August 4, 2019

Implementation of a Demerit System

One of the Yahoo Groups I subscribe to included a post be a member describing a system of Demerits he and his wife use to track behavior and determine discipline to be administered.  One key aspect of their system is that it is the husband's responsibility to keep track of his own behavior.  There are even consequences if he fails to track a specific behavior (double Demerits). 


I found this idea to be not only creative but a system that could be adopted to our own situation.  So for the past six weeks or so, we've been using this system.  I now get weekly spankings and our relationship has gone from rather stale to exciting again. 

I may share more details in the future.

Ken

P.S.  We've also put our toes in the waters of male chastity.

July 31, 2019

Still into a Female Led Marriage/Relationship

Yes, we've been dormant for a while but lately things have been heating up (pun intended).  About seven weeks ago we have been implementing a Demerit system.  It was inspired by a post on the 'Spanked_by_their_Wives' Yahoo group. 

We have also been putting our toe in the water of Chastity.

I plan to post more information in the future, especially the details of our Demerit system since its working where other systems we've tried have failed.

Ken

May 14, 2019

Its Been a While

Yes, we've been 'dormant' for over two years.  Its been a rather frustrating time and I'm not going to go into details.  Just know that we're still here and for the most part doing fine.

I still enjoy reading and the subject matter includes things relating to our FLR lifestyle.  Yesterday I decided to purchase a couple of items from Scarlett Hill Enterprises.  They publish e-Zines that deal with Women-Spanking-Men subject matter.  We've written about them in the past and my connection goes back to when they were publishing with paper.



So, it was amazing when I opened up the latest 'Spank-Happy Wives' (issue number 8) and found two photos of Cora and I!  The photos were of Cora and I at our wedding and were being used to illustrate one of the letters that had been submitted to Barbara, one of the editors at S.H.E.


The above two photos appeared with the following caption:

"We couldn't ask for or come up with any better illustrations to enhance this letter then these heart & seat warming snaps from the ceremony that united our dear friends Lady Cora and her couldn't be spank-happier spouse in the bonds of marriage & world of blogging about it before the demands of doing so rendered spankedbymylady.blogspot.com dormant."

Needless to say, we are very flattered by the kind words from S.H.E.  I later corresponded with Barbara and she graciously granted permission to use anything from them in our blog.

We're not sure how often we'll post in the future but we couldn't resist sharing the results of the kindness of the publishers at S.H.E.

December 23, 2016

Spanked (Finally)!

Well its only been two days since we broke our silence with a post and we've already had five comments to our most recent post.  Thanks to our readers for not giving up on us.

Now that our light show is up and running almost on auto-pilot we've got some time that we can dedicate for other things.  (Oh, and Ms. Vanessa- Yes we have a lot of lights but if you want to see some 'mega' light shows, check out 'The Great Christmas Light Fight' on ABC on Monday at 8:00PM. A recent display featured 1,000,000 lights!)

As mentioned in our previous post, one of our readers who hosts the blog 'Our Bottoms Burn' mentioned that he signals his wife his desire for a spanking by wearing red panties.  I'm not sure but it may work both ways for them and he left a comment that he would post about 'Red Panty Days soon'.  We will definitely be looking forward to that post and any details.

I'm still amazed at the volume of material I see on the internet regarding men who are spanked by their Ladies and the connection with panties.  Often the choice to be in panties is from the wives or girlfriends (actually it seems mostly not really a choice).  But many of us (myself included) have found that its just more fun to wear panties.  For those that wear them, you know what I mean; for those that don't, you don't know what you're missing.  Archedone's left a comment that he is often 'warmed up' while wearing panties, then they are peeled down for the finale.  He also said that "when that is all I have on R (his wife)  always has a big smile looking at me". 

Well, I think its been no secret that I have converted to wearing panties almost exclusively for almost two years now.  In fact I got inspired yesterday and ordered almost a dozen new ones from 'HerRoom' one of the many vendors of ladies underwear and one of our favorite places to make purchases. 

