I am guessing that many of you who read our blog probably thought that Cora and I have been married. Well, we have been in a loving, committed relationship for over seven years but not married, at least in the 'legal' sense. Those of you who have gone through the process of dissolving a marriage know that the forces behind the concept of 'marriage' really involve the legal arena with lots of contributions from things financial. So for us, things had been advantageous for both of us to remain single. At least until the first of this year.
At that time we decided that marriage made financial and legal sense and proceeded with the process. At first I think both of us thought that getting married would be 'no big deal', just paperwork and such. I must say that we were really wrong. Getting married turned out to be an incredible adventure and lots of fun.
Once the decision to get married was made, there were lots of things to take care of. Marriage License, who would perform the ceremony, who would we find to be our witnesses (two required in our state) and how would we handle the details of the ceremony.
Getting the license was mostly just hop into the car and head to the courthouse, show our identification, and pay the fee. Finding just the right person to perform the ceremony turned out to be a challenge. However, we did find the perfect 'Officiant' (as we found out is the official title) to perform the ceremony. Karina turned out to not only be available to perform the ceremony but we quickly determined that she is a 'Kindred Spirit' in many ways. And not only did she compose a most beautiful ceremony but also offered her home for us to perform the ceremony and even consented to appear in pictures on our blog. We were also blessed with finding two very special friends to stand up for us as witnesses who were open to some of the things Cora and I do.
Naturally, I thought I'd like to combine the concepts of our Female Led Relationship into our ceremony and emphasize Feminine Power and Cora's authority in our vows. I shared some ideas with Karina and she incorporated them into her ceremony and enhanced it with much of her own input. She even checked out our blog and did further research into the FLR thing we do. She certainly went above and beyond and created the most spectacular wedding ceremony both Cora and I have ever seen. We set Friday, January 18, 2013 to be 'Our Day'.
The ceremony began in a traditional manner but Karina always spoke of 'Wife and Husband'. Cora and I both noticed that right away.
Needless to say, her words touched both of us deeply. Very deeply.
Following the pronouncement of becoming 'Wife and husband', Karina indicated that I could kiss my beautiful bride. Which of course I did. Both our hearts were singing.
To be continued.