FLR Blogs - Old and New

A little over a month ago James' blog, 'SpankedMale' mentioned a new FLR blog, 'Strict Mia and Blazingbottom's Spanking Blog'.  Naturally I checked it out.

What I found was a wonderful new blog that described a couple who are relatively new to the scene. In their early posts they describe their relationship as one in which the fire had gone out.  Then they introduced the Female Led Relationship style along with spankings, and it appears everything changed.  For the better.

In one of their early posts, 'The power of being in control and the satisfaction of a compliant husband!', Ms. Mia describes many of the benefits she received from adopting a Female Led Relationship:

"1. I could express my feelings.

2. I could vent my frustration.

3. I could discipline his bad behavior.

4. His submission made me love him and forgive him.

5. It clears junk and lets us start a new slate.

6. It lets me offer him nurturing love with aftercare.

7. It releases my anxiety.

8. It makes him mindful of messing up.

9. He is accountable to me.

10. He is very loving to me now in every way."

Indeed, Ms. Mia has very eloquently expressed the benefits that a woman can gain from a FLR.  The very benefits that other men have tried to use in getting their wives convinced of engaging in their own FLR.  Some with success, some without. 

I won't re-tell Ms. Mia's and BlazingBottom's story as their blog does a really great job of describing their relationship.  But I would recommend a look at their blog (the link is in the 'Blogs We Follow' section).  They do their own photography and the pictures speak for themselves.

Ms. Mia and Cora seem to have several things in common.  Pictured above is Cora holding her 'Bottom Burner', which is similar to one of Ms. Mia's.  And like Cora, Ms. Mia also has an extensive 'rack' of her spanking tools.  In her case its attached to the inside of one of their closet doors.

And, in a recent post, Ms. Mia refers to her 'Purse Paddle'. Funny, but a while back I made a Purse Paddle for Cora. Its made out of stock left over from her PurpleHeart Paddle.  Its only 8 inches long but has a similar impact as one of her larger hairbrushes.  I can personally testify to its effectiveness.  And Cora loves to pull it out of her purse to show it off to other women.

One of the blogs that inspired us to enter the blog-o-sphere was 'Spanking My Husband' hosted by Ms. Deirdre and Evan.  They hadn't posted for almost a year.  But they're back now and have posted several times in the last few days. Its really great to see Evan's bottom reddened by Ms. Deirdre's paddles and we look forward to seeing more.

And finally, James (SpankedMale blog) has perfected getting his videos posted on his blog.  I know how difficult it is to figure out all the details to get a video posted from my own experience.  James and I have corresponded several times about the process and he didn't give up.  The result is a video that can be accessed from his blog.  If you check it out, don't forget to click the 'HD' button as the High Definition version is awesome.  It looks great even in full screen.  And it starts out with a very sexy view of his wife's lap including a great view of her stocking tops.  Of course you know of my love for that kind of view.

As for us, well Sunday evening I exhibited a bit of bad behavior.  I was working on a computer project and became rather frustrated.  I guess I sort of stormed off in a rage and Cora took exception.  Probably rightly so.  She confronted me a little later and told me that my attitude was unacceptable and that Monday morning would find me at the mercy of her discipline.  Well, its Tuesday and I am wondering if she forgot.  Probably not.  I am guessing that the scene below will be repeated.  Soon.

Fun and Games at the Grocery Store

Well, its been a while since we have posted.  Not going to make excuses but summertime things have been happening.  We even represented a club we belong to in a local parade.  Cora (now the Parade Queen she has always wanted to be) rode the back deck of our '93 Corvette and attracted lots of attention rockin' out wearing a short, tight skirt.  It was really a fun time but took quite a bit of time and effort getting things ready.

Saturday, we went shopping at our local grocery store.  As most of you know, Cora and I love to have fun while doing these kinds of 'mundane' things and that day was no exception.

So, while in one of the aisles, Cora was concentrating on an item and I was waiting to push the cart to her location.  There was another woman also in the aisle and I politely passed by her, trying not to interfere with her.  On my right were some pet items.  Included on the shelf were some of those 'squeaker' toys.  And I couldn't resist.

I grabbed one of them and gave it a couple of squeezes.  The result was two rather loud squeaks.  Louder that even I expected.  Both Cora and the other woman let out a shriek and jumped. 

