Happy Thanksgiving (or is that Spanksgiving)

OK, its Thanksgiving here in Seattle this week and I totally understand that this is a holiday that is not celebrated on other parts of our precious planet.  However, I wish to take this opportunity to express something for which I am very thankful.  And since a picture is worth 1,000 words, here is a savings of 2,000 of those words (and the appropriate bandwidth).

Cora, I love You!
Ken

What is this Fascination with Panties - Follow-Up

The FLR Blogosphere has recently taken on the subject of men's fascination with panties.  As stated in our previous post, Throck in his blog 'Spankable Husband' posted some of the best explanations of why men find this particular attraction.  At least his logic made sense to me.

In addition in her blog 'A Spanking Marriage', Susan gives an excellent view from a woman's point of view.  In her most recent post (November 18), she described her own curiosity (and arousal) at men wearing panties.  Her husband, Barry apparently has had interests in panties for quite some time.  She also indicated that she is intrigued with panties and girdles too (You Go, Girl!), and plans to explore these things with her husband.

In addition to the posts, there have been a number of comments.  Rachael has placed her husband in panties, exclusively.  Bogey and Bacall enjoy wearing matching panties and applying paddles to each other.  Others have confessed that they wear panties and many have commented on their love of the pictures of Cora wearing her panty girdles.  (That has been one of my most pleasurable activities of this blog).

Since we have started blogging last February, one of our goals has been to portray ourselves as 'real' people.  We have used pictures of ourselves to illustrate our points.  And while I do the writing of the blog, Cora always contributes much of the content.  In addition to being my favorite model, she also reads everything, all the comments and many of the other blogs and their comments.

Well, since the 'Great Panty Topic of 2010' has generated lots and lots of contributions by many of you, Cora seems to have found that she, like Susan, is intrigued by the 'Panty Thing'.  In the past she has only infrequently 'forced' me to wear her panties.  I think this may be changing.  Today, while preparing to go 'out and about', I was duly instructed that I would be wearing her panties.  It was her idea.

So after toweling myself off, she presented me with the panties she intended me to wear, today.  She held them for me to step into.  Then she instructed me to bend over on the bed, and grabbed the 'She-Makes-The-Rules' paddle from her bedroom rack.  She couldn't resist the sight and proceeded to apply the paddle to my pantied bottom.  It wasn't a punishment spanking, so all things considered, I really enjoyed it.  As I sit here composing this post, I am still wearing her panties, at her instruction.  She has also found that stroking my bottom while wearing her panties can be a very erotic experience.

Cora confessed to me this morning that she is finding that when I submit to her instruction to wear her panties, that she is experiencing a further rush of power.  Something new to her, at least regarding the panty thing.  As she has been reading the blogs, Cora is really enjoying when she is reading and is beginning to connect with more and more of the things others are describing. And even trying out some of the things that are being discussed.  This may include shaving me 'down there'.  It appears that Susan's description has gotten Cora's attention.

I can't explain it but I celebrate her new-found power.  As Ms. Deirdre stated in her blog, when Cora makes me wear her panties, its an erotic expression of her power which is answered by me as an erotic act of my submission to her.  I don't know how, but I keep finding myself more and more in love with her.

What is this Fascination with Panties?

I have been intending to write something about the subject of women's panties for quite some time. However, I have been a little reluctant as it involves something that is somewhat embarrassing to me.  I know, why should I be embarrassed about my fascination with women's panties when I have posted pictures of my well spanked bare bottom'?  Well, I can't answer that.  So here goes:

There is just something fascinating to me about women's panties.  I can't remember exactly when I first remembered when it started but I can recall paging through the various Sears, Penney's and Montgomery Ward catalogs.  And based upon what I have read from many other men, I am not alone.  And its no secret about my fascination with girdles and pantie girdles.  Especially when Cora wears hers!

One of my earliest memories about getting 'up close and personal' with panties was when I was growing up.  On some occasions I would mow a lawn for one of my mother's friends.  The lawn mower was kept in her basement and the laundry was there too.  Well, one time I remember seeing a pair of panties sitting in the laundry pile.  The temptation was just too great and soon I was inhaling the sweet aroma of the panties.  And it was a very sweet scent.  I was hooked (and I still am).

