Men Are Really Very Simple Creatures - A Follow-Up

Since our post three days ago, our hit counter has gone off the scale.  Apparently there has been lots of interest in this subject.  We feel that Ms. Clara's initial post and the comments that resulted were not only well put but important to the concept of a Female Led Relationship.

The idea of a Relationship led by the Female is basically what our blog is all about.  We have been blogging almost two years and we have received quite a bit of input from many couples over the years both through e-Mail and through comments on our blog.  Some have already been engaged in a FLR and are even at levels much deeper into that us, but we also receive input from many, usually the male parts of a relationship, where the Female is reluctant to 'engage'. 

It is our hope that some of the exchanges in the previous post may spark some interest in those couples.  In exchanges with many of you, one of the issues is whether 'normal' people engage in a FLR.  A common thread for the couples who have responded to us has been a reflection upon our own relationship that we seem to be just common ordinary 'folks';  we could be your next door neighbor.

One of the tools that seemed to help was our 'Notice of Discipline' form.  I am including a copy of that form.  Based upon the feedback we have received many couples have had 'fun' with (well perhaps in some cases some 'serious fun).  If you would like to have a copy, let me know by e-mail and I will send you a copy in Microsoft Word format.  The blogger doesn't have the ability for me to post a file that you can download direct from the blog but this way I get an idea of how many are being requested and it often results in follow up messages on how the form worked.

In light of the large volume of hits (well over 5,000 since it was posted) we thought we would post a follow-up, hopefully to encourage more of you to comment.  We would be especially interested in a situation where one of you shared the information in the post with your wife, and the result.

"Men Are Really Very Simple Creatures"

So says Ms. Clara Hewitt on her blog in a post of January 8, 2012.  Ms. Clara has only been blogging a few days but oh my does she know men.  And what makes them (us) tick (and tock, too).

Ms. Clara is a 'Professional Disciplinarian'.  I think she might better be described as a well informed psychologist.  Her knowledge of both men and their wives is almost scary.  And she has given me permission to quote her.  Oh, and thats a picture of her from her blog (again, with permission) spanking one of her naughty boys.  She does know how to get our attention, doesn't she?

Ms. Clara further says, "I think it's wonderful they're so easy to understand and keep happy. They need to be loved, fed and disciplined. That's really all there is to it."

Oh, I couldn't agree more.  And part of that need to be loved actually encompasses the need to be disciplined.  Ladies are you paying attention?  The quote above is from a lady who is sought after by men who would love to be disciplined (spanked) by their wives.  However, due to some kind of weird ideas, many wives don't understand.  So why wouldn't your husbands seek out a woman who will spank them?

Ms. Clara continues, "Compare that to your average female, with her weirdly complex and conflicting needs! Genuinely, It makes me very sad that so many wives seem to fall down on the job, so their husbands feel they have to come to me to get the thrashings they desperately deserve. It's sad for the wives...."

Sad indeed.  Ladies, are you reading this?  Wouldn't you rather spank your own husband rather than have him secretly seek out the female discipline that he so desparetly needs????????

Then, Ms. Clara provides further insite, " ... training a man to perfection is easy and rewarding, and guarantees you loyalty for life."

Ladies, are you still paying attention?  That's right, Loyalty for Life. Life!

And finally Ms. Clara provides more words of wisdom, "Women, it's your duty to show your husband how much you want to nurture, chastise and own him, whenever he needs it."

OK, I can't add to that.  Its sooooooooooo true!  Ladies, did you notice that word, "duty"?

Often I emphasize my opinion that one of the really good things is that the younger women have begun to figure this out.  Another fairly new blog is Ms. Julie's 'Miss Julie Spanks'.  She has discovered the many advantages to taking on so many of the things that Ms. Clara describes above.  Her blog is one of my favorites and one of the reasons is that like Ms. Clara, she has figured it out.  Here is what she added to Ms. Clara's post as a comment:

"I hate to criticize my own sex, but come on, ladies, really, how hard is it to dress a man in your bra and panties, and spank him silly? Such a small thing, it means so much to them, and I, for one, enjoy it immensely!"

