Fantasy Realized

I have known that I was attracted to the idea of being spanked by an authoritative woman since I was in grade school.  Over the years I have fantasized about many, many scenarios where I ended up getting a "Good, Hard Spanking".  Sadly, I missed my opportunity to experience a paddling from one of my female teachers in grade school, but it certainly remains as one of my favorite fantasies.

However, there are plenty others.  Lately, there has been some blog posts regarding getting 'caught' while viewing spanking related material on the Internet.  Ms. Julie covered this subject earlier this month and the current post from Underling's Humblings shows a very provocative picture of a woman catching her guy 'red handed'.

So, it should be no surprise that I spend time looking at these kinds of things on the Internet, too.  There certainly is a plethora of material and it seems that the volume of women-spanking-men pictures, stories and videos just keeps growing.  Some of it is quite good.

Many of the men who write about their Female Led Relationships indicated that they are forbidden to look at this stuff without permission.  Fortunately, Cora and I are quite open about viewing things on the net.  I am pretty much allowed to look at anything but often share some of the better things with Cora.  Included in the things I shared with her were the above posts from Ms. Julie and Underling.

As is usual, I rise earlier than Cora.  My usual process is to let our dogs outside, feed them and then catch up on my e-Mail.  Today was no exception.  However, I felt the need for a spanking from Cora.  An idea hatched.

In the past two days I have been engaged on making some more paddles in my shop.  I was fortunate in being able to secure a tracing of one of the small 'Spencer' paddles that Nu-West/Leda sold in the 1990's.  It appears in the same catalog of spanking implements that our favorite full sized Spencer paddle that I actually purchased (two, actually).  I have always regretted not purchasing one of the small ones, but now I have everything I need to replicate them.  I'll save the details for a later post.

So two days ago, I rough cut one of these paddles.  I drilled the holes in it and sanded it smooth enough that handling it would not result in a silver but it had yet to be given rounded edges, finish sanding and the application of shellac.

I brought it upstairs and handed it to Cora.  She immediately indicated that she liked it.  Alot!  So it should be no surprise that she wanted to take it for a 'test drive'.  Over her lap I went and I must say we both got carried away.  Cora seemed to get a thrill from paddling me with it and I found the feeling rather, well..... delicious!  She also tried it in the 'bend over the table' position and she even pulled out her full-sized Spencer paddle just to compare. 

Yesterday, I cut the rest of them out of the stock and proceeded with drilling all of them and rounding the edges.  One of them I smooth sanded.  It was complete except for the application of the finish.  Again, I shared it with Cora and she loved it even more.  She applied a quick 'test drive' but not nearly as long as the previous day.  More of a 'around the block' drive than a drive in the country.

My Fantasy

So back to this morning.  My plan was developing quite well.  I set up one of our red kitchen chairs so that it was available for Cora to sit down without moving things around.  I then set up one of our hairbrushes and the new small Spencer paddle in easy reach.  Every thing was ready.

Anticipating Being Put Over

Her Lap

Cora tends to rise about the same time every morning, so I set the final part of the plan.  I had 'stolen' one of her panties and had an erotic story on display on my laptop.  The laptop sits on our kitchen table and is only inches from where I had set up the kitchen chair in anticipation of Cora's arrival.  In addition to the story, I had a couple pictures of Cora displayed on the laptop too. (Hey, I find them rather erotic, too).

What Are You Doing!!!!????

Soon I heard Cora stirring and prepared myself.  "What are you doing?", she asked as she came down the stairway.  There wasn't really much of a reason to answer as it was quite obvious what I was doing.  She reviewed how things were set up.  She got the idea.  She grabbed my earlobe (Ms. Deirdre style) and pulled me the short distance to where the chair had been set up.  Soon I found myself over her lap.  She started with the hairbrush but soon switched to the new paddle.

On my, how that little paddle can set my bottom on fire.  Its wide enough (4 inches) to impact a rather large part of my bottom and after a number of swats I was feeling an intense sting and could tell my bottom's temperature was on the rise.  I am sure Cora was pleased with the shade of red she was producing with her paddling.

On an intellectual level, I have an interest with the results of our various spanking implements, especially since I have made many of them myself.  So I asked for lots of feedback from Cora from her 'test drives' of the previous days.  One thing I was wondering was how it worked on my 'sit-spot'.  She indicated that while over her lap on the couch, she didn't have much access to that part of my anatomy.  However, bent over the table, she could access it quite well, as my own experience confirmed.

OTK on the Couch

I was wondering how things would work while she was sitting on the kitchen chair with me bent over her lap. Turns out that she had plenty of access to my sit-spot and worked it over quite well.