Now I had no intent to startle anyone but that's what happened.  From the look on Cora's face, I know I was in a bit of trouble.  "I'll take care of him later", she said to the other woman, who fired back a look of knowing appreciation.  I think she knew I would be spanked.

And spanked I was.  Not immediately but this morning.  (Cora often seems to like to put off her 'duties' until she is totally prepared to administer a dose of her discipline to me.)  I had served her morning coffee as the 'Bare Bottomed Barista' and as Ms. Julie commented on the previous post, "Leaving a bare bottom out in the open in front of a domme woman? Well that's like honey to bees, and they both sting!"  So true, Ms. Julie, so true.

A few minutes later, Cora beckoned me to where she was sitting and took me over her lap.  She had already grabbed her handy hairbrush and then began my punishment.  It was much like the spankings Cora has given me while in that position, so I won't go into the details.

Partway through my spanking, I asked her, "Is this for what happened at the grocery store last Saturday?"  Cora responded, "Yes and for other things too!"  We both laughed and Cora continued spanking me.

Afterwards, I checked myself out in our full length mirror.  I can assure you that Cora had spanked me quite thoroughly.  But then you already knew that.

Bare Bottomed Barista - Revisited

Summer has finally arrived in Seattle and while the rest of the continent has been baking with the affects of global warming, there hasn't been much warming here - both weather and my bottom.

Well that changed, today.  The weather is expected to top 80 (that's too hot for a native of the PNW) and I am sitting rather uncomfortably, due to Cora warming my own bottom.

Last February we described how I prepare coffee drinks for Cora in the morning.  This is a daily ritual and today was no exception.  However due to it already being warm, I put on my 'barista' apron with nothing underneath.  The result is my bottom cheeks are quite on display. 

While in the process of making Cora's coffee, she came up behind me and said, "I can't resist that!" and gave me a couple of swats on my exposed bare bottom.  Nothing too hard and it was just her palm.  However it did leave me with a slight 'glow' and definitely wanting more.

So, after Cora had consumed most of her coffee, I decided to plop myself over her lap.  Keep in mind I was still wearing just my apron and my bare bottom was nicely position for Cora to do as she wanted. 

Naturally, she spanked me.  First with just her hand, then she reached for her hairbrush (now conveniently placed so that she can reach it without getting up) and proceeded to 'lay it on'.  The result:  Something similar to last February's 'Bare Bottomed Barista' adventure.

Forecast for Today:  Warm and getting warmer!

A Post Script:

Well after getting my bottom nicely reddened by Cora earlier this morning, she sent me to the grocery store for a couple of items.  Turns out she had repeated herself about the brand of the Barbeque sauce I was to include in my shopping.  In fact it was me who turned her onto this brand which we have been using for quite some time.

Well, she took issue to my reply and soon I found myself bent over our kitchen table.  Cora then grabbed her Spencer Paddle off the rack and gave me about two dozen very hard swats.  Then off I went with a re-spanked bottom that by now was really feeling the affects of Cora's Spencer paddle.

Funny thing, the guy who was at the checkstand was named 'Spencer'.

Cora, the Cover Girl

If you have been reading our blog for a while, you know how Cora loves wearing her Girdles and PantyGirdles.  It was me who introduced her to wearing them (re-introduced, actually; she did wear them in her younger years) and she has found wearing them to be quite empowering and had been covered in detail in previous posts.

In addition to this blog, we participate in several Yahoo Groups that cater to those of us who find an attraction to Girdles and PantyGirdles.  In fact the name of the group where we regularly post pictures of Cora modeling her lingerie is called "Girdles_and_PantyGirdles".  In addition to this group there is a back-up group called "Girdles_and_PantyGirdles_More".  The first group has had a designated Cover Girl for quite some time but the Moderator just asked us if Cora would like to be the Cover Girl for the backup group.

Of course, we said, "Yes".  The picture above is the one that they used for her first Cover Girl pose and I assume that others will be cycled at later times.  Needless to say both Cora and I are very excited with this honor.  Naturally we thought we'd share the news with our blog readers as I know there are a number of followers here that find a fascination and attraction to Cora (and other Ladies) wearing her Girdles.

