July 26, 2010

I Saw It On The Net - It Must Be True

I found the following posted on one of the Yahoo Groups this morning:

1).  76% of all men in happy relationships are spanked when they screw up.

2).  97% of men that are spanked get more sex.

3).  100% of the women that spank are sexier than non spankers.

4).  92% of spanking relationships have 88% fewer arguments.


Now, you may need to consider the source, but haven't you ever thought about the statistics of a FLR?

July 19, 2010

Spankless in Seattle

I had great plans for some teriffic posts recently but life has pitched a bit of a distraction our way.  Nothing major but my Lady, Cora woke up about two weeks ago with a stiff muscle in her shoulder/neck area.  Thanks to two visits to her physician, some muscle relaxant drugs and plenty of time with the heating pad, she is getting better although not yet back to 'Normal'.

I have found myself spending more of my time tending to her needs and perhaps even a bit of time just in 'worry mode'.  Its just the kind of thing that happens to all of us. 

One of the results, naturally is that Cora has been unable to administer any discipline during this time.  Naturally, she does not want to make things worse.  However, she did put me on notice that I should expect a return to normal by the end of the week.  And she warned me that there is a good chance that I may find difficulty in sitting at some point during the upcoming weekend. 

But rest assurred, there are plenty of other guys getting their bottoms spanked by their women.  Ron has provided an awesome description of a 'punishment' spanking he received and I will be posting it soon.  In addition, several others have reported being recently spanked by their wives.  It appears that women spanking their men is definitely on the rise.

I may be Spankless in Seattle for now, but the rest of the country is not following this trend.

July 11, 2010

Ron's Story - Part II

Here is the conclusion to Ron's Story.  Ron has graciously given me permission to share his story.  He has gone to great lengths to document the events of last Thursday with his wife.  Most of the following is in Ron's own words and again, I have highlighted them in Bold Italics.

Part Two

Ron sent me several e-Mails on Wednesday. He cleverly titled these e-Mails, 'anticipation'. Now, for those of us fortunate to have received a spanking from our ladies, where we have been informed that the spanking will take place a day or two later, know all those feelings that happen after the notification but before the actual spanking. Ron was no exception and shared many of his feelings. His comments included, "Breathing is difficult right now", "More than 24 hours still to go and my stomach is churning, can't concentrate and well, just love this feeling", and "Am dying inside, wow."

Ron's wife was also caught up in the pre-spanking excitement and texted Ron with, "... your bottom will be hotter than the weather tomorrow!!", "you will get the spanking of your life tomorrow, so be ready!" and on the morning of the scheduled spanking, informed Ron, "I can't wait to spank your bare bottom later!"

In Ron's own words, he describes his own preparations for the day of his spanking:

"I was on the road this afternoon. I stopped at her office and gave her a card, a thank you card. Expressed my love of course and thanks for allowing me to give myself to her and for her to punish me the way I need and deserve. Expressed my love and told her how much it means to me that she will spank me this way. In the card I gave her a nice gift certificate for her nail salon so she can pamper herself, as I said before most of our money goes to the kids so I wanted her to do something for herself. On the back of the card I made some comments and wishes for tomorrow:

1. Have fun,

2. Do what she wants to do and not feel forced.

3. Bend me over the bed so I can see her paddle me for a while.

4. Finish me over her knee with her hand.

5. Use the colors, I reminded her that she is in charge but I am in control with the colors, so she should not worry about hurting me.

6. Have fun

Now I received two text messages, one saying thank you. But then text two said, "you will get the spanking of your life tomorrow, so be ready"!

Having trouble breathing right now, lol.

I then stopped at Victoria Secrets and purchased one white silky panty and one Kansas City Royal blue panty. Bikini but full silk panties. I also purchased a white, lace bra. I love white panties. I then stopped at Macy's and purchased a silky, slinky white half slip. My plan is to leave the bra, slip and blue panties on the spanking chair with the brush and the paddle."

