Ms. Deirdre of the 'Spanking My Husband' blog just posted something that I found very thought provoking: Turning Into A Stricter Wife. (Note: Ms. Deirdre has just posted a follow up to this post).
In her post she indicated that both she and her husband, Evan have been very happy in their marriage but that Ms. Deirdre didn't feel as 'Deirdre-Led' as she would have liked over the past few years. I won't quote her entire post but the bottom line is that she opened up a dialog with her husband.
Communication: What a Concept!
What she found is that Evan wanted her to be more 'strict' with him and take the leadership role more in their relationship. Oh, how I identified with them. Naturally, I shared her post with Cora and mentioned that I thought our relationship is in a similar state.
A couple of posts ago (August 14, to be exact) I mentioned that I expected Cora was going to deliver a rather intense paddling for my misbehaviour. Well, that didn't happen. She did give me an OTK spanking a couple of days ago for something I did but while it did turn my bottom red, it wasn't as intense as I have been feeling the need for.
So while I feel the relationship between Cora and I keeps getting better than ever, I also feel that its not as 'Cora-Led' as I would like. I would love her stricter side to come out and believe me, I know there are times I irritate her. I guess I have to admit, in some cases I may have provoked her to see what she would really do.
I know that if Cora stepped up her role as my disciplinarian we would both benefit. Sure, I would suffer a sore bottom more often but I know its something that I need in my life. I am very attracted to the Dominant Woman in Cora, however she seems to be repressing her inner Domme, at this time. And I know that she always feels better after delivering a good spanking. Both as a reduction of stress and perhaps a bit of sexual energy, too. I know I experience both of these affects.
It is interesting that just this morning I have shared several e-Mails with another husband who has been wanting his wife to become more strict. I am guessing there are lots of us who are in the same position.
So how do we accomplish getting our Ladies to be more strict? Well, in my case, this blog is a major communication tool. Cora will be reading it and I am sure it will generate lots of dialog between us. And I have already had her read Ms. Deidre's post.