togethers with both old and new friends. In addition, I learned how to work all the systems on our little travel trailer (hot water, electricity, water, toilets, etc., etc.). For the most part we were just having a great time and fun with the participants in the event.

Then Sunday morning, at about 5AM, Cora woke me up. "Call 9-1-1", she said. She was having trouble breathing. She has asthma and its normally well under control. Not this time.

Now, Cora and I don't really have much of a reason to have a cell phone. We spend most of our time together, so we don't need to use a cell phone to keep in contact with one-another. And for the most part we spend most of our time at home, where we have the 'land line'. So here we are at a camp sight fairly isolated from civilization with no direct contact with anyone. Fortunately, most of the others in attendance did have cell phones. So one of our friends got rousted out of bed at about 5:15AM and assisted in getting a call into 9-1-1. Fifteen minutes later, the Medics arrived and Cora was soon out of danger.

They did decide that she needed to be taken to the nearest Emergency Room, so off she went. I buttoned up things at the camp and with the three pups, proceeded to follow the Medics to the Emergency Room. She was given some meds, given an X-Ray and blood was drawn. Fortunately, all was in order and I had her back home and in bed by 9AM, a mere four hours after this incident began.

It is interesting looking back on the events of Sunday morning and reflecting that there was never any consideration that I was going to loose Cora. It was just a matter of following a logical set of steps to get help to her. I knew that it just wasn't 'Her Time'. But, what was brought out is how strong she really is. Sure, she took longer to ask for help than she should have but she did.

So, it was an example of the powerful woman that Cora is. She is my 'Wonder Woman' and just keeps getting stronger. In fact, as a result of this incident, we have discovered that she has been masking some respiratory problems for several months. Now I know why sometimes she had postponed a scheduled discipline session. She was just fatigued from her issues.

She really had only a minor risk of death, but it did bring home the fact that life is precious and we should make the most of every single moment of it. And I love my Wonder Woman. Very, very much.

P.S. We will be getting a cell phone, if only for emergencies.

To Masterbate or Not to Masterbate?

2010-09-14T19:25:00.000-07:00

"A guy walks into a bar and says, 'Set me up with two shots of whiskey'. The bartender pours out two shots. The guy drinks one down and pours the other on his right hand. The guy then states, 'Two more, please!' The bartender compies and pours out two more shots. The guy downs one and pours the other on his right hand. He than says, 'Two more please!' The bartender then wonders, 'Hey, buddy, you are wasting my best Whiskey. What gives?' They guy responds, 'I'm trying to get my date drunk!'

I have undergone Prostate Cancer. The choice of physician (and procedure) was dictated by the attitude of the physician I chose. One of my fears was whether I would lose my ability to ... well... cum. One of his bits of wisdom was the fact that the 'Use it or lose it' is no myth.

Seven years later, I am still cancer free and I can still 'function'. My 'volume' is much diminished but the pleasure is still there. And I still masterbate, as I have for almost 55 years.

OK, I admit I got a bit carried away last night with my post about Christine O'Donnell's Senatorial run and her stand on masterbation. I was going to delete this post entirely but the comments were so encouraging that I decided to leave them. I thank all who did comment.

To pharaprase Lesie Gore: "Its my Party and I'll Masterbate If I Want To!

Spontaneously Spanked

2010-09-08T09:34:00.000-07:00

I got spanked last night. It was a spontaneous, hand spanking and compared to some of the paddlings Cora has delivered recently, it was relatively mild. But it left me with a nice glow and the intimate contact being over her lap feeling the slaps from her cupped hand was very erotic.

We had been hosting Cora's daughter's kids over the past weekend and while Cora thoroughly enjoys seeing the kids, she is left drained of energy when they leave. This visit was no exception.

Yesterday, she was finally getting her energy back and I think she has missed spanking me for a while. So she picked on one of my rather 'cheeky' comments and decided that she would call me on my smart remark. I think her 'reason to spank' was mostly contrived and she just wanted to give me a spanking. I love that!

"Get over my lap", she commanded. Of course I complied. Quickly, she had my bottom bared and began to spank me with just her hand. It never ceases to amaze me how she has learned the technique of spanking over the past months. She knows to cup her hand slightly and the impact of her spanks was warming me up quite nicely. And there is just something special laying over the lap of the one you love getting the undivided attention of her hand on your bottom.

Yes, it stung, however the glow from her spanking left me feeling really good. Really, Really Good!

I have described many spankings I have gotten from Cora where we used our 'Notice of Discipline' form and it has turned out to be a real good system. However, there is something special about being spanked spontaneously, right now, on the spot. I hope she will do it again.

Ebb and Flow

2010-08-29T13:39:00.000-07:00

Yes, its been over a week since we last posted something. It seems like my Muse sometimes overflows with ideas and sometimes goes through a 'dry spell'. Well, today the Muse came up with an inspiration. And I got spanked!