"I try not to get on my soapbox too often but I couldn't resist.  Ms. Clara along with Ms. Julie have provided some very, very insightful words of wisdom."  Ms. Clara's post along with Ms. Julie's comment were inspiring, indeed (can't you tell?).

Guys, if you are like so many of us, needing your Lady to show her love through discipline of you, and want your lady to paddle your bottom, share this post with her.  She won't be disappointed and even though you have have further trouble sitting in the future, you will be better men for it!  At least thats my humble opinion.

Finally, I am often reminded how lucky I am.  Cora already as these things figured out and knows what I need.  In return I can't think of how I could love her more.  Indeed, we are a very happy couple, at peace with each other and without some of those deep, dark secrets that I know so many of you have.

When I'm Sixty-Four

Update (January 9, 2012)

There is a higher resolution version of the video just uploaded to

     SpankingTube!

I first heard those words when the Beatles released their masterpiece LP (remember vinyl?) in 1967.  At the time I was 19 years old.  It seems like only yesterday.

A few days ago I turned 64, myself.  Gosh, has time gone by that fast?  Well, now I have had over 5 wonderful years with Cora.  And they have been the best ones of my life.  She is magnificent.

On the actual day of my birthday she did surprise me with a really nice spanking.  That was described in the previous post.  However at the end of that post, Cora told me that I was yet to receive my "birthday paddling".

Well that happened today.  And its the subject of a new video thats attached here. 

Cora and I have posted a short video previously and we had hopes of posting more videos. However it seems as though we never were able to get our energies together sufficiently to actually get something going.

Recently, we have been admiring the videos posted by Dana Kane.  She is a delightful woman and her blog is listed in the blogs we follow on the right side of our blog.  We would encourage you to check out her videos if you haven't already done so.  In addition, I have mentioned James' videos on his blog, "Spankedmale", which is also listed.  He posted a three-part video that was awesome.

Well, with the inspiration of Ms. Kane and James, I started doing some research into the purchase of a new video camera.  And I found one that fulfilled my requirements (exceeded, actually) and was able to locate one at a local video store at a really, really good price.  I won't go into the technical details but its a Canon M40. 

So today, Cora dressed up and told me to get ready to make a movie.  Oh and she also informed me that I was going to be paddled.

So here it is. The pix above are video-snaps from the movie. We had fun making it and we hope you have fun watching it.

Birthday Surprise!

It was my birthday a couple of days ago.  That morning I was doing my usual browsing the web and checking out some of the blogs (more on that exploration later).

Cora was upstairs and called out to me, "Come upstairs quick.  I think there are bugs in the ceiling!"  Naturally I arose to check it out expecting that I would be spending the morning crawling in the attic.  Yuk!  What a way to spend my birthday.

Instead, Cora greeted me in a very sexy panty girdle, tan stockings and white heels.  She was holding a hairbrush and I knew that I had been 'had'.



Next, she hopped on the bed and spread her legs then instructed me, "Over my lap!"  Naturally I complied.

For a while time seemed to stand still as she delivered one of the nicest spankings ever.  She started with a hand spanking then proceeded to use the implements she had laid out ahead of time.

When she finally stopped I was under the influence of a really nice but intense 'glow'.  Oh how Cora knows how to administer a spanking!

And what a Goddess Cora is.  And what a birthday surprise she can deliver!  "But wait, there's more", she said in her best TV advertisement voice.  "You have yet to get your birthday paddling!"

Indeed, I have yet to get my birthday paddling but there may be another story when I do.

Oh, and by the way, I have added a new blog to the list of blogs we follow: Ms. Clara Hewitt.  She just started it and says she has been a follower of Cora and I for quite some time.  Her blog seems to be very much in the spirit of a Female Disciplinarian and if you like our blog, you are sure to like hers.  Check it out and tell 'em Ken and Cora sent you.

Inspiration

I have been exchanging e-Mails with James, who hosts the 'Spankedmale' blog, one of my favorites.  We had been discussing some of the ways we had been introduced into the 'Wonderful World of Female Spankers'.