I belong to lots of Yahoo Groups.  Many of them are based upon Female Led Relationships but others are not.  Recently in one of the other groups, there was a thread that described the experiences of many of the guys also finding a fascination with panties and many described 'up close and personal' experiences.  Its obviously something that a number of men (perhaps many men) have in common with me.

A popular movie was released with the title, "Scent of a Woman".  I believe there is a reason for this.  Its probably buried deep in the earliest part of our evolution, somewhere in our 'crocodial brains' but I do believe that men are wired to be attracted to a woman's scent.  Probably something to do with the propagation of the species, or something.  Ladies take note: We are addicted to your scent!

In his blog, 'Spankable Husband', Throck describes his own relationship with women's panties.  He describes himself not as a 'crossdresser' but play a part with his fascination with spanking.  In addition in her new (and excellent) blog, 'A Spanking Marriage', Ms. Susan describes her husbands fascination for panties, too.  And she obtained a pair of 'control panties' (oh, how I love the double meaning) for him to wear when she spanks him.

I think Throck may have tumbled onto something in his explanation of his own fascination with women's panties.  He spoke of the power women have over men as it concerns the genital area of a woman.  Obviously its that area that comes into contact with a woman's panties as she wears them.
For those of us 'liberated' submissive men, its no secret that we celebrate that power.  It seems only natural, then to be obsessed with our Ladies panties.  If this subject has gotten your attention, I would suggest you check out Throck's post of November 10.  You would also find Ms. Susan's post of November 14, not only informative but an incredible example of erotic writing.

Some of the comments to Throck's post indicated that some of the guys have been made 'off limits' to their Ladies personal panties. Thankfully for me, that is not the case. I think that sometimes its a minor irritation to Cora, but I often 'steal' her panties. Its actually a game with us and one way I 'earn' a spanking. (Her current rate is 25 swats per pair).

Its no secret where I keep my 'stash', so if Cora wants to retrieve a pair, she knows where to look.  And when she gets in the mood, she will 'catch' me 'red handed' and issue a Notice of Discipline (and that's why 'Panty Stealing' is one of the boxes on the form).  In the meantime, I have the opportunity to enjoy the sweet scent of my lady.

Many of the men in FLR's have shared their preferences regarding wearing panties.  Some just like to wear them, some are 'forced' to wear them as a result of a decree from their Ladies and some (like me) like it when their Ladies make them wear them.  One thing that is beginning to become apparent is that many FLR women make their naughty boys put on a pair prior to spanking them (if you look close, you can see that I have panties lowered to my knees in the picture of my well spanked bottom).

In my case, Cora will sometimes make me wear her panties.  Fortunately, Cora's panties fit me just fine.  She has very womanly hips and the panties that fit her also fit my slightly too large stomach.  And she prefers to wear panties that are almost 'full cut'.  So I can wear them quite comfortably and I must admit, its very erotic on the rare occasions she makes me wear them.  There is something about that smooth fabric that arouses me.  Oh, and the fact that she has worn them previously.

Over a year ago, I had a legal issue with my eX that led to an impasse.  It resulted in the need to resolve the issue in front of a judge in a courtroom.  Both the judge and my eX's attorney were women.  For reasons I won't go into, I represented myself.  The resolution of the issue required two court appearances, but in the end, I prevailed.  I took my participation in this process very seriously, including dressing the part.  I even purchased a blue pin-stripe suit (think Denny Crane).  However, I wonder what the other women who were participates would have thought if they knew that we were all wearing panties!  Cora made me wear a pair of her panties (yes, previously worn by her), under the Denny Crane outfit.  I must say that it was empowering.  VERY empowering.  Throck is right; women's panties are a source of power.  A very large source of power.

Post Script:
Finding pictures of Cora wearing just panties was a challenge, indeed.  I love to photograph her wearing girdles and such but it is rare to get a picture of her in just panties. 

But, even if I say so myself, the opening picture of her pantied Derriere is stunning.  She is the epitome of why I find a woman's panties and a woman's Derriere to be so attractive.

Questioning Her Authority

Its been a while since I have exhibited bad behavior but today, I did.  Cora was arranging some items in our living area.  I chimed in with some suggestions.  At least I though I was just making suggestions. 

I guess I came across as more than just making 'suggestions'.  So, guess what?  Yep, she issued a Notice of Discipline.  I am to be spanked this evening for my little transgression.  Looking back I deserved it and am looking forward to clearing the slate.

