April 29, 2010

Beginnings - Part II

I have received many wonderful comments to my previous post regarding my own 'beginnings' into Female Led Relationships and the spanking that goes along with it (at least for me). It has been amazing to hear from several of you who appear to be about my own age with similar beginnings. My sincere thanks to those who have shared their own experiences. If you are reading this for the first time, be sure to look at the comments.

My 'youth' spanned the 1960's. My parents took their yearly vacation during late July and early August and almost always included a trip to the 'big city' where we took in some of the festivities of the 'summer festival' held there. I remember one summer (perhaps 1963 or 1964) that I was becoming rather bored with hanging with my parents. I suggested that I grab a bus and go home and leave my parents to enjoy the rest of their time without having to worry about entertaining me. They agreed and off to the bus depot I went. I had a bit of time to kill and decided to go 'exploring'.

As it turned out, not too far from the bus depot was the part of town that catered to ... well, ... Adult Book Stores! Being the curious lad that I was, of course I succumbed to the temptation and decided to check it out. What was the worst that would happen? I would just get kicked out. After all, I had looked at (and purchased a few) of the 'stag' type magazines in my home town.

Well, I guess my money was as good as a 'real' adult. So, I looked around and pretended that I knew what I was doing. As you can imagine, the material I saw was many orders of magnatude more explicit that the 'stag' magazines I had seen before. Then I saw it! An entire section that was dedicated to BDSM! They called it 'bondage' even though some of it was just pure spanking. It seemed like I had hit the 'mother-lode' and it was also very interesting that there were publications that dealt with 'bondage' and spanking, even Females spanking males (you mean there are other people into this stuff???). I asked for a closer look at some of the magazines (many were inside a glass counter) and ended up purchasing a number of magazines and paperbacks. I still have many of these purchases in my collection including some of the Mutrix books and two or three copies of 'Bizarre Life' (still one of my favorites and still in my collection). Over the years I bought every copy of this amazing magazine I could find and have about a dozen different issues.

I had some more time and did some futher exploration along the same street. I discovered quite a number of these stores and checked them out. It seemed that the first store I entered catered more to the 'specialty' items but found that most of these book stores all had 'bondage' sections. One of the stores in particular, was a classic example of the 'dirty book stores' of that era. This store even had packs of photographs sealed in clear plastic and clipped on wires that spanned the store. Most of these pictures were probably produced by some of the famous photographers in New York. I am sure that pictures of Betty Page were included in some of the selections. I purchased one of these items although it was photographs of a female spanking another female. At least it was a woman doing the spanking!

As the time of my departure was nearing, I headed back to the bus depot. I couldn't resist looking at my 'treasures' on the bus and had found a seat that seemed isolated. I took very careful peeks at what I had purchased. As you can imagine, this was very 'stimulating' reading material. Upon my arrival at home, I made sure I had a secure 'stash' location, and I still have many of these first purchases in my collection.

Reflecting back (its almost half a century), its interesting to note how things have changed. The subject matter is the same but oh how the media has changed. The bookstores were rather sleazy, were usually in the part of town considered 'not so good' and you could mostly buy books, magazines and a few 8mm films (remember those?). While the stores lasted for quite some time, the magazines got glossier and video tape became available. Also, spanking crept into some of the more 'acceptable' magazines. Mr. Magazine and later Penthouse, especially, started to include 'letters to' sections and later Penthouse published a seperate publication (Variations). You could purchase a magazine that included spanking stories from the corner market! Soon, companies sprung up that dealt with spanking exclusively, such as NuWest and Scarlett Hill. Some of the best material out there was only a money order away.

Another thing that developed was the 'female-friendly' shops. During the early years of my 'explorations' you never saw women in the shops. Later in the 1970, you may see one or two but always with a male escort. Then some clever entrepreneur came up with the idea of setting up 'sex shops' in better areas of town and would also target the female audience. In addition to mazazines and DVD's these stores also have racks of rather sexy clothing, skyscraper heels and real stockings. And many female customers.

Watching this evolution has been very interesting to me and I believe really underlines the sucess of the sexual revolution. But, nothing was as revolutionary to the 'scene' as the Internet! The first manifestations of the 'new' technology were local bulletin board services that dealt with sexually explicit subject matter, some of which catered to the Spanko community. This was the time of 300 baud modems (1200 baud if you could afford the latest technology), and the exchanges were mostly all text. Pictures were yet to come. My first recollections of these bulletin boards were probably in the early 1980's. In fact I had set up a bulletin board (although not sexually oriented) on my own computer. This was a Z-80 (8-bit) NorthStar Horizon computer that I had running a multi-user operating system, something rather ahead of its time. My system featured 4 banks of 64K memory and had a 15 Meg hard drive (that's right K and Meg). Later, the internet replaced the bulletin boards and 56K modems replaced the slower ones, and eventually evolved to the high speed sytems most of use today. There is also much better barriers to keep young 'lads' away from this stuff until they reach the age of consent.