And speaking of inspiration, Cora mentioned that my posting two days ago may inspire her.  So, knowing her preferences, yesterday morning the panties I selected were in what I know to be her favorite color.  My early morning routine includes taking our dogs outside for their morning 'business'.  Of course that means wearing something over my panties so Cora did not know what was underneath.

After bringing our pups inside my next priority is to prepare Cora's morning espresso beverage.  While grinding the coffee beans and warming up the machine I mentioned the comment about the red panty signal. I then asked her what color panties she would prefer for me to wear as a signal to her that I would open to getting spanked.  She replied, "Blue".  I then removed my outer covering to reveal that I was wearing blue panties.

So, this morning I again chose blue panties hoping she'd pick up on the signal.  She did!

After preparing her second cup of her espresso beverage she told me to bend over the table and selected the leather paddle from her rack.  Yes, Cora's rack still graces our kitchen area although I think its collecting a fair amount of dust.

Cora Reaching for Her Favorite Leather Paddle
The leather paddle is one of her favorites and rather than just deliver a few 'token' swats she delivered a rather significant dose of 'Discipline - Cora style'. 

We haven't done much photography dealing with our FLR lifestyle but I did pull out the camera and Cora snapped a couple of shots, above showing my new blue panties (I think this is the first photo of my new panty collection) followed by the one below showing the results from Cora's paddling.


I mentioned above that I had made a purchase of additional panties and I'm sure you can guess which color I chose for many of them.  By the way, do you know how difficult it is to find blue panties?

And finally while Cora was photographing the above, her keen sense of humor emerged and she told me not to get up.  Soon I felt something on my back and she took another photo. 

So in the spirit of the season Olaf (from the movie Frozen) wishes everyone Happy Holidays as do Cora and I.

December 21, 2016

We're Still Here

We hope everyone is having a good holiday season. Here, we are in the middle of running our holiday light show. Just under 10,000 lights all correographed to music. Its always fun chatting with our visitors.

Yes, its been a while since we've posted. Quite frankly 2016 has been a terrible year. A few months ago we lost one of our precious Springer Spaniels to cancer. She had been with us about ten years and was ten months away from her 14th birthday. Then there is the November nightmare.

Our own spanking activities have diminished greatly.  Oh occasionally Cora will instruct me to bend over for a few swats from on of her paddles or I might hop on her lap which usually results in a session with one of her Ebony Hairbrushes and/or the OTK Spanking Paddle.  I guess that we have been preoccupied with things that really aren't that important in the long run.

I've been amazed by the number of comments we received over the past few months even though we haven't been active. I thought I'd answer a few, esecially those which contained questions:

On December 12 Anonymous commented that his wife uses similar disciplinary methods as we have described here. He related that he gets paddled a minimum of once a week with her Spencer paddle, at least 40 swats. Oh, and she insists he wear panties, too.

On November 25 Martin mentioned the long handled bath brush that his wife uses and how much she loves to use it. I'm familiar with those and yes, it can really produce a sting with a minimum of effort. Also they seem to be easier to find that a traditional wood hairbrush. Oh, and he's another one who is pantied when spanked. Seems to be a trend.

On November 22 Phil asked if the Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes are still available. In some of my last correspondence with Leon I think he mentioned that they had found a box of them and had made them available until the stock ran out. We purchased a couple more of them. I'm sure that they are no longer available.
Cora With One of Her Nu-West/Leda Hairbrushes

On November 20 PL commented on a gift of a wooden hairbrush that his wife received from a friend. Apparently he gets a monthly review and indicated that she used it during one of those sessions and that she was very pleased with it. On the other hand PL reported that it even more painful that a paddle. Welcome to the hairbrushed hubby club!

On October 24 Anonyumous indicated that he things Cora should light up my fanny far more frequently. I agree!

On October 21 Jonathan came up with a great saying: "A paddle is dandy but a hairbrush is always handy". Actually at our house both are always handy but I love the thought. And there just seems to be something special about the connection between a hairbrush and the woman who owns it.