But what I am most proud of, is the fact that Cora didn't let this one get by her.  Instead she asserted her Authority and exercised her Power.  That's what this FLR is all about.  And I love her so much for it and I know I loves me enough to hold me accountable.

Post Script (7:25PM, November 11, 2010)
Cora followed through on her spanking.  I was just instructed to bend over the table and she proceeded to exhaust her rack of all the leather implements. 

She spanked hard and long and I feel totally relieved of my guilt regarding the questioning of her authority.   I love her so much.

An Explosion of FLR Blogs

... At least it seems that way.

It has been my opinion that there are more and more couples adopting the Female Led Relationship lifestyle.  The reason I believe this is a result of the feedback I get from this blog, the activity on other blogs and Yahoo Groups that I follow.  In addition this blog just celebrated its 300,000th hit just today.  The level of activity exceeds our wildest expectations, but there must be something about FLR's that interests some of you.  Many of you have requested our 'Notice of Discipline' form and the feedback I have received from those who have followed up afterwards has included the fact that more men are getting spanked by their wives.  The form is probably not the reason that some of the guys have gotten their wives to spank them, but it has acted as a catalyst that resulted in the kind of communication that resulted in some major lifestyle changes.  Ron's story is just one example.

When I started posting some things again following our short term absence, I received an e-Mail from James.  He asked some questions about the blogging process.  It turns out he had first started his blog ('SpankedMale') in 2007 and hadn't posted further until just this month.  Welcome back, James and we look forward to hearing your stories.

Upon further checking, I found that there were several other new blogs including 'Husband in Check' and 'My Wife, My Babysitter' both written by men describing their own FLR with their wives.  Then I discovered Susan's 'A Spanking Marriage'.  This blog is particularly interesting as its written from a woman's point of view, something still rather rare.  Again, welcome and we hope that you continue to share.

All these blogs have links on the right hand column of this blog and I would suggest you all check them out.  I think they all have promise from what I have read.  They join many of the other excellent blogs that have been around for a while which I thoroughly enjoy following, too.  They are also included on the 'Blogs I Follow' list. (Note: I try to limit the 'Blogs I Follow' to those of a FLR nature written by 'real' people which don't show too much of a 'commercial' side).

And I am sure that there are even more FLR blogs out there that I just haven't hooked up with.  But the bottom line is that there does seem to be a groundswell of people like us, braving the blogging waters and sharing themselves with us.  I truly believe one of the positive aspects of this phenomenon is that as those who lurk read them, they will come to the realization that they are not alone and there are plenty of people like themselves.

So, come out and join us!

In addition, for those with partners who have been reluctant to join in, there are more and more examples of those of us lucky enough to be with partners who are not reluctant.  Perhaps one of our blogs will comfort one of these reluctant partners to join in and find out the wonderful benefits available.  One of the common themes that seems very consistent with bloggers in Female Led Relationships is the fact that they are all loving relationships.  Lots of Love.

And isn't that the most important part of our presence on this planet?

A Day of Play

In our last post we made mention of a 'Day of Play'.  The idea was to submit a list to each other and let them pick a few items from the list.  This list was to include things that both of us would find fun to do, but also include things that might not be as fun, but needed to be done.

Well, yesterday morning, I composed such a list and submitted it to Cora.  She thought the idea was great and proceeded to check off the items I had listed that she wanted to do.  I included three categories including, 'Sexually Related Items', 'Just Fun Stuff, Not Necessarily Sexual' and 'Not Much Fun But Things That Need To Be Done'.  I included some blanks so that Cora could fill in something I had not listed.

When she had completed her side of the form, she returned it to me.  From the first group she had selected three items: 'Put Ken in Panties', 'Have Ken hand-wash my panties' (note: she added 'Wearing Dog Nose' - This is the item she is shown wearing in the July 2, 2010 post), and finally 'Paddling: Each implement from Rack, based on roll of dice'.

From the second group, she added one of her own items concerning assisting her with her display shelves.  She wanted to add a shelf to display a new item.  She also selected an item from the 'Not Much Fun' group.