 On Friday Ron e-Mailed me a very detailed description of his session with his wife. Ron's own words describe very elegantly what happened. I first received a short indication of how things started:

"Oh my. I was just severly scolded for not finishing my chores. Was told to give the dog a treat, lock up the house and 'march my naughty ass upstairs for a good spanking!'".

Ron later followed up with a very detailed description of what happened:

"Well the set up in the room: I place the kitchen spanking chair at the end of our bed. The white bra was placed over the back, the blue panty and white slip on the seat of the chair. I laid out the fanny paddle and brush on the bed. Unplugged the clock radio, not time limits, put the ipod on low, Lady Antebelum and Kenny Chesney, nice and cool with the air on high.

Showered, dressed in white underpants, white shorts and a new golf shirt, will explain that later.

Well I sent you the note yesterday, so from there, I did what I was told, waited to hear her done in the bathroom and went upstairs. I opened the door and she stood there, in the bra, slip and blue panty, holding the brush in her hand. The chair was already moved away. She walked over, hugged me and looked me in the eye and asked if I really wanted this, I told her was never more sure except for when we got married!!! She backed off and asked for a color. Green Ma'am was my response.

Well she sat on the edge of the bed, called me over and began another soft scolding about my chores and being spoiled and naughty. Was awesome, no yelling. She then lowered my shorts. Then stood up and had me bend over the bed, hands on the bed, she moved my bottom so it was in the right position. She then began spanking my underpants lightly with the brush, quick, sharp and with purpose. Not hard. Now my first sign that she did some studying, she spanked my sit spot and added some spanks to the lower part of my thighs!!! Not sure how long it lasted but was not hard. She then stopped, rubbed my bottom and then picked up the Fanny Paddle. She slowly began to spank with the paddle, lightly but effective. I let out some voluntary ughs, and the like so to encourage her on to spank more. Little did I know. Not sure how long this was but it seemed a long time. Well she then stopped and sat down. Now must tell you I spent most the time watching and admiring her blue pantied bottom thru the slip, was hot as hell.

As she sat, she made me turn around and then lowered my white underpants and began to rub my bottom. Scolding me and telling me it is a nice pink!! She turned me around, then looked up at me and asked a color, green of course!! She then told me that it was now time for me to get a really good spanking, she lowered me over her slip lap. She shifted me around, moved my bottom in place, second sign she did her homework, she was I thought a novice but she had a clue!

The OTK started with the brush, not hard but quick and efficient. My cheeks, my sit spots and my thights, she well distributed the spanking. It did not last long, but she did not like the loud echo sound of the brush. Well she then took the fanny paddle in hand and went to town. Again, quick, not real hard but constant. She did not get the sit spots as the was too tough for her but my cheeks and thighs got worked over really well. I started to let out involuntary ouches and ohs. My bottom started to whiggle on her lap and my legs kicked. Then she stopped. Made me stand up, and examined my bottom. Commented it was now getting red. Now the surprise!
She made me lean over the bed again, I turned and watched her slip and blue panty bottom walk to her closet and she took out the belt she purchased, folded it over and came back. Now this was her first novice moment but she tried hard and gave me 10 licks, all over the place and not hard but she tried. Amazing. Then she slowed down, stepped back and gave me four lashes over my bottom, made me jump. She walked back to the closet, hung the belt up, walked back, sat and threw me over her lap. She lifted the end of my shirt off my bottom, and then began a wonderful, fast, fairly hard OTK hand spanking. She spanked quick, focused and again not totally hard but nice. I was now gasping, ouching, twithcing my bottom and kicking my legs, I went into that zone that I love, I was lost over her knee and she was lost in spanking me. Was heaven. Not a clue how long but was wonderful. My bottom got slightly numb but was sore as could be. My "novice" spanking wife, (yeah right she did her homework), spanked my sit spot and thighs with equal emphasis. She eventually stopped, and spent time scolding me lightly and rubbing my very sore ass, she commented the reddness.
Now some time later, we laid in each other's arms and just talked, not about the spanking. We laughed and just talked. She got up and went to the bathroom. I ran to the mirror, my bottom was red as a Washington State apple, she did it! Well I got back on the bed and she came back in, wearing her blue panty.