Spanked on the Sit-Spot!

So, the result of our little session this morning was very satisfying to both of us.  Often Cora doesn't really wake up until after a coffee or two.  This morning, she had a rather nice injection of energy just after rising.  And I am sure that you can imagine my enjoyment of the session.  It was truly the fulfillment of one of my fantasies about getting 'caught' looking at spanking material on my computer.

Fantasy Fulfilled!

Real People

As has been said here before, we really thrive on the comments our readers leave.  This was especially true of the comments left on our last two post, including the extensive and sensitive comments left by Ms. Deirdre, Respecting Mistress and Alan.

Just this morning I found another comment that really touched us that was left by Dana Kane.  In part she said,
"Many of my playmates comment that they love your blog because the two of you are Real People. Thank you for being yourselves."

 

Real People!  Seeing those words really underlines one of the main reasons we write this blog.  We try to present ourselves as perhaps the couple next door who just happens to practice a Female Led Relationship lifestyle (and all the benefits to both of us it provides). 

So sometimes we have dinner at a local restaurant, attend staff meetings (well, maybe not anymore), take our girls for a walk along a local beach or preparing Cora for a 'I look like my dog' photo contest, we do lots of things that 'ordinary people do.  We just do it in the context of our FLR.

So thanks Ms. Dana.  Your comments really inspired us.  As do the comments from everyone.

A Stricter Cora? YES

Well, yesterday turned out to be something amazing.  Very amazing.

First I want to thank those of you who left comments regarding our previous post.  Its obvious that these came from the heart and I'll address some of them later.

As I outlined previously, our blog works as a part of our communication tools (but not the only communication tool).  Something I may not have shared is that before I publish a post, I have Cora read through it.  I don't post anything without her approval and this applies to the pictures, too.  After all most of you would probably agree that pictures of here are the best part of the blog.  But she has total editorial control of them.

So naturally I got Cora's attention between having her read Ms. Deirdre's posts and then my own.  Now, we approach life with a sense of humor and try to squeeze as much fun out of life as we can get away with.  Keep that in mind as I share yesterday's events with you.

Needless to say, I got spanked as a result of the yesterday's post.  But not just once.  Not just twice.  Not even three times.  I got spanked FOUR times and each and every one was good and hard.  Talk about 'be careful what you ask for!"  Of course I am not complaining.  On the contrary.  Indeed, I think it was between the second and third spanking that Cora said, "You sure have created a Monster."  I replied, "Dear, I don't think of that way.  Its more the Strict Cora has been released and is now coming out to play."

And play, she certainly did.  My first encounter with Cora's spanking inspiration came in our bedroom.  This was after publishing yesterday's post while we were preparing to go 'out and about'.  "Over the Bed!", she instructed.  "So you don't think I spank you enough!"  Naturally I complied and as I wasn't dressed yet, my bare bottom was at her disposal.  And dispose of it she did.

Cora pulled four of her favorite items from her 'Bedroom Rack', including her Ferule, small paddle, SMTR paddle and one of our Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes.  She went through each one and even used some of them more than once.

Its interesting that this spanking probably induced more pain into my bottom that the others.  Perhaps its because I haven't been spanked much lately.  However, I think that even though she set my bottom on fire, she did hold back a bit.  But, sitting in the driver's seat later certainly reminded me that I had been spanked.

Our first stop was a Pet Shop.  Cora had a coupon for dog food and it turned out it was on sale, too.  We decided to buy two bags but these are rather large and two required the use of a cart.  I fetched the cart and loaded up two bags.  Meanwhile, Cora was checking out the dog treat section and was bent over providing me with a rather delicious view of her Derriere.  Now, I happen to think that Cora's Derriere is one of her best 'assets', especially when she is wearing one of her girdles, and there are plenty of pix that have been posted here that prove my point. 

Well, the temptation was just too great.  I headed towards Cora with the cart with the intent of nudging the seat of her jeans just a little.  What I didn't realize is that the pile of dog food had hidden the bottom part of the cart from my view.  The result was that not only did the cart nudge her Derriere but the bottom part of the cart also came into contact with her ankle.  Naturally, Cora took great exception to my action and informed me that in no uncertain terms that she would "take care of me later".  I almost expected Cora to employ Ms. Deirdre's technique of ear pulling and spank me right there.

It turns out that my last check (yes, I still use old fashioned checks) was used to pay for the dog food.  That required a return home as I needed to write another one later.  Pulling up to our house, Cora rolled down her window in anticipation of me making a short trip into the house to get more checks.  I asked her to come inside with me.

