December 17, 2011

Pegging

Human sexuality is an amazing thing and the subject of lots and lots of books, articles, movies and discussion between those of us affected by sexuality (that would be all of us).  There is a rainbow of orientations and I feel that I am no exception:  I am a submissive male.  And proud that I know that about myself.
I guess I was lucky to grow up in an environment devoid of guilt about sexuality.  So, I came to terms with my orientation early and have learned to enjoy (and exploit) it. So, it should be no surprise that I shared my submissive nature with Cora early in our relationship. My relationship with her is very rich and I believe we satisfy each other's needs in so many ways (not just the sexual needs, although we do a pretty good job there).

It was Deirdre of the 'Spanking My Husband' blog (sadly currently inactive) who came up with a piece of wisdom that really stuck with me and I like to refer to it often.  Some of the things I do with Cora might be labeled by others as 'humiliation'.  However, I really don't like that word or its inherent implication.  Instead, I like to think that when I bend over and present my bottom to Cora for a spanking, its an 'erotic act of my submission to her'.  I like that concept much better and it does better describe where my 'head' is at.

Many of you are familiar with our 'Notice of Discipline' and I have sent dozens of the original Microsoft Word file to many of you.  And its great to get the feedback on how well they have been received and even put to use. 

However, one thing I thought I would get questions about was the little item under 'Discipline Recommendation(s)': Pegging. 

Fellow blogger, Red over at 'Consensual Spanking', posted about this subject on November 30, 2011.  He got quite a bit of response and opened a poll.  The results of this poll is what made me feel much more comfortable about our own posting about this subject.  An admission that Cora has pegged me, too.

Red's poll (updated per December 17, 2011) currently shows 231 responses with 92 responders admitting that they had been pegged by their partners and 106 indicating that they had not been pegged but were interested.  That's almost 86% of responders indicating that they either had been or were open to the idea of being pegged.  Only 14 % indicated that they were not interested.  Wow!  I had no idea that Red's poll would be so overwhelmingly open to this subject.

In case you weren't aware, 'Pegging' is a term that was coined by a local columnist in the Seattle newspaper, 'The Stranger'.  And, if you don't know, 'Pegging' refers to being 'taken' by your Lady while she is wearing a 'Strap-On'.  There is an excellent description on 'Wikipedia'.  Just enter 'Pegging' into your search engine and you should easily find it.

So, I finally decided to 'come out of the closet' and admit that Pegging is a practice that Cora uses on me.  I have been reluctant to admit that we engage in it, but with the numbers from Red's poll, I decided to post about it.  Some connect this practice with homosexuality, but I can assure you, I am as heterosexual as they come.  (Not that I have anything against our homosexual brothers and sisters; in fact both Cora and I have several homosexual friends and embrace their sexuality, as well as our own).

While we don't really use Pegging as a form of 'punishment', it certainly fulfills Ms. Deirdre's definition:  I am feeling very submissive to Cora when she is 'taking me' but its a very erotic experience and feeling.  Erotic, indeed.

There is so much more that could be discussed about this and Cora and I would be willing to share some of our experiences, preferences for 'tools' and even some 'educational' material, but we thought we'd see the initial response.
What do you think?????????


Update:

The above was written at the beginning of December (with the exception of the updates to Red's poll data).  However, as most of you know, we like to include pictures that help illustrate the subject of the post.  In this case, we had nothing in our 'archives' that would be appropriate.  So we planned on taking some pictures that would show Cora in her Strap-on harness with the dildo 'mounted' accordingly.

Well, sometimes the best laid plans get delayed and this was no exception.  So finally earlier this evening after returning from a little shopping, Cora instructed me to 'stay downstairs'.  She had something planned.

So I occupied myself with some computer geek stuff and waited.  Soon I heard Cora come down the stairs and slip into the living room of our house.  As the lights on the stairs were dark I did not see her.  Soon, however, I heard her beckon me, "Come in here."

Much to my surprise, Cora had dressed up in one of her all-in-one girdles, stockings and boots.  In addition, she had donned her strap-on harness, a red dildo and trimmed everything in garland and a battery powered set of Holiday lights.  She topped it all off with a Santa hat.  I laughed out loud. 

"Lets take some pictures", she said, smiling.  So out came the camera and you can see some of the results.  I must say that Cora's creativity NEVER ceases to amaze me.  I have no idea where she comes up with these zany concoctions but I am so thankful that she does.  Getting her in front of a camera is always an adventure.  Oh, how I love her!
Cora and Her Electric, Holiday Dildo

So Happy Holidays to you all.  And for the gentlemen who read this Cora has this advice: 

"Be Good or Else!"

9 comments:

James said...

Great Post Ken:

I think "pegging" is something most submissive men look forward to from their Domme Partners.

I wrote early on in my blog about an encounter with "S" who, led me into the world of strap-ons, and I never looked back, (so to speak) lol.

My Wife occasionally will use a strap-on with me, although it's not her favorite thing to do. But She knows I enjoy it, and She does it to please me.

Nice to know others also enjoy it, and we are lucky to have the Women in our lives that we do.

James

Our Bottoms Burn said...

Morning Ken, I also have a post of Pegging that is simmering until ready to post. Maybe after Christmas? It takes a different tack, but perhaps you will find it of interest.

Can you be Alpha and enjoy Pegging?

joeyred51 said...

Thanks for a terrific post Ken. I appreciate your openness with us.

joey

juliesp said...

Ha Ha! I knew it! I can't imagine a dominant wife who would not want to take her husband as if he was a girl.

And with any fucking in the bottom, it's a fine line between pleasure and punishment. Just a few extra strokes, or one or two extra deep ones, or pushing in just a tiny bit before he's ready... "oh, did I hurt you dear? I'm so sorry."

Tell me Ken, has Cora made you get down on your knees and take it in your mouth as well? I now make my david do that regularly before his peggings.

Harry Haversackers said...

Not all peggees are submissive guys. Really, all you need to try it is a kinky nature and a liking for pleasurable sensations. However, I think you'd find that there is a certain amount of power exchanged, regardless of how the relationship of the two involved tips (or doesn't)

SometimesSpanked said...

Ken- thanks for coming out of the closet (ha!) on this one :)
I'm one who anxiously is looking forward to being pegged by my Wife. I've bought the strap-on, and showed it to Her. But it's Her decision when to use it, and she hasn't brought the subject back up.
So, another one here, lol!
Yes, I find pegging by women exciting, but not interested in being taken by any guy, so same here as yall.
Cora looks ravishing btw... happy holidays!!

Rob said...

We do this on occasion, but always for pleasure. That said, there is a definite power exchange when we play this way. My spouse loves my reaction.

Love the pictures, Ken. Most festive.

Rob

Dana said...

Ken,I am so glad to see material about this subject, and I congratulate you and your wonderful Cora for your candor and honesty. I recently posted my latest pegging experience, that is very much a part of my and the Beautiful wife's relationship. It took me a while to understand it as a beautiful part of my submission to her. Not to mention the mental and to be frank-physical acceptance. Some may think of it as a humilation but we don't. I consider it to a way to show my love and to further acknowledge my committment to this relationship. It has also taught me to trust which has always been an issue for me. Using a bigger and wider strap on dildo and with an patience and kindness got me through it and got me to accept both the dildo and the love in which it was used. Thanks again my friend. You and Cora continue to guide us on our path.

Aimee said...

Pegging is lovely, totally erotic and something that both sissy and I enjoy greatly, but it is definitely not something we use as punishment. (Though I can see where, especially for a sissy locked in chastity, it could be used as a total sign of submission and denial).

Mistress Aimee