She got on the bed and sat next to me, she asked me to roll on my stomach and commented on my red butt. She was rubbing me and wow, I was moaning. She leaned forward and to my shock, asked for a color!!! Good lord, I said green. Well she proceed, almost with hesitation to mention that I don't listen and I need to be spanked again. I said Yes Ma'am! Well her hand begain to spank my sore bottom without mercy, she spanked much harder and very fast, I was now almost yelling and twitiching all over the bed. She stopped, picked up her fanny paddle and announced I was to get 10 solid spanks. She did not wait, bam 10 hard in a row, wow, I was yelling and almost crying, she really laid into me. After the ten, she rubbed, asked for a color and I said green, she finished me with a fast, probabaly two minute, full swing hand spanking, fast and yes now hard. I almost had tears, not from pain but from happiness. My bottom hurt like hell but it was amazing. She got me to that zone where you almost feel the stress and issue leaving your body with every spank.

The rest of the evening was heaven, we were relaxed, stress free, my bottom was killing me and had trouble sitting and walking. She spanked like a seasoned pro.

Now on our walk, very painful and itchy for me, we talked about the day. She said I made her feel like a Queen and told me she now realizes how a FLR can make our life more stress free. I told her not to worry, we have time. I love this woman more than ever. We talked and I told her I will find a nice wooden hairbrush that won't make the echo noise, I have them already! I told her about some of the scenes we can play but also reinfiorced that we need to go slow. She laughed and was well a wonderful, painful for me, evening.

I left her a gift card this morning for three nights in a two bedroom condo in September, amazing condo with tons of spanking scenes waiting.

OK, wow, am still shaking, Not sure what to say but thank you so much"

Ron, thank you for allowing me to share your wonderful story. From our earlier exchanges, I know that you now have fulfilled what you had only dreamed of earlier and it appears that your wife will be adopting the FLR lifestyle quite willingly.
To the frustrated men who read this blog, I think Ron can be your inspiration. In my opinion, he did absolutely everything right. His story is one of patience, persistance and making sure he placed the needs of his Lady first and foremost.  And its obvious that they are both deeply in love with each other.

To Ron's wife (and I believe Ron will eventually share this posting with her): You are an inspiration to all the men out there who, like Ron, wanted their wives to simply hold them accountable for misbehavior through the simple act of spanking them. You have demonstrated how you have found that there benefits, lots of benefits from fulfilling the desires of your husband. The story that your husband has described is one of a very caring, loving man who (I believe) is falling further and further in love with you. And I am quite sure that you, too are falling deeper in love with him.

July 9, 2010

Ron's Story - Part I

If you have been following our blog you have probably seen the comments posted by Ron. He has been very generous with his comments and has been describing what I believe to be an amazing success story. He has given me permission to describe his story, which I believe is awesome and inspiring.  I have quoted Ron and his own words are shown in bold italics which have been provided by Ron in his comments and direct e-Mails to me.

The first comments from Ron appeared on May 16. Ron was one of the many typical men who wanted to be in a relationship where they are spanked by their wives, only to find their partner was not interested. Ron's situation was underscored by his comments on May 20 about his attempt to get his wife interested, "... I am slowly trying again...". However, Ron indicated that he was insprired by the descriptions of the relationship between Cora and myself.

I started receiving e-Mails from Ron on May 30. In his first message he indicated that his wife of 33 years, "never connected" to his desires for her to spank him and he just lived "in the spanking closet". He went on, "One day I hope to convince my wife to emulate your relationship". But one thing that came through very strongly, was that even though Ron's wife was not spanking him, he does love her very much.

Ron also requested one of my 'Notice of Discipline' forms. (Note: I am unable to include the Microsoft Word version on this blog, but for anyone that wants one, please send me an e-Mail and I will send it to you).  In a later e-Mail he indicated that he and his wife often vacation together alone in September. Ron's plan was to wait until then and while traveling to their destination on the plane, give his wife one of the forms filled out in a manner to request discipline from her. So much for Ron's initial plan!