If you would like to explore these Yahoo Groups, the URL's are:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Girdles_and_PantyGirdles/?yguid=294217277
and:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Girdles_And_Pantygirdles_More/?yguid=294217277

The moderator has requested that if you want to participate, join both groups but limit comments and postings to the main group.  We will continue to post pix of Cora, similar to those included in this post in the main group.

Can a Woman Have Too Many Hairbrushes

Its a rhetorical question, of course.  Sort of like 'Can a Woman Have Too Many Pairs of Shoes?'  (Thankfully, Cora has lots of shoes, too, especially those sexy high heels.)

And while Cora probably has many more pairs of shoes than hairbrushes, she does have a sufficient quantity of them.  Oh, and I am not speaking of the kind of hairbrushes she uses on her hair.  She has lots of them too, in all kinds of funny shapes and sizes. 

I know you are familiar with 'Cora's Rack' and one of her favorite Nu-West Leda hairbrushes hangs, ready to be called upon when I am in need of her discipline.  Another one hangs on the 'Bedroom Rack' along with a another hairbrush (bathbrush actually) and a recent addition of her white, Bakelite hairbrush, added after the picture below was taken.

Well, lately Cora has taken to spank me with her hairbrush in our living room where she spends much of her day, but a distance away from her racks.  So a spontaneous spanking is less likely.  Or at least was.

I pointed out that there is an identical Nu-West hairbrush somewhere in the house.  Recently Nu-West announced that they had discovered a couple of boxes of hairbrushes in their warehouse and offered them for sale.  I purchased a pair of them as I wanted to have two identical ones on hand in the event that a 'double lap' spanking could be arranged.  You never know when Cora might call upon one of her girlfriends to 'assist'.  So far this has happened once but you never know when the opportunity may present itself.

Cora mentioned that the other hairbrush was in one of her dresser drawers.  She retrieved it and we took it into the living room.  Cora has an end table next to the couch, where she sits.  Naturally its the 'best seat in the house'.  Cora looked at the end table and thought that one of those suction-cup hooks might work to hang the hairbrush from.  So she found one (she keeps all kinds of handy things like that) and applied it to the end table.  It held.  Well, at least for a while.  Soon we found the hairbrush on the floor along with the suction-cup hook.

So, I looked at the end table to see if there were other options.  I wanted to make sure that if Cora wanted to use her hairbrush, it would be handy.

What I found looking at the end table were holes in two of the top corners.  I am guessing they were there to combine the end table with something.  We have had these end tables in our house since Cora moved them from her Condo about 6 years ago and never noticed the holes.

I measured the holes and found them to be about 7/16 inch in diameter.  Key word is 'about'.  They weren't exactly 7/16 inch.  So I thought I could find some 1/2 inch dowel and sand it to fit.

However, Cora has a really good eye for things.  She looked at the hole and exclaimed, "I know what will work". 

Cora keeps a number of those foam paint brushes around the house.  Like the one in the picture above.  She uses them to remove lint and stuff from her clothing.  With three dogs and a cat in the house, we find ourselves dealing with unattached fur all the time.

She found one of these foam paintbrushes that she thought would work, inserted it into the hole and found it to be a perfect fit.  And I do mean perfect.  It was snug enough that it wouldn't fall out, but not so snug that you couldn't remove it.  Cora then immediately snapped off the brush and handed me the handle.  "Here, cut it down to size!", she instructed.

Off to the shop I went.  The hole was about 1 inch deep and she wanted a little more than an inch upon which to hang her hairbrush.  Now, you might remember that I have done woodworking before, making paddles for Cora and her ubiquitous 'Rack'.  So it would be easy to accommodate Cora's wishes.  First I chucked up the handle into my drill press and turned it on.  First I marked off where I wanted to cut it off, a little over 2 inches from the end.  Next I found one of my files and proceeded to cut a notch about 1/4 inch from the end.  The width of the file seemed just right to carve a notch for the leather strap to fit.  Finally, I grabbed one of my small modeling saws (razor saw, to be specific) and while the handle was still rotating in the drill press, made a saw cut at the appropriate location.  It made a nice clean cut.

I returned to the living room, and handed it to Cora.  She looked at the notch and said, "Wow, that will work perfect.  How did you come up with that idea?"  I replied that I just did. 

Cora then inserted the peg into the hole in the end table and hung her hairbrush on it.  That was about a week ago.