As the day progressed, most of the activities proceeded as agreed upon.  First, she selected a pair of panties for me and had me put them on.  Now, this is a subject that has been briefly (pun intended) addressed but I had hoped to expand on it at a later time (which so far has yet to happen).  Suffice it to say that I believe that most men have a fascination with their Ladies underwear, and panties in particular.  (Think of the movie, 'Scent of a Woman').  I find it an erotic act of her dominance when she makes me wear her panties.  I am not one to just wear panties, although I know of some men who do.  But I find it very erotic when she make me wear them.  She repeated this instruction this morning, too.  So far her panties have yet to be washed but is something on the agenda for today and the only thing on the list that was not completed.

Soon, I was summoned to assist Cora in the re-configuration of her display shelves.  She has a collection of classic dolls, and a few other items.  As was described in our June 12, 2010 post, we enjoy attending the Ballet.  We have reservations for the 'Nutcracker' Ballet this December.  I am sure there will be a post describing that night. 

However, on a visit to a local hardware store who is known for their display of ceramic Holiday Village items, we found an animated display of a theater depicting the 'Nutcracker'.  Of course, Cora wanted to display this item and we soon began re-arranging her displays to accommodate the new item.  In addition, it was necessary to provide a power connection.  The picture shows her new shelf with some of her Ballet Dolls.  The item has the performers twirling, rotating and is accompanied with two of the Nutcracker tunes playing along.  With all the lights and actions, we find ourselves sitting and watching it for hours.

After making repairs to some of the low voltage lights in our front yard (the 'Not Much Fun Things' item), we settled down for a wonderful lunch.  Afterwards, we found that the whole day had resulted in us both being very aroused and the love-making was passionate.

Following an afternoon nap, I served Cora one of her favorite cocktails and poured myself a glass of wine, while Cora dressed in one of her tight, black panty girdles, stockings and high heeled boots.  Shortly after making her entrance, she instructed me to bend over the kitchen table.  She dispensed with rolling the dice and just decided that she would apply her own number of swats with her paddles.  She started with her favorite 'warm up' leather paddle and proceeded to light the furnace in my bottom.  She followed up with her straps and the swat count was definitely increasing.  I don't think there would have been enough points on the dice to suit her. 

Finally, she started to select the wood paddles from her rack.  She used all of them including the 'school' paddle, 'Spencer' paddle and her three 'Exotic Wood' paddles.  Needless to say, by the time she had gotten to the Exotic's I was really feeling the wood.  This is probably the first time she delivered some solid swats from the Zebrawood and Cocobolo paddles. 

Ouch!  Rather than try to describe it, I think the picture tells the story.

All things considered, we both agreed this process worked quite well. After several weeks of being in  the doldrums, we felt like we were having fun again.  We will definitely use this process again.  It, like the Notice of Discipline Form, provides yet another way to communicate our wants and desires to each other.  Sometimes its difficult to express things that may be a bit embarrassing to request, but I found putting it on a list with several other less embarrassing things was much easier.

All Work and No Play ....

I think I have been really dull lately.  The burst of fair weather has resulted in spending most of the recent days in the yard.  Doing all kinds of projects.  Fences, fence posts, gates, pruning, trimming, etc.  It seems like this has been going on all summer.

And with Cora getting her medications adjusted, well, there hasn't been much 'play' going on.  Hence the amount of time between posts.

Yesterday I spent most of the day getting some last minute items finished up as the prediction is for the sunny weather to disappear.  At the end of the day, I was rather exhausted.  Cora, however was starting to get her energy back.

So while preparing one of her amazing dinners (shrimp wrapped in bacon, with a lemon alfredo sauce over angel hair pasta - something that would rival a 5-star restaurant), she instructed me to bend over the table.  She then proceeded to pull most of her leather implements from her Rack (yes, its re-loaded).  I got a number of swats from her various leather straps and the leather paddle.  I am not sure why she kept to the leather and didn't add some of the wood.  The picture shows here with one of her straps from a previous session but this time she had bared my bottom.

Anyway, I think it did move my mind-set from dull and work oriented and added some much needed playfulness to my demeanor.  I could feel the sting of each stoke move like an electrical current from the point of impact up my spine.  As often is the case, Cora knew just what I needed.

I am thinking of declaring a 'Day of Play'.  I have thought of both of us making a list of things we want to do (both sexual and non-sexual), exchanging lists and each picking several things from the other's list.  Could be the subject of another post.