After obtaining another book of checks, I pulled the Spencer Paddle from the rack in our kitchen area and handed it to Cora.  I think twenty-five should take care of it.  "I'll be the one who decides that" she replied.  Of course, who am I to dispute her decision.  So I bent over our table ready to 'pay' for my misbehaviour at the pet store. 

The Spencer Paddle has a characteristic whistle that you can hear just before it impacts its target.  That is if its swung hard enough.  Well I heard the whistle, then 'WHAM'.  I could tell that Cora was definitely stepping up to her new, stricter persona.  And even though I was not bare bottomed, the paddle was definitely doing its job.  Later Cora admitted that she was paddling me harder as she wanted me to feel it even though dressed. 

And feel it, I did.  After the application of 30 swats I certainly felt well paddled.  I imagined it must be like getting a paddling in school from the Female Principal, regretfully, something that never happened to me.

Taking a deep breath I got up and Cora replaced the Spencer Paddle back on Her Rack.  I could tell by the sly smile on her face that she felt pretty good about paddling me good and hard.  Her stricter side coming out!

We returned to the car and finished our shopping excursion, enjoying each other's company and talking about some of the events of the day including the blog post and the two spankings.  Once home, I checked my bottom in one of our mirrors and found that Cora had turned my 'sit-spot' a bright cherry red.  And she had done an amazing job of concentrating her paddle swats in one area.  I was still feeling the effects.

Later in the evening while watching TV, Cora noticed that there was something funny with one of our small fans.  A discussion about the merits of the fan ensued and we found ourselves on opposite sides of why the fan was malfunctioning.  Apparently Cora decided to exercise her new-found strength and suddenly announced, "Get over my lap; you are going to get a spanking!"  This caught me by surprise as I had already been spanked twice before. 

However, who am I do disagree, so over I went.  I wasn't wearing much so it didn't take a large effort for her to bare my bottom.  We were positioned on our couch where of her Nu-West/Leda hairbrushes hangs conveniently close to where Cora was sitting.  She grabbed it and put it to work.

She did alternate between her hand and the hairbrush.  By the way, Cora's hand spankings are getting very effective and have an impact close to that of her hairbrushes.  So I just took a deep breath and tried to relax and endure her third spanking (its a technique that I have found works quite well when I am getting a rather extensive spanking).  Across from our couch are some display cabinets that have glass fronts.  I could see the image of Cora reflected in the glass.  What I saw was Cora raising her hairbrush high over her head.  She was really delivering a hard spanking with her hairbrush.  And it seemed to go on for a long, long time.

By now, I can't remember why I was spanked the fourth time but it was much like the third one.  "Over my lap" followed by another round with her hairbrush.  Not as long as the third one but long enough.

Afterwards I asked how she felt and if she felt sexually aroused.  "I feel 'giddy'; its sort of a spiritual arousal", she replied.  I told her that I definitely felt aroused and asked her if she was OK with that.  "Of course", she replied then followed up that it made her feel proud when I became aroused from her spankings.  However, later that night, I found that her wetness couldn't hide the fact that she, too was aroused.  I very much enjoyed pleasuring her.

This morning we are both basking in the afterglow of the previous day.  Indeed there is a definite 'glow' still radiating from my bottom.  I shared the wonderful comments that some of you left on yesterday's post, with Cora as I was serving her morning coffee.  One of the themes in the comments was whether we should be discussing the nature of our Female Led Relationship privately or openly.  Well, there are some things that we do keep private and may or may not share them at a later time.

However, we find that sharing aspects of our relationship such as was covered in yesterday's and today's posts seems to enhance our relationship.  And we hope it opens dialog between couples that read our blog.  Cora gets the first read of almost everything that is posted with total veto power, should she decide to exercise it.  And I find that often I can provide a much clearer message in my writing than in verbal expression.  Plus I have the ability to edit what I write so that its just what I want to say.  Often that becomes a real luxury.

So thanks, Ms. Deidre, Ron, Respecting Mistress and Alan.  We hope the dialog will continue as the subject of the 'Strictness' seems to be something happening to several of us at the same time.  And as our various relationships experience their normal ebbs and flows, I am sure that its something that will be ongoing.

In the meantime, its delightful to see the Glow in Cora's smile!

A Stricter Cora?

Ms. Deirdre of the 'Spanking My Husband' blog just posted something that I found very thought provoking:  Turning Into A Stricter Wife. (Note: Ms. Deirdre has just posted a follow up to this post).