On June 20, Ron left a comment advising that he had given his wife a request for a spanking. In an e-Mail from Ron the same day, he indicated that he was on the road and stopped at one of those 'Country Stores'. He purchased one of those 'souvineer' paddles. After returning home, Ron stated, "I decided to try it out. I completed a form, left it, the paddle and a kithcen chair for her when she came in the room". Ron further described the first reaction from his wife, "At first she laughed and did her this is not fun thing. I looked her right in the eye, told her about my misbehavior and told her I was serious. Well, she oblidged, pulled my white underpants down".

Ron went on to describe getting spanked by his wife with the paddle. After the spanking, Ron made sure to provide his wife with a token of his appreciation, "So I left one rose on her pillow with a thank you". And in a comment on the blog, "So now we will see where it heads but I feel wonderful and she was smiling this morning." Oh, and Ron also indicated, "... what followed was about a passionate session of love making we have had".

A follow up e-Mail described what happened when Ron and his wife discussed the events of the previous day, "My wife asked me if I wanted another "spanking", the words took my breath away but I remained calm. I told her only if she enjoyed giving me the spanking! Well she laughed again, saying in essence, you saw what happened to me. So we spoke about FLR a little bit and she seemed to be interested. Now, I also made it clear my passion is for her, not just the spanking."

Further exchanges of e-Mails with Ron indicated that he was getting plenty of 'signs' from his wife that she was starting to like the idea of spanking him and the benefits that she was getting, herself.

A week later, Ron reported receiving spanking number two from his wife. Harder and longer and "It was awesome and she is really starting to get into the role, I love it and love her." In an e-Mail, Ron further described what happened, "OK, now she just delivered her second spanking, over her knee in the bed, long and nice hard hand spanking. We had a window of no kids and she came up to me and said, rather sternly, up stairs, NOW!!". Ron followed up the 'treat' from his wife, "I just ran out and left another thank you and a small piece of dark chocolate on her dresser".

To his delight, the relationship between Ron and his wife kept getting better and better as his wife was getting more and more warmed up to the FLR lifestyle that Ron has been desiring for so long. They even went shopping together resulting in a purchase of a 'paddle brush'. Ron's wife also selected a belt. "She said in the car, not for now but later". Later that night Ron described a conversation between them, "Well, all she said when going to bed is, 'Ron, you want a good sound spanking? You will get one very soon with that brush'".

Then on July 5, Ron posted the following comment on the blog, "Also for those who read, I am in line for my wife to give me my first "real" spanking tomorrow." In an e-Mail to me, Ron said, "We are set for Wednesday for my "real" spanking as she told me this morning!!!" However, as we all know sometimes scheduling difficulties get in the way and in a further e-Mail from Ron, he stated, "Got text before from her work. My "long hard spanking" is moved to Thursday afternoon due to schedule issues for her. She said she wants "plenty of time to spank me properly". Awesome. Was difficult sitting in my office."

To Be Continued!

July 5, 2010

Disciplinary Wives Club

In a recent post I made reference to the Disciplinary Wives Club (DWC). Based upon thoughts I have had subsequently and also based upon a comment, I thought I would elaborate a bit on this wonderful resource. Note that there is a link to their site on the right side of our blog. If you haven't visited them, by all means check them out.

I am not positive about when the DWC site was established but their site has references that go back as far as 1998. The DWC was a beginning for many couples or men who wanted to establish a set of rules where the men were spanked by their wives, girlfriends or whatever. The DWC (along with Leda) was one of the first to deal with Female Led Discipline and breaking away from the leather clad Dominatrixes that were about the only thing available earlier. I was one of the many who discovered this wonderful site and quickly ordered many of the items they offered for sale. These included most of the 'handbooks', and a paddle. More recently, I purchased most of the videos they have available on DVD along with their 'Old Reliable' paddle and 'Ferule'. The pictures of Cora show her holding her 'Old Reliable' and 'Ferule' (which is one of her favorite OTK instruments).

