It took a while to recover from our Holiday season. We put lots and lots of focus and energy into our light display. Lots. However the results were really satisfying and the interaction with people who stopped by was incredible.
So we also back-burnered our spanking activities. It was just what we did (or didn't do). So it took some effort to re-start things.
Prior to our decision to implement weekly maintenance spankings, I discovered two books authored by a delightful woman, Ms. Francy. The first book in the series is, 'Spanking the Male Mind' which is followed by 'How to Spank Your Man'. I highly recommend both and will described more about those two books in a subsequent post.
So I convinced Cora to read these two books. Since they are e-Books it was necessary to print them out. Both Cora and I are old-fashioned in that we like books we can hold in our hands and often read them while relaxing in our bed. Ms. Francy's writing was very insightful and it was like she was looking deep into the dark corners of my mind. Her writings were describing me to myself better than I have even been able to accomplish in the past. I told Cora as much and that she should consider that most of what she read applies to me.
The books are aimed at the female part of the FLR relationship and explains why a woman should not only spank her man but that there are many benefits for her. She goes to great lengths to explain that its not unusual or 'evil' but natural and a gift of love. Among the benefits Ms. Francy highlights are, 'Emotionally Healing', 'Fulfilling', 'Fun and Imaginative' and 'Sexy and Stimulating as all Get Out!'
Yes, we are like that. At least I know I am and from what I have read from other men in spanking relationships with their wives and girlfriends, I am sure I am not alone. And when I am being spanked I now know why I need to be spanked hard. Very hard. And Cora now knows why.
In the past Cora would modulate the intensity of her spanks based upon my reaction. If I ooo'd and aaawwwed and said ouch lots, she would back off. Sometimes she would back off just a little but I could tell she was reducing the intensitity of the way she was spanking me. I tried to tell her to not let up, but it was only after reading Ms. Francy's books that finally convinced her not to back off. I also now know myself better and why I want to Cora to administer a 'good hard spanking' when the time comes for discipline. I am now a much happier man even though its much more difficult to sit comfortably.
There is another tool that I have found that helps Cora 'get into the mood'. We recently upgraded the TV that we watch in our main living area. Its one of those 'Smart TV's' and even does 3-D (you should see the movie 'Hugo' in 3-D). One of the features of this TV is that I can plug a memory stick into a USB socket and the TV will display what's on it. This includes pictures and movies. So I loaded a memory stick with pictures of women spanking men, Cora spanking me and videos of women spanking men, mostly in the OTK position and many with ebony hairbrushes.
Just last Saturday after a nice afternoon nap, I set up the videos to play on our TV and waited for Cora to finish dressing and to come join me in our living room. When I heard her come down the stairs I started the video. 'What's This?' she asked as she sat down next to me. I just ignored her question and watched her reaction. I have always know that I am a 'visual' being and love images of things that touch my erotic side and arouse me. I think that most men are known for that aspect of themselves but it has been my experience that women are affected less by visual stimulation. I am beginning to realize that may not be the case. At least with Cora, the visual stimulation works. And works very well.