As indicated by the last two posts, I did earn a spanking for a previous event and it was finally delivered, although several days late. Shortly after receiving a rather 'moderate' spanking about a week ago, I found myself needing something more. This sometimes happens and I have written about this previously.

If you are familiar with our Notice of Discipline form, you may have noticed there is a box for 'maintenance'. The form can be initiated by either Cora or myself for this specific issue. Well a few days ago, I handed Cora a form with the box for maintenance, checked. The discipline was scheduled for that afternoon. However, I guess it did not register with Cora, as the time came and went and .... no spanking.

So, today while I was picking up the clutter generated over the weekend, I encountered this form. It was next to the form which Cora had issued which was described in the August 17 post. So, I placed the August 17 form on her desk, and thinking she had forgotten about the other form, placed it in our shredder.

So later, while I was doing a chore, Cora asked me, "What happened to the other form?" I replied that I had shredded it.

OK, I thought that was that. However, a few minutes later, I was handed another form stating that I was to be spanked for shredding the previous form. I guess I can't win! (LOL).

Now, often Cora will schedule a discipline session for the next day or so. Not this time. In the box for the scheduled time, she had entered, "NOW". She then proceeded to march me over to our kitchen area table and instructed, "Drop your pants and bend over!" Naturally I complied. Once she had me right where she wanted me, she stepped over to her 'Rack' to select her first implement.

She then proceeded to use each and every one of the implements on her 'Rack'; all ten of them. And this included her new Cocobolo and Bocote paddles. For the first time. Indeed, these are two very serious paddles, especially the Bocote paddle. I described them in a post on August 10, and you may note that these two paddles are significantly heavier. While she was taking the wood to me, I was wondering, "What was I thinking when I decided to make them?" They are rather pretty .... but pretty effective.

So I sit here (finally) writing this post with a very well paddled bottom. I think I will be feeling it for some time to come!

Delays and Distractions

2010-08-20T11:22:00.000-07:00

Well, I thought I would be reporting on the state of my behind as a result of the spanking from Cora that was scheduled a couple of days ago. Instead, its been delayed. On the evening of the scheduled spanking, we got caught up in the live coverage of the last combat troops leaving Iraq. This history making event was just too interesting to pull away from.

Then last night, our friend Michelle had planned to visit us. Shortly after her arrival, she and Cora decided to adjourn to Cora's closet so that Cora could share some of her wardrobe ideas with Michelle. Well, after about 45 minutes of showing and telling, these two Ladies came down the stairs. Wow! I was in the presence of two absolutely beautiful Ladies.

Its a good thing I wasn't spanked then and there, by both of them. Or was it???

In Trouble - Again!

2010-08-17T19:00:00.000-07:00

One of the blogs I am honored to share with the followers of our blog is 'Underling's Humblings'. You will find it listed along the right side of our blog. The latest post (as of August 17, 2010) features his latest drawing. For the past few weeks he has solicited input from the followers of his blog and planned to compose a drawing from the results. And the result is very, very good. I had the pleasure of making a few suggestions and in his post, he said that some of the 'glamorous lingerie' was in honor of Cora. If you haven't seen this wonderful work of art, I would suggest making a visit to his blog and check it out.

Well, in my enthusiam to share his post with Cora, I disconnected our laptop from the power and set the computer on our kitchen counter. Big mistake!

Cora was preparing to return some merchandise (she loves to shop both 'on-line' and through the many, many catalogs she receives in the mail). She had two packages spread over the counter with the return labels, invoices and a whole bunch of other papers layed out. I am sure that she had things organized just the way she wanted. However, I was not aware of her sorting system. I didn't realize it, but I set the computer on one of the return labels.

Shortly after I set the computer on the counter, Cora discovered that she was missing the return label. She began to engage in an all out search which rivaled an FBI dragnet. I joined her in her search and began to extend the dragnet to the upstairs area. Finally, I heard her call, 'Ken, come here. NOW"!

The look on her face told me I was in trouble. In her own search of the counter, she lifted the laptop and promptly found the missing document. Then she proceeded to issue a document of her own: one of those little 'Notices of Disipline' slips. Here she is filling it out.

I compose this post convicted of 'Lack of Responsibility' and the sentence is to be carried out tomorrow evening. I am to receive a 'moderate' spanking for my crime.

Of course, she is right and I gladly respect her decision and will happily report for my spanking tomorrow evening. What is special about this process is that the mistake has been identified, appropriate action has been set in motion and most of all, she feels vindicated and forgiveness is already happening. Oh how I LOVE this woman!

Note: Yes, the pictures of Cora are of her wearing a panty girdle and yes, I love it when she does. She was preparing for me to take her to lunch when the above incident occurred and was not finished dressing. (Did I mention how much I LOVE this woman?)