Yesterday, Cora and I would out to the Home Improvement store to get some things we needed around the house.  Cora and I sometimes get into little 'jousts' with our words;  all in the spirit of fun.  We also love to have fun with the store clerks and with Cora's personality, often they join in on the fun.

So it was no surprise that a couple of times Cora promised that she would 'deal' with me for making a 'cute' remark.  This happened several times as we were both in good form, both of us making cute remarks.

After we got home and took care of putting things away, as Cora made herself comfortable on the couch, I plopped myself over her lap.  She laughed and reached for her hairbrush.  She was able to reach it easily even though her lap was full of a naughty bottom facing her.  She started right in with her hairbrush.  The spanking lasted for several minutes and I was definitely feeling the heat.  It was delightful!

When she was finished, I asked her if she felt better.  "Much better", she said.  I replied, "Well then I guess your hairbrush hanger is working quite well".

So, I am guessing that scenes like the one above will be happening more often.  That's OK with me.  One of the themes that seems to be running on the Yahoo Group: 'Spanked_by_their_Wives' is that many of the guys are complaining of not getting spanked enough.  I guess I sort of include myself in that group too.  But now, when Cora feels like applying her hairbrush, all she needs to do is tell me,  "Over my Lap!"  Or in case I feel like I am in need of one of her spankings, all I will need to do is plop myself over her lap.  Which now leaves us with the following question:

Can a Guy Have Too Many Spankings???

Cora's New 'Subtract' Girdle

If you have been reading our blog even for a short time, you know that I have a fascination for women wearing girdles and specifically PantyGirdles.  Its something that was probably caused by my environment while growing up in the late 1950's, and early 1960's.  It was a time when most women wouldn't go 'out and about' without putting one on and most women who worked (like my own mother) wore them daily.  Of course the other part of the equations was the stockings they wore.  This was before the invention of pantyhose and the stockings were attached to the girdles with those delightful garters.  The result was the girdle held up the stockings and the stockings held down the girdle.  Perfect equilibrium!

I can't remember what grade I was in but it must have been about the 6th or 7th grade.  Some group sponsored 'sock hops' at the local community center.  Someone played records (this was before we called them DJ's!) and most of us just lined the dance floor area waiting for someone else to be the  brave souls and get on the floor and actually dance.  So, there was always a group standing one or two deep along the dance floor and if you wanted to move around, you walked behind the group lining the floor.  It was during one of my wanderings that my hand accidentally (well, the first time it really was accidental!) brushed up against the Derriere of one of my female classmates.  My hand literally bounced off the seat of her skirt.  That was the first time I realized that some of the girls in my class were starting to wear girdles.  Oh My!  I still remember that erotic incident as clearly as if it happened yesterday.

Fortunately, it was easy for me to introduce (well, re-introduce actually) Cora to wearing girdles.  She now has quite a closet full of them and many pictures posted here on the blog show her dressed accordingly. 

Both Cora and I are on the lookout for new acquisitions to her Girdle drawer and it seems like they are making a come-back as they seem to show up in catalogs all the time.  The third pic in the previous post and all the pix from the post before that show Cora wearing one of her newest PantyGirdles.  Well, in my own research, I found a site that sells older girdles.  One caught my attention.  Its a Girdle called 'Subtract'.  Its what is known as a Long Legged PantyGirdle (LLPG), and comes with 6 garters to hold up stockings.  I corresponded with the site owner and made arrangements to purchase it.  It would be a surprise for Cora.

Yesterday, the postman handed me a small package and from the return address I knew what it was.  I returned to the house and opened it up.  I then presented the unfolded girdle to Cora.  Of course she smiled and took it from me.  She inspected it and I could tell she was thinking.

Later she tried it on and remarked how comfortable it felt.  I did my own inspection and found it to be quite tight on her.  It definitely reminded me of my grade school classmate and how tight her girdle was on her.

We had plans to do some shopping and much to my surprise and delight, Cora decided to keep wearing her new girdle.  She applied the appropriate stockings.  She decided on some tight light-blue jeans, a white top and white 4 inch heels.  And if you looked close, you could even see the outline of the garters holding up her stockings.  Wow.  I won't hesitate to admit that she had my attention and I was definitely getting aroused.