In her post she indicated that both she and her husband, Evan have been very happy in their marriage but that Ms. Deirdre didn't feel as 'Deirdre-Led' as she would have liked over the past few years.  I won't quote her entire post but the bottom line is that she opened up a dialog with her husband.

Communication:  What a Concept!

What she found is that Evan wanted her to be more 'strict' with him and take the leadership role more in their relationship.  Oh, how I identified with them.  Naturally, I shared her post with Cora and mentioned that I thought our relationship is in a similar state. 

A couple of posts ago (August 14, to be exact) I mentioned that I expected Cora was going to deliver a rather intense paddling for my misbehaviour.  Well, that didn't happen.  She did give me an OTK spanking a couple of days ago for something I did but while it did turn my bottom red, it wasn't as intense as I have been feeling the need for. 

So while I feel the relationship between Cora and I keeps getting better than ever, I also feel that its not as 'Cora-Led' as I would like.  I would love her stricter side to come out and believe me, I know there are times I irritate her.  I guess I have to admit, in some cases I may have provoked her to see what she would really do. 

I know that if Cora stepped up her role as my disciplinarian we would both benefit.  Sure, I would suffer a sore bottom more often but I know its something that I need in my life.  I am very attracted to the Dominant Woman in Cora, however she seems to be repressing her inner Domme, at this time.  And I know that she always feels better after delivering a good spanking.  Both as a reduction of stress and perhaps a bit of sexual energy, too.  I know I experience both of these affects.

It is interesting that just this morning I have shared several e-Mails with another husband who has been wanting his wife to become more strict.  I am guessing there are lots of us who are in the same position. 

So how do we accomplish getting our Ladies to be more strict?  Well, in my case, this blog is a major communication tool.  Cora will be reading it and I am sure it will generate lots of dialog between us.  And I have already had her read Ms. Deidre's post. 

An Open Request to the 'Tumblr' World

Yes, its been a while since we have posted.  Not much spanking going on.  Instead, we have been working on our yard.  Lots of projects to finish before the onset of the rains.  So, since I have been working hard, Cora has not found reasons to administer her 'famous' discipline.  I am sure there will be more to come and things to share in the future.

In the meantime, we have noticed something rather new in the world of the Internet:  Tumblr.  It appears that Tumblr is mostly a picture sharing system and those who have opened sites seem to pass pictures back and forth.  Lots!

Cora and I have been rather proud of the photos we share with you, here on our blog.  In fact most of the photos that appear are ones that have been taken by us. 

Now we are not naive about posting pictures on the Internet.  We know that once something is posted it belongs to the 'Universe'.  So, its no surprise to see our pictures appear in all kinds of places.  In fact, its rather flattering to see our pictures next to some of the more famous dominant women, some of who are true professionals.

Recently, we have been adding 'watermarks' to our pictures.  Not so much to prevent people from posting them, but so that we get the credit for the picture.  We would like you to know the source of our picture if you see it used elsewhere.  And we keep the watermark outside of the main subject area instead of large letters in the middle of the picture, which we find to be irritating.

So its rather disappointing when someone crops out our watermark.  Here is an example of the original picture that has appeared on Tumbler:

This picture goes back to 2009 and was taken with my first serious digital camera and is still one of my favorite pictures of Cora.  We have enhanced the picture to bring out the highlights.  Our watermark is in the lower left corner and I don't believe it detracts from the overall image of Cora holding her hairbrush.

Below is an image I found on a Tumblr site:

As you can see, its been cropped and the watermark no longer appears.  And terrible change in color balance speaks for itself.

Like I mentioned before, we have no expectation of what happens to our pictures once we post them.  But I would ask those who find them interesting enough to re-post to PLEASE leave the watermark in the picture.

FLR Blogs - Old and New

A little over a month ago James' blog, 'SpankedMale' mentioned a new FLR blog, 'Strict Mia and Blazingbottom's Spanking Blog'.  Naturally I checked it out.

What I found was a wonderful new blog that described a couple who are relatively new to the scene. In their early posts they describe their relationship as one in which the fire had gone out.  Then they introduced the Female Led Relationship style along with spankings, and it appears everything changed.  For the better.

In one of their early posts, 'The power of being in control and the satisfaction of a compliant husband!', Ms. Mia describes many of the benefits she received from adopting a Female Led Relationship:

"1. I could express my feelings.