I thought it might be interesting to correlate some of this history along with my own beginnings, to illustrate how things have changed in what seems to me, to be just a few years (well, OK, decades). We now have an incredible amount of access to information, and to each other. The Internet has allowed our community rather easily find each other and to join together through Forums, Groups, and yes, Blogs. I am sure that like myself, one of the early 'discoveries' on the Internet was the Disciplinary Wives Club. I also know from looking at the stats on my counter that those of you who read this blog come from all over the planet. We truly belong to a global community. I believe that this is a 'Golden Age' for those of us who follow the Female Led Relationship lifestyle.

April 21, 2010


I have wanted to post something about my own beginnings in this lifestyle. I have enjoyed reading how others have gotten into this lifestyle. It is especially interesting when the discussions include something about 'are we born this way' or do we 'evolve' into this lifestyle.

There is some conjecture that we may be born 'wired' into this lifestyle. However as stated in the introduction to his book, "Dragons of Eden", Carl Sagan said, "Most organisms on Earth depend on their genetic information which is 'prewired' into their nervous systems, to a much greater extend than they do on their extragenetic information, which is acquired during their lifetimes. For human beings, and indeed for all mammals, it is the other way around." I will leave the answers to this questions to the experts but it appears that we may be less 'prewired' than influenced by our environment.

I was not raised in a strict parental environment but instead in a rather liberal one. I was not spanked in a formal sense but occasionally received a corrective swat on the seat of the pants. I was also not raised in a strict religous environment but instead was encouraged to make decisions of a spiritual nature later in life, when I had more information. Thus I grew up in an environment that was relatively free of 'guilt'. (Note: I intend to keep my own religious beliefs to myself and I do not want to see anything on this blog regarding pre-conceived religious notions: I will defend anyone else's right to their own beliefs, as long as they respect my right to my beliefs. This is a place for exchange of thoughts and ideas regarding Female Led Relationships and I have seen too many 'flame wars' erupt regarding the religion issue on other forums.)

I grew up in the late 1950's and early 1960's. Corporal punishment was still practiced in public schools during this period. My first exposure to women who had authority over me (other than my mother) was when I began attending school. I found something very fascinating that my teachers (all female through grade school) had much control over me, including the possibility that I could be subject to their discipline. As observed on another blog, something that also was happening during this time was the afternoon 'cartoon' shows that were directed at children during this period. I remember when we first got a television set (a Sylvania 'table model'). A number of the cartoons dealt with a morale message: 'Be good or there will be consequences'. Many of these cartoons showed spanking as the consequences. I especially remember a 'Little Lulu' cartoon where Lulu had a stamp, 'I got Spanked' that she used in her diary. Also, I am sure many of you are aware of the clock shown in the Disney movie, Pinocchio which portrayed a woman spanking a child.

While I witnessed spankings previously, it was my time in the fourth grade that may have been my own 'turning point'. Something to keep in mind was that in this era women still wore skirts and dresses, heels, stockings (not panty hose) and girdles. My female classmates also wore skirts and dresses. My fourth grade teacher was a handsome woman who was very kind and not especially strict. However, there was something very powerful about her, probably a function of her position of authority knowing that I could be subject to discipline (in the form of corporal punishment) anytime I mis-behaved. The way she dressed was part of the image of her power.

My fourth grade years bridged the years 1957-1958 and I would have been about 10 years old during this period. I am sure this was the time I 'matured' sexually. It was literally 'the perfect storm'.

Our classroom was arranged in 5 or 6 rows of desks with about 5 or 6 desks in each row. These desks were not tied together like some desks were. My fourth grade teacher would roam the classroom and at times pass between the desks. Thus at times she would pass between my desk and the desk just ahead of mine. If she was facing forward, her Derrierre would be only inches away. Wow! In addition, she had a rather stong feminine scent. She was transmitting pheromones on my frequency and my receiver was getting a very strong signal. Imagine my state of mind when she found it necessary to paddle one of my classmates... and in front of the entire class. Oh, how I became hooked!