On August 8 Vanessa said, "Too many hairbrushes is sort of like ... too many shoes. Not possible". I couldn't agree more and Cora has both lots of shoes (including those sexy classic pumps) and hairbrushes.
Too Many Hairbrushes?  NOT

On June 20 OTKloverjohn suggested that Cora get me some bright red panties to match the color of my bottom after a spanking. I think I have mentioned that Cora has discovered that she loves spanking me while I'm wearing panties. However, the panties usually come down eventually. And my 'panty drawer' contains quite a number of them many of the my favorite color, red. One of our readers even mentioned that he wears red panties as a signal to his wife that he is interested in being spanked by her. I have been rather surprised at the number of men who openly admit to wearing panties.

And finally on March 28 Alfred asked for any ideas or directions on how to find a maintenance spanking partner. Well, in my opinion many women today are open to all kinds of things and what might have been looked as weird or strange a few years ago may now be acceptable. So I'd suggest just talking about it.  Take the risk.  What's the worst that could happen. In my case I brought up my desire and need to be disciplined by Cora just after we met. Life is just too short to waste time not getting what you want.

September 28, 2016

The 'Famous' OTK Spanking Paddle




The above photo of the lovely Ms. Dana Specht appeared on Tumblr recently.  It inspired me to compose a short post as the paddle is a copy of the Nu-West OTK Spanking Paddle.  Oh, and I'm sure some of you know that the 'Signature' paddle was a product of my very own wood shop.  They have been out of production for a while but I'm very proud to provide Ms. Specht a supply which she sold from her website.  Perhaps some of you have gotten your own bottoms warmed by one of them.


The OTK Spanking Paddle is also one of Cora's favorites, too.  She has no less than three of them ready to put into action at a moment's notice.

Indeed, I do have first 'hand' experience with how these little paddles can produce a very intense sting. 

Its been several months since our last post.  We have received a few notes wondering what has happened to us.  For the most part things here, are fine and Cora and I are healthy and doing well.  And just like all of us we've had our ups and downs, ebbs and flows as part of everyday life.  We did loose one of our precious pups just a month ago.  She was just shy of her fourteenth birthday but she gave us ten years of joy.


February 14, 2016

Hot Off the Press!

I hope everyone had a great Valentine's day.  I got Cora some of her favorite daffodils and I received a nice Valentine from her: Heart Shaped, pale at first but very red later, thanks to several of the paddles on her rack including her reddish PurpleHeart paddle.
One of Cora's Favorite Paddles: Her PurpleHeart

One of my many pastimes is I enjoy is reading.  Some of my favorite authors include Michael Crichton, Dan Brown.  I also read lots of technical items such as documentation I use in designing and configuring our Holiday Light Show.

However, I probably spend even more time reading erotic stories, especially stories that involved women spanking men.  I've even had two of my own stories published on the Library of Spanking Fiction.  There is a link to the LSF on the right side of this blog.

Well, a few days ago I received an e-Mail from Lucy Appleby announcing her new e-Book, 'Disciplined by His Landlady'.  Ms. Appleby is otherwise known as Flopsybunny on the Library of Spanking Fiction and is one of the founders.  She has written hundreds of stories many of which are oriented toward F/M subject matter which I have spent many enjoyable hours reading.  She asked me if I'd share the release of this book with our readers, so here it is:

and a link if you are like me and like this kind of story:
http://www.lsfpublications.com/index.php?id=658

I've read part of this e-Book and am looking forward to reading more.  Stories about female teachers, female principals, female bosses, have always held an interest for me and a female landlord fits right in to the kinds of things I like.  Oh and I don't want to leave out the main authoritative woman in my life, Cora.  Ms. Appleby's book sounds like it will be very interesting  and I'm looking forward to further reading.


Another recent publication is Scarlett Hill Enterprises, No Nonsense Ladies #59.  I've posted information about SHE in previous posts, especially about NNL #58 in which Cora and I were featured.  I've read a few pages of NNL #59 and it, too has been a fun read.  The publications from SHE really hit my sweet spot (perhaps in more ways than one).

Please note that we don't receive any compensation for our endorsements but I wanted to share the kinds of things I think are relevant to our blog and FLR community.