I made reference to two segments in their videos in my previous post but there are more segments to their set. One of them discusses contracts and features another DWC lady. At a time before I met Cora, I had the pleasure (indeed it was a great pleasure) of meeting with this lady and when I left, I was a very well spanked but happy boy. She is a very accomplished spanker but most of all a beautiful and gracious woman. The video bears this out.

Since the DWC has been around for such a long time, I was wondering how many of their books and videos have been sitting in closets for a long period of time of some of our followers. I would make a suggestion: Get them out of the closet, dust them off and read the books and watch the videos (preferable as a couple). In our case it was a very good 'refresher' and reminded us of many of the aspects of our FLR that may have been taken for granted. In addition, well, in our opinion, these videos are rather 'interesting' and as indicated in the previous post, I got spanked rather hard as a result of watching them. And I think most of you know that's a good thing.

If you haven't purchased any of their products, I would suggest you check them out. The DWC 'style' definitely clicks with Cora and I and if you like the style of our blog, you will probably like the Disciplinary Wives Club, too. Their web site includes a plethora of things including stories, accounts of people who have become DWC couples (including at least one couple who follows this blog), surveys, and more, along with their 'Shopping Mall'. I have always found quick response whenever I have ordered items and Aunt Kay (the founder) was quick to respond to an e-Mail when I asked her if it was acceptable to make the references to the DWC.
In my opion, not only does the DWC offer some great aids for a FLR couple but I believe they have contributed greatly to the community as a whole. (Note: my comments and opinions are my own and I am not connected directly with the DWC).

July 2, 2010

One Step Back, Two Steps Forward

I have subtitled this blog 'Adventures in a Female Led Relationship'. The last two days have been full of adventure. After giving me a rather delightful 'snap-out-of-it' spanking yesterday, we prepared to go 'out and about' as we had quite a few errands. During the preparation, I said something to Cora which was probably either mis-heard or mis-interpreted. Either way, she got quite upset with me.

Now, with all we have learned in our FLR exploration, what should probably have happened is either an on-the-spot spanking or at least a Notice of Discipline. I am sure we would have talked it out and resolved it and Cora knows that she still has permission to spank me even if I am right. Those of us who practice a FLR know that its better to take the punishment and clear the air, even if we feel justified in our actions. I know I do.

Instead, however, Cora reverted to her old way of dealing with her feelings: The Silent Treatment (TST). So most of the trip resulted in us not talking to one another and it was rather uncomfortable and stressful. After returning home, we did discuss what had transpired and I believe I convinced her that she had misunderstood what I had said earlier. (Note: I wanted to display a picture of Cora looking slightly goofy in connection with her slipping back to her old ways. Cora actually choose the picture at the left, which was taken for her entry into 'You Look Like Your Dog' contest held by a local radio station a number of months ago. That's one of our English Springer Spaniels, Vixen in the picture with her.)

This morning, we were back to our 'playful' ways and Cora was laying in bed and turned on the TV. There wasn't really much to watch so I decided I would try something: I dug out our Disciplinary Wives Club (DWC), DVD 'Special Edition'. This DVD combined several of their releases including the video on 'Effectiveness' and 'Scolding'. I know many of you are familiar with the DWC and I have included a link to them under FLR related resources which is listed at the right. Many of us submissive men have utilized the DWC for resources to help get our wives to adopt a FLR. Over the years I have purchased their handbooks, DVD, and several of their implements including paddles and a Ferule (one of Cora's favorite implements). They seem to be great people and a great source of information.

I thought that watching the DWC video would be a great way to provide a 'refresher course'. Apparently I was right-on! Cora became entrenched in what was presented and I believe she realized how the situation of the previous day should have been handled. And quite frankly, she even became aroused and we ended up 'fooling around' while watching the video.

The second part of the DWC DVD series features the famous Dana Specht. Ms. Specht has been featured in quite a few videos and appears to be an accomplished disciplinarian. In addition to being a beautiful woman, she is also very gracious. Ms. Specht's part in the DWC video was on scolding. She presents several examples of how she combines scolding with spanking. Cora was watching Ms. Specht's instruction very intently, taking it all in.