I witnessed further paddlings in the fifth and sixth grade. I was not the recipient of corporal punishment during my school years, but wish I had at least asked one of my teachers to paddle me, just to find out what it was like. There were several times when I was assigned 'sentences' and would have had the option to opt for a paddling. I still wonder what it would have been like.

I knew that the idea of getting spanked by a woman was connected to my own sexuality. Oddly, I didn't consider myself unusual or 'odd'. I recognized that not everyone felt this way but I had 'permission' to be this way.

Amazing Activity

I started this blog in February and just 8 days ago installed a counter to track the number of hits. I don't have any idea of the activity prior to the installation of the counter but I was getting about 500 hits a day for the first six days. Yesterday I logged 1,389 hits and today the count is almost 1,200 with plenty of the day left.

I am feeling very humbled by the activity that this blog seems to have attracted. To all of you reading this, a sincere thank you, especially to those who have chosen to be 'followers' and especially to those who have left comments.

I have been interested in being spanked by women for over 50 years, but with the evolution of the internet, this is truly the 'Golden Age' of Female Led Relationships. To those of you who are younger, please be aware that this tool is awesome. It is especially encouraging to see the growing number of women who are actively participating in the discussions of this lifestyle. I know that the men who follow this believe we are all better when we are held accountable by our female partners.

By the way, all the pictures that I have used on this blog are ones I have taken myself, and feature my most beautiful Lady! And let me assure you, she is very real!

April 19, 2010

Notice of Discipline Form - II

I have been amazed at how much activity and feedback I have seen from my 'Notice of Discipline' Form. I have seen it discussed on other blogs and have received quite a few requests for the actual form. I am still willing to send a copy to anyone requesting it as I still haven't figured out how to make the file accessable directly from my blog.

As much as the 'form' has become an integral part of the process under which I am disciplined, my Lady sometimes has been unable to carry out her 'sentence' (sometimes life just gets in the way). The result was that we had a backlog of four forms. Finally while serving her coffee this morning, we discussed the barriers to our process. She indicated that when I sometimes go into my 'Geek' mode and bury myself in my 'man cave' in order to problem-solve a problem (which can happen quite often), she felt uncomfortable interrupting me to administer her discipline.

My response was that she need to take ownership of her power as the Female Head of this Household. One of the ways we have implemented her power is the use of bells which have been placed near her bedside, her favorite chair and in her bathroom. I suggested that she simply ring her bell and issue a simple instruction (command?). This could involve, sucking on her toes, kissing her Derrierre or serving her a glass of wine. The result would be to bring me out of 'Geek' mode and could easily followed by her administering discipline.

We followed up on this idea just this afternoon. She administered a thorough OTK spanking using her hand, hairbrush, DWC Ferule (She is holding it in the pic), SMTR paddle and a small purse paddle.

Wow, did she set me on fire. And since she had been holding off disciplining me, she found that she had missed spanking me and really was having fun with the large variety of implements she has available. In fact she was making fun of the sounds of the paddle impacting my bottom and the similarity of the 'tick-tock' of a clock and began exploiting this connection. I won't even go into what happened when the alarm went off! Then later this evening, she had me bend over the kitchen table and administered about a dozen swats with her purpleheart paddle. Now, having been spanked this afternoon, 12 swats with something as heavy as her purpleheart paddle were very intense.

I write this post as a well spanked man. (one down three to go!)

April 11, 2010

Notice of Discipline Form

I have received several requests for copies of the 'Notice of Discipline' form which was described in one of my earlier posts ('Style' posted March 2, 2010). Some of these requests came from a delightful get-together My Lady and I attended today, locally in Seattle where we met some wonderful people. I was hoping to be able to upload a copy of the Microsoft Word file to my blog but the blogger won't accept anything other than certain picture and video file types.

However, if you are interested in a copy of this file, which you could modify for your own use, please send me an email request at: SpankedbyWife@Yahoo.Com and I will respond with a copy. I can also furnish a RTF file format if you don't have access to Microsoft Word.

April 10, 2010

My Ladie's Rack - II

With all the new 'tools' I have made for my Lady, I found that we were running out of space to display the fruits of my labor and that she wanted to have access to not only her 'new' tools, but also others that have been in our collection for some time. So, I took on the design and construction of a new 'rack'. The details of the construction are on the 'At Her Feet' forum.

Here is the finished rack with ten of her favorite 'tools of ass destruction' hung, waiting for her to place them into 'action', hung just below her Certificate of Authorization as described in the March 2, 2010 posting. (What have I created?!)