James spoke about an earlier experience he had and that there was a description of it in one of his first posts.  Since its been a while since I had read some of these early posts, I decided to go back and take another look at them.  And even though I have yet to read about the specific experience he was referring to, his sixth post really got my attention.  Again.  I did remember reading it previously.  In it he describes a visit to a Lady quite early in his spanking 'career'.  After the usual initial greetings, she had James stand beside her and proceeded with the ritual removal of the pants.  He then went on to describe:

"She pushed her dress and slip back off her lap, and I was able to see the top of her stockings, and the tabs from her girdle that held them in place."

Anyone who has read our blog knows that I am absolutely captivated by a woman wearing a girdle, stockings and that Cora loves to wear them (Lucky me!).  I guess its a product of the time I grew up in that lends itself to my attraction to a woman dressed this way.

At about the same time I was reading James' blog (well, re-reading, actually), Cora announced that she wanted to go out and about and that she would even wear one of her girdles.  Well, this coincidence was almost too good to be true.  Naturally I complied with Cora's wishes and out we went.  Cora looked her usual elegant and well, ... just HOT!

I had shared James' e-Mail with Cora and when we returned home I asked if she would like to re-create James' scenario.  "Sure", she replied.  After all she was already dressed and all she had to do was lift her skirt, take me over her knee and spank me good and hard.  Needless to say, she did, but not before I was able to snap a few quick pictures.

James, thanks for the inspiration, but oh how Cora can spank with that hairbrush!

Shopping with Dogs

We recently heard of objections to shopping with your dog.  Well, Cora and I are very proud of our dogs and in so many ways they are our best friends.  And we love to go shopping with them.  Here in West Seattle, they are not only welcome in many of the stores here but many of the store owners know them by name - all three of them.

So while this may be a little 'off topic', Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays (Yule is already past) from all five of us.

Cora, Ken, Gypsy, Devi, and Vixen
(Way to go, Rex!)

Pegging: A Follow Up

We certainly didn't expect to get as many comments from our previous post on 'Pegging'.  However, we did receive lots of comments (we love them) and rather than just post another comment, we decided to post a follow up.

First, thanks to Joey, SometimesSpanked and Dana who recognized the fact that pegging is an activity that we might be reluctant to share.  Again, Red's poll helped and we do try to keep our posts in the spirit of a 'Female Led Relationship'.  I guess that worked!

Second, it was a surprise to hear that not all the men who engage in this activity are 'submissive'.  As Bogey from 'Our Bottoms Burn' asked: Can you be 'Apha' and enjoy pegging?  Apparently, the answer is 'Yes'.  However, as indicated by Harry, there is a definite 'power exchange'.  This concept of a power exchange was also mentioned by Rob.  We both believe that the power exchange in a Pegging Scenario is awesome.  Thanks for the enlightening comments.  We had no idea.

It is interesting to note that I, like James, find that our Ladies like to peg us only occasionally.  I think James would agree with me that we'd really like them to 'Take' us more often. 

And speaking of the Ladies.  Two of the comments came from women.  Mistress Aimee spoke of pegging as lovely and totally erotic and not a form of 'punishment'.  We do agree and as Ms. Deirdre so eloquently said, its an erotic act of my submission to Cora and an erotic act of her dominance over me.  Dana also mentioned this same concept.

And Ms. Julie:  You never cease to amaze us.  No, Cora doesn't require me to get down on my knees and take it in the mouth.  However, Cora hadn't really thought of doing that either.  At least not until you suggested it.  And I might make a humble observation:  The younger generation of women who engage in FLR's with their men, seem to be much more likely to try new and incredibly creative ideas that their deliciously devious minds seem to keep coming up with.  This is a theme that seems to be common among many of the blogs written by the women.  We think its great and can only think of how lucky their men are, to be part of this trend.

One last thing; thanks for all the wonderful comments about Cora's pix.  Of course, she loves to hear all the complements.  We were both wondering how the photos of her strap on would be received.  We were certainly not disappointed.  By the way,  Cora loves the harness she chose.  Its a 'Joque' model from SpareParts.  Cora has found this particular harness to be very comfortable and she loves the adjustability.  Also, I think what's mounted in her harness is the 'Mistress'.  Indeed, its well named!