July 9, 2021


Well, we've survived the Green Goo, the Orange Menace and currently working on diffusing he Grey Gloom.  We are trying hard to just move on.  

Lady Cora and I are still not up to the days when she would get into her FLR state of mind and discipline me. We really enjoyed taking photos and videos and sharing them with our friends here on our blog.

So while there are no new photos or videos to share, I thought I'd share a few video snaps from one of our videos from a few years back. The video is still up on 'Spanking Tube' (search for 'SpankedbyWife").  Yesterday I got inspired and composed a few new scenes from that video and captured the spirit of things the way they were back then.

Naughty Boys Get Paddled

Ready, Aim


June 10, 2020

What Must Be Said

This morning I was greeted by an e-Mail from the owner of the site, "All Things Spanking".  He indicated that he was 'restarting' and wanted to let me know that our blog was listed on his.  Needless to say, we were flattered by his post.  And even though it took a bit of re-discovery, I added his listing to our blog list.

As I was looking at a few of the blogs listed on our site I just happened to open up 'My Bottom Smarts' which is hosted by Bonnie.  Now Bonnie has been around for a long time and is someone who I have a deep respect for as she has always been helpful to her fellow bloggers.

Her post of June 6 is especially touching: "What Must Be Said".  I would suggest to go to her site and read it. Her Blog is on our list of  'Blogs We Follow" on the right side of our postings.  Her blog listing is on the bottom (I don't know why on the bottom of the list) so its easy to find from here.

Cora and I have not been very active since 2016 and have only posted 5 times since (including this post).  I had refrained from explaining why but it is related to the things Bonnie covers in her post.  We really didn't want to dip our feet into the waters of politics as we feel its dangerous and serves no purpose, especially related to our FLR theme of this blog.

However, its now time to speak out on "What Must Be Said".

Thank You Bonnie!

June 7, 2020

Spanked For Inappropriate Behavior

Its been a while since our last post.  We are actually doing quite well and have been in a self-quarantine for almost three months.  We have been getting all we need through deliveries and have only ventured out once so that we could deposit our Covid check and get our propane tank filled in order to use our grill.

We have developed a regular routine for Saturday evenings.  We start things about 5:00 PM.  Cora prepares two trays of cold cuts, sliced cheese, cauliflower, broccoli and small pieces for bread.  Once things have been prepared we settle into our theater room and watch movies.  This concludes by watching this week's feature from 'Svengoolie'.  His narration of the classic horror movies is very entertaining.  This week's feature was the 1935 'Bride of Frankenstein'.  We decided to watch Mel Brooks' 'Young Frankenstein' first.  It was a delightful combination.

About 6:30 PM we too a break to refresh cocktails and add a small amount to our trays.  During the process I tried to pick up the cauliflower but apparently did so with a slight 'attitude'.  Cora immediately went into 'Disciplinarian Mode'. 

I recently downloaded a couple of items from the internet and printed them on 4 by 6 photo paper.

In addition I printed two of my favorite photos of Cora.

Cora loves to make collages from photos and created the following using the photos I printed.

Recently I had shared a story from 'The Spanking Library' in which a 17 year old boy convinced his step-mother to spank him.  Her preferred method was bare bottom, over her knee with a Jokari paddle.  I think Cora became inspired by this story and hung hers below her collage along with her favorite leather paddle

So Cora had close access to her Jokari paddle and decided she wanted to put it to good use.  She bent me over the kitchen counter where I had been standing.  The then proceeded to deliver a few really hard swats from her Jokari paddle.  The Jokari paddle is a very effective disciplinary tool and is one of the few that works well in the Over-The-Knee or Bend-Over-And-Touch-Your-Toes positions.  It was obvious from the first swat that Cora was going to make a point, and a point she did make.  Actually several.

After delivering her paddling, Cora returned the Jokari to its hanger but first said, "Do you think I should administer another session?"  My reflexes kicked in and I answered "No, Ma'am".  And that was the end of it and we returned to having a very pleasant evening.  However I felt that I had been put in my place, feeling quite humble from her disciplinary actions.  I later confirmed that Cora felt quite satisfied after paddling me.

Looking back, although Cora had administered  a sufficient sting into my backside. I almost wished she had not taken my 'No' answer and instead had administered another session.

August 4, 2019

Implementation of a Demerit System

One of the Yahoo Groups I subscribe to included a post be a member describing a system of Demerits he and his wife use to track behavior and determine discipline to be administered.  One key aspect of their system is that it is the husband's responsibility to keep track of his own behavior.  There are even consequences if he fails to track a specific behavior (double Demerits). 

I found this idea to be not only creative but a system that could be adopted to our own situation.  So for the past six weeks or so, we've been using this system.  I now get weekly spankings and our relationship has gone from rather stale to exciting again. 

I may share more details in the future.


P.S.  We've also put our toes in the waters of male chastity.