Finally, she couldn't stand it any longer. She got up and commanded me to get over her lap. The last example in Ms. Specht's video features her sitting on the end of a bed spanking her naughty boy over her knee. Our TV faces the bed and Cora decided to mimic Ms. Specht as she was spanking and scolding. Cora even learned the trick of placing her right leg over both my legs as Ms. Specht was doing. When Ms. Specht was hand spanking her naughty boy, Cora hand spanked me. When Ms. Specht changed to a hairbrush, so did Cora. When Ms. Specht changed to a leather strap, Cora improvised and grabbed her Ferule (Cora is holding her Ferule in the picture). And Cora did not loose a beat and kept up with Ms. Specht whack for whack! I am writing this with a very tender bottom having been spanked two days in a row.

So while the spanking administered to me today was done more along our normally playful mode, Cora also felt any remnants of her anger or hurt dissipated while spanking me. In many ways, you could say that Cora has learned her lesson. It may have been a day late, but the air is now completely cleared and we are back to our loving selves. In fact the love making was rather hot!

July 1, 2010

Spanked For Being Too Serious

You may have noticed that its been a while since I have posted. Well, life just seems to sometimes get in the way. I am sure this is no different than most of you who read this blog.

Late last week, I was working on chipping some branches from a tree I had pruned. This was a project that I had let go for much too long and the material I had removed was rather extensive. I felt a tap on my shoulder and Cora beckoned me to follow her. I turned off the chipper (its a dreadfully noisy machine) and followed her. Cora pointed to the front of our lot where one of our gates had been knocked off its hinges.

Now, the two gates at the front of our house have been in need of repair for quite some time but while I was still engaged in my job, there just wasn't enough time or energy resources to give this project the attention it needed. It seems like for the past five years the gates, along with many other 'projects' were just placed on the 'deferred maintenance' list.

Since my retirement last October I have begun to take on some of these projects. However, yard work is something I just do not like. If Cora wanted to provide a true discipline punishment, she could assign nothing more appropriate that 'yard work'. The only problem is that these yard work project really do need to be done, so Cora really doesn't have the option of using them for 'punishment'.

So the gate repair (replacement, actually) became a number one priority. I began looking at options on how to replace these gates and we headed to the local home improvement store. We found the necessary items (including a nifty kit that uses some welded steel parts that can be used to assemble a very stable (and permanent) gate. Over the next few days I completed a drawing, painted the pickets and frame pieces and began to build the frame. I was positive that I would have the project completed by Wednesday (yesterday).

Of course, nothing goes as intended and while the frames are completed, I still have to nail the pickets to the frame and then mount the completed assembly to the posts. Thankfully, the 'new' posts are already in place with concrete foundations, as they have been for the past 7 years!

So, naturally I was feeling a bit 'down' about this project; both because it is still looming over my head and also because I missed the deadline that I had committed to Cora (even after adding an extra day to my estimate). Add this to all the other things going on in our life and the result was that I was in one of those 'moods'.

This morning while preparing for the day, Cora decided that I have been way too serious and needed a 'snap-out-of-it' spanking. First she layed out her Favorite OTK implements on the bed.
Next she proceeded to bare my bottom. Once ready, over her lap I went. First, she spanked me with her hand (she has gotten rather good a a hand spanking). Next she proceeded to apply her 'impact therapy' with all four of her tools. I felt the kiss of her small paddle, hairbrush, Ferule and finally the SMTR paddle.

The result was a rather intense fire in my behind. But the overall feeling was one of great relief. She was right (Duh!). I was in a much too serious frame of mind. As many of you have observed, our relationship is one that tends more towards the 'playful' side of the spectrum. We both are of the philosophy that 'life is too short to take it seriously'. Thankfully, Cora knows how to get me back on track. And she also knows how to express her love for me by taking the initiative to spank me when I get moody as described above. And I love her, too because she does.