Its amazing to watch Cora enter a room or store and see that she has captured every one's attention.  This is especially evident when she is wearing her girdles, stockings and heels and yesterday was no different.  Everywhere we went, she was turning heads and people were engaging with her.  When Cora wears girdles, her power level increases several orders of magnitude.  But its not an intimidating kind of power.  Instead its power that seems to magnetically attract people, as if they want to be part of the energy and join in on the 'party'.  I laugh when I remind Cora of how good she feels when she puts on her girdles even though she may be reluctant at first.  Its like this barrier that she has to defeat in order to get to where it feels good.

When we returned home I was promised an opportunity to take some pictures.  We belong to a Yahoo Group that features women wearing girdles.  Its called 'Girdles_and_PantyGirdles' in case you are interested.  In fact Cora may become one of their 'cover girls', something we are very excited about.  The pictures on this post are from the set we took yesterday.

Once the camera was put away, I found myself in a 'mood'.  I asked Cora if she would apply some of her paddles to me.  Happily, she replied, "Of course!  Why don't you bend over the table and I will spank you."  Cora probably used half of her rack on me and I found myself in a very ecstatic place, with endorphins flowing freely (and the evidence still shows this morning).  As Cora was applying various paddles to my backside, I looked back at the Goddess form that was the source of the flames in my rear.  The girdle was sculpting her in curves that was a very erotic image.  And watching her hips move as she was applying her paddles, was like poetry in motion.  She must have been evoking the Goddess, Aphrodite.

It was a very special day for both of us.  One that I think both of us didn't want to end.

Reflections

The two previous posts described a situation where Cora spanked me because she thought my behaviour was inappropriate.  In fact in both cases she was a bit angry at me and while I suggest that we need to be careful when spanking while angry, in this case it resulted in Cora letting go and delivering one of her most 'effective' spankings. 

Yes, it was painful for me but then (as is said so many times), a spanking is supposed to hurt if its effective. Last weeks two spankings resulted in both Cora and I in feeling really good about what had happened. Looking back, I know that I crossed lines and deserved 'good, hard spankings'. Cora felt that she had expressed herself in delivering them and that she had provided consequences for my misbehavior. And most importantly the air had been cleared and we both had that magickal opportunity to 'blow off some steam'. 

And speaking of blowing off steam, just last night Cora was getting irritated from something we were watching on TV.  This was totally not something I did.  Really!  However, I soon found myself bent over and Cora applied about two dozen swats from two of her paddles.  Later she shared with me, "I sure felt better after paddling you!"  I have to admit that my part in making her feel better made me feel better too.  Even with a glow in my bottom.  Hey, I have admitted before I like being spanked by Cora.

And today, Cora decided to apply a hook to the table that sits close to where she sits in our living room where we spend much of our time during the day.  She now has one of her hairbrushes within reach for any time she decides she needs it.

With all of the progress Cora was making in taking on her role in our Female Led Relationship, I thought back to the last time Cora had reverted to her 'old ways' of dealing with a misbehaving partner - The (dreaded) Silent Treatment.  I looked back at our blog posts and found the description of that event on July 2, 2010. 

Wow, almost two years ago!  Since then Cora has dealt with my behaviour through our disciplinary process.  She has really stuck with it and has not deviated.  We are most happy with the results and while I sometimes pay the price with a sore bottom for a few days, its so much better than the alternative.

So I couldn't help but reflect even further back in time.  Long ago the idea of being with a partner who wouldn't hesitate to spank me was a total fantasy.  And while previous partners have engaged in my spanking fantasies, no one has fulfilled my desire (need?) to be spanked by a strong, authoritative (and yes, attractive) woman like Ms. Cora. 

And if my most recent spankings are an indicator, it just keeps getting better and better.  Cora seems to be 'holding back' less and less as she realizes that the naughty, male backside can take a very hard spanking. She demonstrated that fact by blistering me twice in a row and only a few days apart.  And for me the cathartic feeling both before, during and after a thorough spanking is almost indescribable.

I think if you asked her, she would tell you that she had no idea what she was getting into when we started our relationship about 5-1/2 years ago.

"You want me to spank you???"

Well now, I think she would also tell you that there is no way she would go back.  She now knows the benefits of being the disciplinarian in our relationship along with the benefits of being with a man who loves to submit to her. 

And what a gift she has given to me:  To love me enough to apply discipline when I want and/or need it.