July 31, 2019

Still into a Female Led Marriage/Relationship

Yes, we've been dormant for a while but lately things have been heating up (pun intended).  About seven weeks ago we have been implementing a Demerit system.  It was inspired by a post on the 'Spanked_by_their_Wives' Yahoo group. 

We have also been putting our toe in the water of Chastity.

I plan to post more information in the future, especially the details of our Demerit system since its working where other systems we've tried have failed.


May 14, 2019

Its Been a While

Yes, we've been 'dormant' for over two years.  Its been a rather frustrating time and I'm not going to go into details.  Just know that we're still here and for the most part doing fine.

I still enjoy reading and the subject matter includes things relating to our FLR lifestyle.  Yesterday I decided to purchase a couple of items from Scarlett Hill Enterprises.  They publish e-Zines that deal with Women-Spanking-Men subject matter.  We've written about them in the past and my connection goes back to when they were publishing with paper.

So, it was amazing when I opened up the latest 'Spank-Happy Wives' (issue number 8) and found two photos of Cora and I!  The photos were of Cora and I at our wedding and were being used to illustrate one of the letters that had been submitted to Barbara, one of the editors at S.H.E.

The above two photos appeared with the following caption:

"We couldn't ask for or come up with any better illustrations to enhance this letter then these heart & seat warming snaps from the ceremony that united our dear friends Lady Cora and her couldn't be spank-happier spouse in the bonds of marriage & world of blogging about it before the demands of doing so rendered spankedbymylady.blogspot.com dormant."

Needless to say, we are very flattered by the kind words from S.H.E.  I later corresponded with Barbara and she graciously granted permission to use anything from them in our blog.

We're not sure how often we'll post in the future but we couldn't resist sharing the results of the kindness of the publishers at S.H.E.

December 23, 2016

Spanked (Finally)!

Well its only been two days since we broke our silence with a post and we've already had five comments to our most recent post.  Thanks to our readers for not giving up on us.

Now that our light show is up and running almost on auto-pilot we've got some time that we can dedicate for other things.  (Oh, and Ms. Vanessa- Yes we have a lot of lights but if you want to see some 'mega' light shows, check out 'The Great Christmas Light Fight' on ABC on Monday at 8:00PM. A recent display featured 1,000,000 lights!)

As mentioned in our previous post, one of our readers who hosts the blog 'Our Bottoms Burn' mentioned that he signals his wife his desire for a spanking by wearing red panties.  I'm not sure but it may work both ways for them and he left a comment that he would post about 'Red Panty Days soon'.  We will definitely be looking forward to that post and any details.

I'm still amazed at the volume of material I see on the internet regarding men who are spanked by their Ladies and the connection with panties.  Often the choice to be in panties is from the wives or girlfriends (actually it seems mostly not really a choice).  But many of us (myself included) have found that its just more fun to wear panties.  For those that wear them, you know what I mean; for those that don't, you don't know what you're missing.  Archedone's left a comment that he is often 'warmed up' while wearing panties, then they are peeled down for the finale.  He also said that "when that is all I have on R (his wife)  always has a big smile looking at me". 

Well, I think its been no secret that I have converted to wearing panties almost exclusively for almost two years now.  In fact I got inspired yesterday and ordered almost a dozen new ones from 'HerRoom' one of the many vendors of ladies underwear and one of our favorite places to make purchases. 

And speaking of inspiration, Cora mentioned that my posting two days ago may inspire her.  So, knowing her preferences, yesterday morning the panties I selected were in what I know to be her favorite color.  My early morning routine includes taking our dogs outside for their morning 'business'.  Of course that means wearing something over my panties so Cora did not know what was underneath.

After bringing our pups inside my next priority is to prepare Cora's morning espresso beverage.  While grinding the coffee beans and warming up the machine I mentioned the comment about the red panty signal. I then asked her what color panties she would prefer for me to wear as a signal to her that I would open to getting spanked.  She replied, "Blue".  I then removed my outer covering to reveal that I was wearing blue panties.

So, this morning I again chose blue panties hoping she'd pick up on the signal.  She did!

After preparing her second cup of her espresso beverage she told me to bend over the table and selected the leather paddle from her rack.  Yes, Cora's rack still graces our kitchen area although I think its collecting a fair amount of dust.

Cora Reaching for Her Favorite Leather Paddle
The leather paddle is one of her favorites and rather than just deliver a few 'token' swats she delivered a rather significant dose of 'Discipline - Cora style'. 

We haven't done much photography dealing with our FLR lifestyle but I did pull out the camera and Cora snapped a couple of shots, above showing my new blue panties (I think this is the first photo of my new panty collection) followed by the one below showing the results from Cora's paddling.

I mentioned above that I had made a purchase of additional panties and I'm sure you can guess which color I chose for many of them.  By the way, do you know how difficult it is to find blue panties?

And finally while Cora was photographing the above, her keen sense of humor emerged and she told me not to get up.  Soon I felt something on my back and she took another photo. 

So in the spirit of the season Olaf (from the movie Frozen) wishes everyone Happy Holidays as do Cora and I.