2. I could vent my frustration.

3. I could discipline his bad behavior.

4. His submission made me love him and forgive him.

5. It clears junk and lets us start a new slate.

6. It lets me offer him nurturing love with aftercare.

7. It releases my anxiety.

8. It makes him mindful of messing up.

9. He is accountable to me.

10. He is very loving to me now in every way."

Indeed, Ms. Mia has very eloquently expressed the benefits that a woman can gain from a FLR.  The very benefits that other men have tried to use in getting their wives convinced of engaging in their own FLR.  Some with success, some without. 

I won't re-tell Ms. Mia's and BlazingBottom's story as their blog does a really great job of describing their relationship.  But I would recommend a look at their blog (the link is in the 'Blogs We Follow' section).  They do their own photography and the pictures speak for themselves.

Ms. Mia and Cora seem to have several things in common.  Pictured above is Cora holding her 'Bottom Burner', which is similar to one of Ms. Mia's.  And like Cora, Ms. Mia also has an extensive 'rack' of her spanking tools.  In her case its attached to the inside of one of their closet doors.

And, in a recent post, Ms. Mia refers to her 'Purse Paddle'. Funny, but a while back I made a Purse Paddle for Cora. Its made out of stock left over from her PurpleHeart Paddle.  Its only 8 inches long but has a similar impact as one of her larger hairbrushes.  I can personally testify to its effectiveness.  And Cora loves to pull it out of her purse to show it off to other women.

One of the blogs that inspired us to enter the blog-o-sphere was 'Spanking My Husband' hosted by Ms. Deirdre and Evan.  They hadn't posted for almost a year.  But they're back now and have posted several times in the last few days. Its really great to see Evan's bottom reddened by Ms. Deirdre's paddles and we look forward to seeing more.

And finally, James (SpankedMale blog) has perfected getting his videos posted on his blog.  I know how difficult it is to figure out all the details to get a video posted from my own experience.  James and I have corresponded several times about the process and he didn't give up.  The result is a video that can be accessed from his blog.  If you check it out, don't forget to click the 'HD' button as the High Definition version is awesome.  It looks great even in full screen.  And it starts out with a very sexy view of his wife's lap including a great view of her stocking tops.  Of course you know of my love for that kind of view.

As for us, well Sunday evening I exhibited a bit of bad behavior.  I was working on a computer project and became rather frustrated.  I guess I sort of stormed off in a rage and Cora took exception.  Probably rightly so.  She confronted me a little later and told me that my attitude was unacceptable and that Monday morning would find me at the mercy of her discipline.  Well, its Tuesday and I am wondering if she forgot.  Probably not.  I am guessing that the scene below will be repeated.  Soon.

Fun and Games at the Grocery Store

Well, its been a while since we have posted.  Not going to make excuses but summertime things have been happening.  We even represented a club we belong to in a local parade.  Cora (now the Parade Queen she has always wanted to be) rode the back deck of our '93 Corvette and attracted lots of attention rockin' out wearing a short, tight skirt.  It was really a fun time but took quite a bit of time and effort getting things ready.

Saturday, we went shopping at our local grocery store.  As most of you know, Cora and I love to have fun while doing these kinds of 'mundane' things and that day was no exception.

So, while in one of the aisles, Cora was concentrating on an item and I was waiting to push the cart to her location.  There was another woman also in the aisle and I politely passed by her, trying not to interfere with her.  On my right were some pet items.  Included on the shelf were some of those 'squeaker' toys.  And I couldn't resist.

I grabbed one of them and gave it a couple of squeezes.  The result was two rather loud squeaks.  Louder that even I expected.  Both Cora and the other woman let out a shriek and jumped. 

Now I had no intent to startle anyone but that's what happened.  From the look on Cora's face, I know I was in a bit of trouble.  "I'll take care of him later", she said to the other woman, who fired back a look of knowing appreciation.  I think she knew I would be spanked.

And spanked I was.  Not immediately but this morning.  (Cora often seems to like to put off her 'duties' until she is totally prepared to administer a dose of her discipline to me.)  I had served her morning coffee as the 'Bare Bottomed Barista' and as Ms. Julie commented on the previous post, "Leaving a bare bottom out in the open in front of a domme woman? Well that's like honey to bees, and they both sting!"  So true, Ms. Julie, so true.

A few minutes later, Cora beckoned me to where she was sitting and took me over her lap.  She had already grabbed her handy hairbrush and then began my punishment.  It was much like the spankings Cora has given me while in that position, so I won't go into the details.

Partway through my spanking, I asked her, "Is this for what happened at the grocery store last Saturday?"  Cora responded, "Yes and for other things too!"  We both laughed and Cora continued spanking me.

Afterwards, I checked myself out in our full length mirror.  I can assure you that Cora had spanked me quite thoroughly.  But then you already knew that.